Being a single mum is proper graft isn't it - come on in single mums (Pt. 2)

[ZigZagZombie]

Shiny Fred.

I've put it here rather than Chat so we can keep it off the beaten track a little. If there's already one on Chat could some kind soul point me in the right direction please?

Oh don't worry cornflake you've got literally the rest of your life to be driven truly insane by your offspring.

cornflake I second ZigZagZombie got the dds off to school walked the ddogs. fussy awkward sod's (take your pick, both lots are bloody needy), got home, developed a migraine. Can't do a WFH cos I had yesterday off for dd1 hospital consultants and the boths dental.

Today I have to work with Superdad, who likes to tell me how hard it is, between playing world of tanks, BBQ, taking his DC swimming and picking up his wife slack. oh and superdad2, who eats biscuits and drinks beer and sometimes has to do a school run. God they have it so tough. nit that I'm annoyed by that, just sucked it and listen to them moan about my flakeyness

And Ive got a text from X to read meh!

But I've got my pen case to organise and then firefight the R&D and Ops pain points and try to get some bloody work done

And if another person says I'm rude!!!!!!

Sorry for the gripe, just another day at casa y trabajo Disney

and to cap it all dd1 has taken a plastic stage knife into school and just got herself excluded

FML

@eve I’m the same, I comfort eat, I’ve just been to the post office and picked up a large pack of Revels. Two years ago I got on top of it all and went from a size 16 to a 10 by monitoring my eating and going to gym. I’m now back to how I was.

Hello,

Found you!

villa I can't keep "crap" in the house because I will binge on it. I prefer to home-bake for the kids (less crap, real butter, no plastic etc.) - but if I have just one solitary bloody slice, I may as well just commit to eating the whole fucking thing.

I have to keep such a close eye on what I eat - and I don't always win. The kids seem to be my trigger though... rather than losing my rag I literally eat my feelings.

My ex otoh goes to a 24 hr gym and can go whenever he fancies - although I'm delighted to report that his diet is fucking vile and he's packing on weight at a rate of knots and his acne is back. This all gives me enormous pleasure!

Helloo FV45 !

Hi cornflake sounds like we are in similar boat!

Disney. Hope she is suitably sorry and you can make her useful with chores as punishment.

BlackeyedGruesome, no chance,she's stubborn, bloody-minded and difficult, she'll take no responsibility and blame other people. Her excuse this morning, when I was on the phone to the pastoral head, was she couldn't be bothered listening to me when I said no, to taking it out of the flat.

Afternoon all.

@sittingonacornflake your ex sounds like a real help. 🙄. Hope your little one sleeps through soon. My dd was four before she slept through and bed times are a challenge since ex left. But she is still only little so I do try to be patient and eat my weight in crap.

@disneyspendingmoney sorry to hear you are being tested today. Does your dd get support at school.

@Villanellesproudmum Just the one bag of revels. I admire your restraint. I lost a stone when ex left and have slowly eaten it and more back on. Will tackle that another time.

Is anyone doing pancakes tonight.

What are we giving up for lent. Other than rubbish fathers. 😀

I'll be doing pancakes.

I won't be giving anything up for Lent, but might try and do something good! I used to volunteer at the local food bank/resource centre, but had to stop when I had to prioritise my mental health and go to appointments. So I will try and put some £ aside to donate to them.

How the chuff long does it take CMS to sort things out? My first call as a new client was 14th Jan. Ex has ignored every thing from them so it'll be coming straight from his salary. It's a very small amount, but still.....

My foot is sore following a long run on Sunday so I've been cycling and swimming instead. Luckily I have a very flexible job so I can fit this in otherwise I think I'd go a little bit more bonkers.

Disney your DD sounds very ermmm determined. Remember, many of her behaviours are due to her just being the age she's at. I had to remind my sister of this when her eldest got into lots of sticky patches. We are quick to blame ourselves for many things.

@TheOrigFV45 I had the same problem with ex and cms. I started my claim middle of October. It took until February before I saw any money. It was very frustrating. But I'm glad I have got it sorted and he no longer has me over a barrel with money. Hope yours is sorted quickly.

I didn't pursue it for a long time for many reasons, but I feel stronger now. I've never seen a penny from him. I was always the main earner. It's the principal of the matter really. It'll only pay for one session of after school care, but it all helps.

eve34 & TheOrigFV45 It's mostly the cause if the school support If she hadn't been put into nurture with equally challenged kids and been pushed out if the mainstream I don't think I'd have half if these issues.

Oh well another day another challenge and my migrain as spread to my jaw and I'm just to tired to bother, the fuckwit just told me inclusion is fun

I thought you’d all gone a bit quiet!

Disney - my DS2 is the same.

This is how I see it: they are going through a period of huge development, physically and emotionally. They are just massive toddlers.

DS2 was the only one of mine who had tantrums. He is having them again. I shall continue to step over/ignore as I did them. You’d think there’s no other fucker in the world who mattered the way he acts. “WHERE ARE MY PANTS??!” “ANSWER ME NOW!” Fuck off son.

BTW Superdad sounds like a prick.

I did pancakes for breakfast.

I am all over this shit today.

O4FS
Superdad is a radiant star amongst parents, a proud daily mail reader. I was discussing the practicalities of arranging sleepovers dd1 was going to a friend's, so I got dd2 best friend over. Because we were still on CPP at the time he said this; "I'm surprised the parents allow it" Me: "Allow what?" Superdad: "The sleep over, you know, what with your kids and social services". A joy of a human being to work with.

What a cock.

O4FS That's giving him more credit than he's due, I would not want to compare mine to someone like him at least mine doesn't read the daily mail

Having a sobbing whilst doing the washing up l evening. I’ve spent the afternoon running round , swimming lessons which were then cancelled, pharmacy to get cream for DS1 who had impetigo, pharmacist wont give me cream tells me to go to dr, phone dr wait for them to phone me back, home make dinner and pancakes, have to rush to get prescription and leave mess everywhere, get prescription, have to then go to separate pharmacy wait for ever whilst both kids fuck about. Home to shower kids who keep fighting, stuck telly on for them whilst I tidy up the bomb site that is my kitchen from dinner and pancakes. I feel like I’m drowning in shit that needs to get done , can’t keep on top of everything and I’m just so tired. My morning sickness is back which doesn’t seem fair at 26 weeks and have awful pelvic pain by the end of the day. I’m so tired and so emotionally and feel like I can’t do this :(

Nailed it

How are you feeling naps? Any better?

Finally caught up with the last thread, I lost track of you for a bit when it fell off. my TIO.

I’ve spent several days updating DD’s new bedroom which hasn’t been changed since she was a baby. Trouble is, I find anything like that so daunting to do on my own.

So, I roped dad in to make the wardrobe and my friend made the chest of drawers. Me and my friend moved everything out of the room and we got DD to sort out her books and toys.

Sorrry to hear that your colleagues are such tossers disney

Today my son's nursery gave me a vest belonging to another child to bring home and wash. With poo on it. How disgusting.

And I accidentally ate 8 pancakes. Oops.