Cancel cms?

[HoneyBlossoms]

Has anyone ever cancelled child maintenance or doesn't claim it? The payments are ridiculously low so it's not even worth me claiming I am tempted to cancel, has anyone done the same?

Course £28 is an insult but it’s for your child

you obv have no money worries @HoneyBlossoms and that’s lucky for you

You didn't read my post where I said it's not consistent he has just started paying it after a year because he had priority debts that meant he didn't have to pay so I've often got nothing too it's very irregular when he has no debts to pay off.

But people are falling over themselves to say how much they could buy with it and I "obviously haven't got money worries" if I can afford to lose £7 a week! £7 bloody pounds!

The truth is some people are on the bare bones of their arse and can't afford to lose £7. You are fortunate that that's not you.

I'd be even less inclined to cancel it in that case.

No one is "falling over themselves" about how much they could buy with it. But I've had times where I had to decide if bread or milk was more useful for 2 days. £7 would have seemed like a fortune on those days!

Nobody has said this OP.

But when confronted with how investing that money could lead to returns of up to £12,000, or £3,000 for each child when they turn 18, you said that that isn’t a decent sum of money. That’s why people think you’re loaded.

I said you obviously don’t have money worries because a) you buy weekly Robux for 4 kids (no one on a tight budget would do that), b) you appear to buy regular McDonald’s meals and c) when people gave you ideas as to how you could invest the money to get £12k you dismissed it entirely.

Anyway as you’ll have cancelled it by now it’s probably a pointless conversation!

Where do I buy “regular McDonalds meals” it was a treat before going back to school. As for robux that’s my youngest 2 that get it and it’s none of your business what I spend money on for my children for you to judge. No im not so poor that £7 makes a huge impact on my life and nor will I pretend to be like his £7 is financially supporting us 🤨 I doubt it would for most people. It doesn’t pay for shoes, clothes, heating, electric, dinner money, hair cuts, hobbies and days out ( or are my children not allowed to have any as it’s not a necessity it’s a luxury?!) my children will have the same standard of living if I received the £7 or not as it makes no difference.

It’s not. £3000 over 18 years isn’t a lot for your entire childhood, I’m surprised anyone thinks it is!

I don’t mean to be rude, but do you have reading comprehension issues?
Again, no one said it’s a lot for 18 years worth of payments. However it is a decent sum for an 18 year old to receive in one go, regardless of where it came from. It could pay for driving lessons for example.
But if your children would rather not have that money when they turn 18, cancel 🤷🏻‍♀️. You’re on day 4 now of telling us all the reasons you don’t want the money, so click that cancel button!

No one thinks this!

What people DO think is that because you’re pissed of at the situation (rightfully so) you’re going to deprive your children of a little lump sum for them that is rightfully theirs.

Should their father be financially supporting them? Yes.

Should you deprive them of the little he is contributing? No

But it WOULD pay for a small second hand car at aged 18.

You are probably the same people who comment on the threads where someone is getting £500 a month (£6000 per YEAR double my 18 years! And 108,000 over 18 years) saying how disgusting it is and no one can raise a child on that amount and how the nrp should be ashamed of themselves

It’s like talking to a brick wall.

Again, you’re being ridiculous here.

M-hm

You are so obtuse. Nobody is saying it’s ok, it’s absolutely not. Nobody is saying you should be grateful either. What people are saying is that for some single parent families who are living on pittance, it is better than a kick in the teeth. It’s also better that your foul ex is forced to continue to contribute, however minor that is. I’ve been down this road and stuck with my CMS claim because he eventually became employed and my son now gets the support he deserves.

As you do not need the money, the most sensible thing to do would make it work for your kids and divert to savings, or premium bonds, things that might get them a small leg up in the future. That would be far more positive than just wilfully misunderstanding what everybody is saying.

Exactly.

I got fuck all of fuck all for my child whilst dad jetted off on expensive holidays.

I have fuck all to give them - I’m still on my financial knees to this day. I would have loved nothing more than have been able to afford to save £7/week to given them a lump sum at 18.

I’m never cancelling my claim even though it’s arrears only now because my ‘child’ is an adult. My thinking is that one day, he’s likely to inherit and I’ll finally get my £4k. Currently, I’m receiving nothing but I’ll wait. No skin off my nose 🤷‍♀️

You would have loved £7 a week for your children from their father? 😂 now I know you are lying

No inheritance both parents are deceased

I'm on another group and someone is moaning they only get £400 a month for their kids and their ex won't pay any extras and how unfair it is yet on here you get told you should be grateful for £7.

Except, as you’ve been told, literally no one has told you to be grateful for £7. I’m not sure if it’s poor reading comprehension or wilful miscomprehension.

Or a bit of both.

Poster has literally told me she would have loved to received that!