Is 50/50 really the go to in family courts

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I read a lot of threads where relationships have broken down and parents go to court for 50/50 access. Whilst a lot of replies consist of '50/50 should be given.' I'm interested to know if this is actually the norm in family courts?

I'd love to hear from those who work in family law or family courts about what contact agreements are most likely given. (Obviously very circumstantial).

This is exactly what my 40 year old DS said. Be asked the courts time and again if he could just live with me and they just ignored him. It wasn't on their agenda.

@BettyGreen92 exactly max the current system is and has proven open to abuse. From BOTH men and women. If you think the family court is fair and just system, then we have to agree to disagree.

@BettyGreen92 funny how you ignore the parts where ex doesn't want to contribute 50:50 in finances? What about when child is ill? It's ok only mum takes time off work? How about when dad is ill? He can't possibly look after his child then. Parenting is more than just contact. I've heard your same boring arguments time and time again on this forum. Parenting is only 50:50 when everything is equal and most of the time one parent doesn't want to provide everything equally.

Also, many many women have posted about how the family courts have made appalling decisions against a woman. If you took the time to read through all my comments on this thread you'll see I acknowledge the unfairness to both men and women.

Also, I assume your full time hobby @BettyGreen92 is to go through Mumsnet commenting on these type of posts. I see the same people jump on these threads 'but what about the father.' You constantly spread misinformation and make women who want a forum to air their concerns and upset feel shit! Start your own thread about how men and family courts. Stop jumping on others, but picking comment after comment to make yourself feel better because you can't see your kids or because someone you know can't.

@BettyGreen92 he earns more than me! 😂😂😂😂 but he can't manage money! Go back to fathers4justice.con

@BettyGreen92 then you lead a sad life jumping on a thread that has nothing to do with you or your life circumstances.

@BettyGreen92 you're probably the same man who goes 'not all men' too! Trust me perhaps the father should think about the mother and child a bit more too and should have been more mature, responsible and stepped up to the responsibility of fatherhood.

@BettyGreen92 fathers4justice is a vile far right group, that hounds women and makes their lives misery. There is nothing great about this group. Sounds like you don't like women very much, so I find it weird you spend your time On forum entitled Mumsnet. I think there is a dadsnet, so why don't you go there!

@BettyGreen92 says the man who lives with his wife and children, who has given himself a female username, goes onto Mumsnet to reply to posts where a lot of women are talking about horrible circumstances they've been through. Your argument is essentially 'men have rights too'! Nothing more and nothing less. As I said, you obviously find enjoyment going on posts and doing this. I've fallen into your trap. Enjoy!

Maybe think about this from the perspective of the child for a second. The child in many cases is better off with the primary caregiver. The default parent who takes time off work for all the appointments, school things and when they are sick. The one who gets up in the middle of the night to take care of them when they are sick.
There are fathers who are definitely should get 50:50 custody because it is best for their children as both parents were primary caregivers. However, some leave all parenting up to mother, some even mistreat her in front of the children and then demand 50:50 to punish her for the relationship ending. Those fathers should not be getting 50:50 as it’s not in children’s best interests.

In most of the cases that I personally know of going to court there is a very valid reason why mother has been resisting giving as much access as the father wants.

Now I am sure others will say that the mothers they know are punishing the father etc. However, most mothers don’t use their children as pawns to hurt someone as they put their children’s needs before their own. Some do.

Thank you @Crunchingleaf for being the voice of reason after I totally lost my shit!