Can casual ever become "serious"?

[tetti]

For anyone who's read my recent post(have I lost my marbles!lol),you'll know that I recently started seeing a younger guy on a casual basis.
Now,casual is easier said than done,isn't it,at least for women.

I am a bit confused,a few days ago,before we first went further together,he told me he didn't want to mess me around,but that he didn't want a relationship or anything serious,but if I wanted to talk and more(ehum),that was cool,but up to me.
I thought,that's completely fine by me,I have 3 months ago come out of a 12 year long realtionship,and don't want to get heavy as in moving in with someone for eg.

So ,we met up,talked and had our fun.I sent him a txt saying I was totally cool with it being casual, and then told him to ring me next week if he felt like it,he called the next day!
We met up yesterday and same thing,talking loads,sex,(and loads of cuddles from him!:-)
He was more attentive than before,but that was what got me.
I know soo much about him already,and I don't have to ask any questions about him,he just talks and tells me!
I know all about his childhood,family and life.

This is what I find confusing,if it's so casual,why really bother to get to know everything about the other person?(if you're going to have sex and dissappear a few weeks or months down the line).
Because,surely,the better you get to know eachother,the harder it'll be to let go?

I dk how mens brains work,but I am soo confused.
I am not going to ask-Where is this going?,as we agreed on casual just some days ago,but it's like we got closer after getting into bed!,we actually started to talk more then..
It's doing my head in.I knew I took a great emotional risk by sleeping with him in the first place,but we had been flirting badly for months and months,and the physical attraction was so great I couldn't not take the risk! My head just didn't rule over my body at all,I wanted him and that was it,and had for months.

I do not have any preconcieved ideas here,I do not believe that I can make him fall for me,but have anyone else gone from casual to more "commited"?(not as far as in living together,but in having a relationship)

i understand and agree with you tetti.
try that way and see how it goes.
x

I just feel relieved that I've finally come to this conclusion,and that I have stopped obsessing so much about him(he used to be on my mind 24/7).
I've realised that I cannot force the situation,and that I really should be pretty happy with my lot.
Had I met someone who wanted to get very serious and commit straightaway,then I think I would have felt a little bit suffocated.
I think my problem with this guy before,was that I'd been in a very long relationship and I was used to see that man every day,naturally,as we were living together.
To then get into something like this takes some getting used to,but it's a much better situation for me to be in at this moment in time.My ex controlled me mentally for so long,you know the situation,you are a very confident,happy person,than you meet someone who feels threatened by your independence and who slowly wears you down until you feel worthless.I am very concious of not letting that happen again,especially even more so as I have a child to think of now.This guy is giving me freedom and is not trying to control any aspect of my life at all,and,he really respects the fact that I am so independent and not needy,how very refreshing!