Cancel cms?

[HoneyBlossoms]

Has anyone ever cancelled child maintenance or doesn't claim it? The payments are ridiculously low so it's not even worth me claiming I am tempted to cancel, has anyone done the same?

Have you asked this before (many times) under different names? If so why do you keep asking. People tell you the same thing every time.

If not sorry!

No I haven't but I will do a search as nice to know if it isn't just me.

You’re asking the question like it’s some major thing. You said yourself you just click a button. If you don’t want the money, click that button! I don’t know what you would gain from personal experiences of others who have clicked that same button?

I’d keep it and put it in a savings account so that in years to come you DC will see exactly how much their father contributed. Let his efforts speak for themselves.
He deserves to be beneath your contempt. I do agree with the above poster though. When your DC are adults they will see what sort of person their father was/is, and what a hero you have been to carry on giving them security regardless.

Keep it open he will never be able to get a real job without them coming for him just stick it in an account with your child's name on it if he laughs say its hilarious when you give the account to your child when he/she is older they can see how much he contributed

I cancelled mine this month OP. Ex is self employed and declared income of 10k a year which I thought was a joke. Decided I’d rather manage on my own than deal with that kind of bullshit. Thankfully have a good job and can afford to do it - I think it depends on what your priorities are. I chose my peace of mind- but circumstances may change in the future in which case keeping it and forgetting about it may have made more sense.

to me, it felt like a game and I didn’t want to play. And I felt the cms were biased towards non resident parent. I know if circumstances were swapped, I’d have been offering a fair and sensible amount but some people will always just be selfish dickheads.

Thank you, finally someone that's answered my question I just wanted to know if anyone felt better closing it and just making peace with it, it sounds like you made the right decision

But that wasnt your original question?

You asked should i cancel cms. Majority said no.

If £7pw is nothing to you, then go ahead.

But please dont act like people who spent their time replying were being ignorant.

I wouldn’t cancel as next week he could get a great job and you’d benefit from that pay increase if he stops claiming universal credit

@MasterOfOne Has anyone ever cancelled child maintenance or doesn't claim it? The payments are ridiculously low so it's not even worth me claiming I am tempted to cancel, has anyone done the same? Where on earth have I asked if I should?

He's been unemployed 10 years so very much doubt that if he did get employed he'd probably be on minimum wage (which at least would be something) but he has been unemployed 10 years so the chances of him working next week are pretty slim

Ok.
I suspect like me people were responding to "it's so low it doesn't seem worth it"

Good luck with your decision

😂 no apology for being wrong then 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Ok I'm sorry for being wrong.

I still belive the money is for the children and something is better than nothing.

Many years ago I received a very small amount via the court despite trying to make an agreement with ex-DH . I made sure that it was extended to age 21 because they remained in education ( can be done through the court after CMS age limit reached) Because he had a poor payment history the court made him pay it to them each week in cash . I liked to think of him and the OW suffering the inconvenience 😂Just keep the money in an account for your kids . Why should your ex walk away scot free ?

My sons dad didn't feel he was responsible to support them when we were together he didn't support them financially ever

Oh I should state my ex isn't living solely off benefits, I know he works cash in hand but I have absolutely zero proof of this so can't do anything about it so the £7 means nothing to him it isn't a huge chunk of his benefits

£7 a week is £364 a year and £6,552 over the child’s 18 years. They can use it to buy driving lessons or something. Save it for them and let it accrue interest.

Sadly it's not for one child so it's nowhere near that amount.

It's a joke how government try to get child maintenance the men don't pay nor have responsibility to bring them up

My EXH paid a pittance, not even enough to keep my kids in their tangerine habit. I left the CMS ticking over, but never relied on it. Every once in a while I’d get into a rage and tell him how disgusting he was for not financially supporting them. Then one day got a message from CMS about ‘upcoming changes’ and he now pays almost £600 a month, so I’m glad I didn’t cancel it. I never thought I’d see the day. Just leave it as it is, you never know if his circumstances change, and it’s getting much harder to work cash in hand these days.

That wouldn't happen unfortunately being unemployed for 10 years he will probably struggle to find employment now, I'd honestly love to be that hopeful but it won't happen. I am probably just feeling annoyed as just had to pay out £300 for DS uniform starting school in September still got 2 more kids to buy for.

Do you claim children's benefits and UC? If I were you I would let the claim stand and just ignore it. It's nothing really. If he's laughing at it ask him If he will laugh when you show your children how "much" he has contributed to their upbringing once they are adults. Twat!

My sister cancelled hers. Her reason was that the money was minimal (£7 a week when he actually paid) and why should he be able to say he has contributed to them in any way? He was no contact and made out he did his best for them. The last bit of power he had over her was taken away from him.

£364 a year? Take it! That's a The Sun £9.50 holiday for you and your DC and some days out.