Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part TWELVE

[lou33]

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why would you bin off gymboy before asking about it?

he may well just have been checking mail or hiding a profile or something, talk to him before you dump him

hopefully. have a v heavy heart today setting out to work.

typical, I turn my phone off after saying we won't talk and get a message of 'night night sweet dreams hunny. x x'

i am someone who cant keep my mouth shut when i have something to say

i would be inclined to tell him he knew you had a child from the off, so if he cant handle it then he may as well forget about it, as he knew what the score was and that is not going to change

i couldnt be arsed with the faffing about

i spoke to lb early this morning, it sounded like he had a heavy sat night/sunday morning

he has told me to see a doctor today as he doesnt like the sound of whats going on with my back, i had already planned to go as you know

anyway i have an appointment in an hour, so will update you guys and him when i get back

ds1 is off sick with a cough and sore throat and a bit of a temperature as well

fingers crossed this is gone by friday please

Jeez SB think I would be telling him to sling his hook.

you have a child not an alien!!

Lou - hope gp can help

sorry my response not helpful - I just get pissed off with pernickety men who have issues with children.

Was reading something yesterday re men who hestitate/change mind about having dcs. The women wait and sometimes its too late. Happened to a good friend of mine - he finally decided to go ahead, she got pg, miscarried then got breast cancer so unable to have dcs. Tragic!!

belle - am i reading this right... he's now saying he's not sure he wants to be with you because of ds... and needs time to work it thru if he thinks you and ds are worth it?????

if this is the case... you should be thinking is he worth you!!!.... thats appaling behaviour i'm afraid... no matter how nice he is, or how much you like him.... truly appaling to leave you hanging like this.... and selfish of him to want to continue chatting as normal and meeting as normal even though he's dropped this bombshell on you.

yep is about the size of it - have left phone at home today it's doing my head in tbh. He knew about DS, on one hand I do believe he needs to matuire on the other i'm thinkng I don't want to wait around & see.

do hope you haven't replied SB
scl that's truly tragic and yes i have absolutely no time for dithering grr..
..esp.when dc/s concerned
lou keep us updated

belle - ok... dont want you thinking i am being too harsh... but he's treating you very poorly here.... and your allowing it...

why are you giving him the chance?...when did he first tell you this and he still hasn't resolved it in his own head yet?... he's had you hanging for just a day or longer with this?

didn't see those posts
glad you're away from your phone
and again
don't speak to him
come on here and talk to us or your RL friends
he's behaving like a total twat for want of a better word

SB - you've had loads of fab advice. I'd be getting rid. Because you've said before that you want someone who is in to family life, and wants more kids, etc. I know you like him but he sounds like he has none of these feelings or plans at present and despite being someone who you are attracted to he is not looking like someone who is going very much distance at all, tbh.

My ex has finally decided he is going to have dd at the weekend but on his terms as ever. thetrekker has his son this weekend so I am wondering if I can maybe go over to his once his son is in bed.

I am tired and stressed and weepy though and he kind of found out as he has rung twice when I was not doing too well, I wonder if he will be put off by all my many other issues

gp gave me cocodamol and valium, its a trapped nerve as i thought

i will be having a lovely time later thanks to her

spoke to lb and updated him, talked about friday a bit more, he is going to cook for me

THANKS GUYS, WILL REPLY TO YOU ALL PROPERLY LATER ON. (oops)

no haven't replied to him, just ignored the message. lol. We first talked about it last tues, but then everything was sorted out again. Either way it's doing my head in and it's a shite day in work right now.

mousie-if he's a decent bloke he'll be there for you. at exs terms for weekend
lou-esp. if you have a drinkie to wash it down
belle-good to hear you sounding more positive

is it possible he's thinking like this as he sees us as potentially somethin special or am I deluding myself?

sorry belle - but he's only thinking of himself and how he feels as he's left you hanging for a whole week now... really shitty to play with your emotions that way.

not so sure about him now specially with his "presentations".. and is he still going online??

this sounds more and more like having his cake and eating it.

but.... your best chance is to walk away... if he's interested he'll tell you... if he's not really bothered and just using you till something better comes along then he wont come after.

either way you will have your answer.

this emotional no mans land your in at the moment must be hell. you have to bring it to a head as he obviously cant do it himself or you wouldn't still be hanging on this length of time.

belle merely talking from my own experience here
if a man wants to be with you nothing will stand in his way
and i learnt this the hard way

and yes i realise that he might well not be deliberately doing this to you
but the fact remains that he is
and you deserve better

i agree with everyone else about this

he is only thinking of himself

back off from him and see what he does as rj says, then you will get your answer

dont wait for him to stop pissing about

Am thinking of you belle, am in a similar position!

Marathon man needs to decide that he wants to spend more time with me or we will be going our separate ways.

Talk is now planned for tomorrow as he insists on seeing me face to face. Which does give me a little hope!

As you know I really like him, but I am also my own person and do not hang around for people who aren't sure!

I have been keeping myself to myself, letting it all sink in and it seems to be having the desired effect.

Watch this space!

Be strong.

I can also see myself having similar convo with samename!!!

omg i just realised t hat the new series 9 of csi starts on friday night and lb doesnt have that channel!

i dont have anyway to record it

he's text again today saying 'hi hunny how r u today.' x standard mornign text. I feel like sending back 'shit.'

RJ - don't know about the online thing, the presentations tbh I do believe he even said 'check on my running cllub - i'm really not that arsed'

haven't replied yet - what do we think? I think he's just a blinking ditherer either way i've pretty much had enough.

SB - i'd be inclined when your feeling this low not to respond. again... he's texting as if nothing is wrong.. when it is... i think you need a few days to yourself not contacting him to decide how you feel about him.

well he's just caught me on the hop & rang, was usual self, asked why I'd put my status on FB and the deleted it (had said that I couldn't want till combat tonight to kick ass cos the other bloke's gonna get a real pasting blush). asked if it was written in anger I said about 80%. then said he'd call back later on tonight when he could hear as his brother was playig guitar which I heard - tbh I think he'll leave me alone now as the last thing he said was 'well hope your day gets better'

thing is he's not a bad bloke, he can be nice - then again XH could be nice, and other times he couldn't - but deep down I know this bloke isn't abusive & like my ex. ho hum.

and sods law my parcel arrived today which is full of toys goodies which was meant for the w.e