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anorak · 26/09/2004 10:51

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turquoise · 30/10/2004 02:55

I suppose whatever happens, him apologising is a start to hopefully some improvement for you, even if it's only in terms of support. HOw is your ds with him?

essbee · 30/10/2004 02:58

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nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:03

sorry essbee didn't mean to offend you about low self esteem was just trying to use my experienes to offer some advice or words of comfort.

essbee · 30/10/2004 03:03

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essbee · 30/10/2004 03:05

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turquoise · 30/10/2004 03:05

Well - not immediately and not fully, but equally things might not have to be how they have been recently. You may never get your old relationship back, but hopefully you can have a better separation than you've had so far.

nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:05

oh good - I am a tad sensitive about things like that, is there no way you can go away to clear your head and get yourself some space even if it is for a day.

turquoise · 30/10/2004 03:06

Sorry my replies are SO slow - don't know what's up with my pc tonight.

nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:06

I can't sleep, supposed to be going to the doctors about it next week!!

essbee · 30/10/2004 03:07

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nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:08

Have you started your divorce

essbee · 30/10/2004 03:08

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turquoise · 30/10/2004 03:08

I didn't realise you'd got as far as divorce.
Don't want to bring you down even further, but could he be manipulating you?

essbee · 30/10/2004 03:08

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nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:09

There is a great chance of being friends, I don't know whether I would class my ex as a friend but we are capable of taking dd out together or he comes and has tea with us. All we row about now is money as we are doing our finacial settlement - but we don't even row we just moan at each other!!

turquoise · 30/10/2004 03:10

Sorry that sounds awful, wish I hadn't posted it.

nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:10

whereabouts are you essbee

essbee · 30/10/2004 03:10

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nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:11

it isn;t awful turqiouse my es used to be very nice to me at key moments during our divorce and then turn if things didn't go his way.

turquoise · 30/10/2004 03:12

God I'm so sorry I said that. You would know in your gut what was real or not.

nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:12

Although even men have feelings and I am sure he must still have feeling s for you after a long relationship and the finality of divorce does make you think maybe we could work it out.

essbee · 30/10/2004 03:12

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nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:13

When dp used to manipulate me h never really said he wanted me back, he would just be v nice and try and butter me up.

As turqouise said I am sure you would know if his words were genuine,

turquoise · 30/10/2004 03:14

Even if he was sweet talking you, a genuine apology is hard to fake if you're a controlling, abusive personality. If he could apologise without in any way excusing himself, miminizing his responsibility, or putting any blame on you, then there must be some hope.

nikkim · 30/10/2004 03:15

you could have helped me spook up my house but you are too far away. Can you not have a lazy pamper day or meet up with some friends to keep your mind occupied rather than turning this over and over in your head