having sex with my ex who has a fiance,should i stop???

[steph1974]

hi,i'm steph,split up with my sons father when i was 8weeks pregnant cos he was nasty to my daughter(from another relationship),but i still am having sex with him 2years down the line and he has a fiance,my family tell me to stop?but we only split up cos we didnt get on not cos we stopped fancying eachother so we have been carrying on but he is living with someone else yet doesnt seem to mind cheating on her,does anyone else think i should stop???

Mine is the only post between two of yours, and yes, the bitching part did seem directly aimed at me. If it wasn't then I apologise.

I still maintain that it doesn't sound to me as if you are happy, despite what you say. Love isn't like this, you know.

Look just stop bickering and find someone nicer to have sex with on saturdays

If you are telling the truth I think your situation sounds sordid and depressing in the extreme and I can't believe someone could be so self-deluding and idiotic. I feel sorry for the children involved in this.

your dad killed himself because your mum was having an affair? And yet you are happy to carry on having an affair?

enid you wanna pay attention and read the rest of the threads now if you dont mind i am trying to get out of my house but find myself compelled to defend myself(funny that) especially when someone says they feel sorry for my kids when if they had read all the threads they would realise they are abit behind the times with whats going on now and i protect my children just like any mother would,i used to have to stop my dad trying to kill my mum when i was 10 years old, i have seen it all,so i know i keep my children safe and am bringing them up the best way i know how to,and i know i am a damn good mum and my 5 year old daughter knows nothing about my personal life which is how it should be...i will not be coming on this site again,i didnt expect any support but to comment on my children when you know nothing about it saddens me so theres no point me coming back on here(u will probably all be relieved to hear that anyway...)

so where is your 5 year old when you two are shagging?

at her dads

Doesn't anyone else nip off for a quickie while the kids are watching cbeebies?

Good luck Steph, whatever you do, make sure you are happy.

without meaning to butt in steph you did put in one of yr posts

"my dad killed himself cos my mum was having an affair so its not something i do as a norm,as i know the repercussions of it all too well

which is where enid prob did as did myself wonder why you were still having affair.
so its not a case of people reading thrads properly as that was something you wrote.

don't you feel really really weird about having sex with someone that was nasty to her? When you pick her up don't you look at her and think "I've just let that man who was horrible to you shag me?"

thank you lou,glad there is someone else out there that has sex while their kids r in the same building...

no dont at all cos i could have stayed with him and let him carry on being nasty to her but i left when i was 8 weeks pregnant for the sake of her...

people on here have tried to help you but as with anything people have different opinions which are always gonna get mixed reactions
some you will agree with some not.
hope everything works out for you

oh don't be silly lou its not the same at all.

Steph, would you like a man's point of view?

My dad died when I was 6 so I know all about having no father. No father at all is MUCH better than a father who is such a pr*ck. If he won't see his son unless he can come to yours and have sex then he doesn't deserve to BE a father. Your son will be much better off growing up without a father who clearly doesnt give a toss about him.
Tell him he can pick your son up from your mum's, or something, and is never to come to yours anymore. If he cuts your son off then it really is NO loss to your son.
If you want no strings sex then go clubbing, there are loads more fit blokes out there.
Believe me, your ex isn't fit to be a father.

i put a video on for my kids

sweet monkey,read rest of thread,not case of me just having affair,more complicated, and if i didnt know deep down it was wrong i wouldnt be asking everyone,would be carrying on...

steph I have sex with my dh when my kids are in the house because we love each other and if the kids came in and found us it wouldn't be a complete mad head f**k to them.

my gord, I agree with HappyDaddy again

if someone was nasty to either of my children i could hardly bear to be in the same room as them, never mind shag them.

has no one got locks on doors...

Having sex with their 9 month old son in the house isn't even an issue. His father only wanting to see him so he can sh*g his mother is.

What's not the same enid? People nip off while kids are busy all the time, doesn't sound like she is leaving her in danger. Her choice of partner may be suspect, but that's a different matter

will leave you all to discuss it now,gotta get my son some sandals for summer,c u...