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having sex with my ex who has a fiance,should i stop???

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steph1974 · 11/05/2005 10:23

hi,i'm steph,split up with my sons father when i was 8weeks pregnant cos he was nasty to my daughter(from another relationship),but i still am having sex with him 2years down the line and he has a fiance,my family tell me to stop?but we only split up cos we didnt get on not cos we stopped fancying eachother so we have been carrying on but he is living with someone else yet doesnt seem to mind cheating on her,does anyone else think i should stop???

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SleepyJess · 12/05/2005 11:20

Steph I apologise for any offence you may have taken re my question about where your 9 month old... I was not meaning to be insulting nor imply anything at all about your skills as a parent as I don't feel they are relvent nor in question here.. nor, obviously do I think people shouldn't be having sex with children in the house (!). My question was merely as to how your orchestrated it.. ie... ex arrives... baby in cot.. off for a shag... as IME, babies of this age are not very co-operative about being put to bed at any odd time of the day..! But of course that is none of my business.

Enid · 12/05/2005 11:21

lou you just don't get it do you.

HappyDaddy · 12/05/2005 11:22

Steph were my comments any help?

sweetmonkey · 12/05/2005 11:23

only point was that you bit enids head off when it was you that had put in yr thread about yr dad killing himself coz yr mum had an affair
im gonna leave this now as its getting way to heavy and the sun is shining and i wanna feel happy
take care

lou33 · 12/05/2005 11:24

enlighten me enid, you obv think i need to be

Fio2 · 12/05/2005 11:27

I cant see why it is of such a big deal. If the bloke isnt having an influence on the daughter at all why it hurts anyone tbh

its up to steph what she does with her doodar

happymerryberries · 12/05/2005 11:27

What I don't get is what you are getting out of this othre than aan orgasm. And to be blunt you can get one of those on your own. You have no meaning ful realtionship with this guy, you both seem to be using each other was walking sex aids.

I have no issue in people having one night stands but at least you get to go out with those people! And possbily have a laugh and that might develop into something more long term.

As it stands he comes over, shoots his load and buggers off. Talk about having his cake and eating it. He must think you are a real wlak over. You are woth better than this. Get some self rwespect and find someone that respects you!

And you are giving your kids a dreadful image of what a woman is worth.

beetroot · 12/05/2005 11:30

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Fio2 · 12/05/2005 11:31

agree beetroot. i think we should all calm down

beetroot · 12/05/2005 11:33

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Fio2 · 12/05/2005 11:33

exactly!

batters · 12/05/2005 11:33

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beetroot · 12/05/2005 11:34

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HappyDaddy · 12/05/2005 11:35

Steph, good luck whatever you decide.

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happymerryberries · 12/05/2005 11:48

Kids pick up on things. That said they are young, but who is to say who long this thing migh have gone on for. Good on her for stopping.

I have a cousin who's husband uesed to beat her. She left when the oldest was 3. the child still remembers it.

Children 'read' us better than any expert. Their existance depends on us. Contempt like he is showing is easy to read.

Fio2 · 12/05/2005 11:51

hmb, go and take a diazepham and chill

joash · 12/05/2005 11:51

In answer to orginal question ... YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!YES!!!

happymerryberries · 12/05/2005 12:02

Already had two this morning and can't have another fix until 3! Felling quite mellow tho!

I also quite like this lap top in bed thing!

humdinger · 12/05/2005 12:05

I can't beleive this is still going. Can I ask that evry cut Steph some slack here PLEASE. She is obviuosly confused by the rollercoaster she is on and can't seem to get off. She probly did just ask a genuine question because she is a bit muddled. That is why she asked for the advice.

Whether she takes or not and it seams that she has to a point is up to her ~ not you ~ not me.

Stephe if you come back to this just take it from me that some threads on here go pare shaped and it is upseting ~ i no.

Whatever you do ~ take care and hope that you find happiness in watever shape or form.

handlemecarefully · 12/05/2005 16:31

I'm sorry you've been through the mill a bit on this thread Steph....and I guess you are probably not a troll so apologies for suspecting you might be for a while back there...

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steph1974 · 14/05/2005 17:33

well my ex came round,20mins late so we had an argument cos he didnt think he needed to let me know that he was gonna be late,after calming himself down which took a considerable amount of time,cos he has a really short fuse,he hugged me to say sorry and then grabbed my arse but i told him to stop it and he said sorry again and pulled away so am quite amazed that he did actually stop,my text must have really sunk in this time,anyway will keep you informed about what happens next week or if he pesters b4 then cos thats happened before....

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happymerryberries · 14/05/2005 17:52

Good on you!

ponygirl · 14/05/2005 17:53

Well done, Steph. Good for you.

honeypot01 · 14/05/2005 18:20

Some of you are right bitches aren't ya! Give the girl a break, just read through the thread, in my opinion its the fiance that wants shooting. Good luck Steph, hope he takes the hint if thats what you want. I know if it was me i would want to be with my babyfather