how long have you been a single parent?

[AMAZINWOMAN]

ive been a single parent now for oevr 7 years
i chose to be alone

i cant imagine myself being settled again and sharing the parenting responsibility-its been so long

but i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life! im worried that i will be though as we are very close and for someone to come in our lives it would affect the dynamics

arent those kind of pics great?

i have let the guy i saw on weds come round this evening, there is a street bbq on all day so he is joining myself the kids and my friends

oooh good good! hope you have fun tonight then! tell us what happens tomorrow..

he isnt my type, i'm v sure of that now lol

i have been single just shy of 3 years now.

my ex was violant and abusive towards me, im still fighting him to prevent access to the children.

recently i have found something that resembles a life and have even had a go at a social life. i think it has shown me very clearly that i am not ready for a relationship just yet.

when men approach me i have a very clear "f off im not interested" face that appears without my knowledge.

i think the idea of letting a man into my children's lives again is terrifying, but i would like to hope that someday i will meet someone fantastic enough to prove me wrong.

Lou33, sorry to hear that but at least you have it confirmed.

I had a great date yesterday that started at about 1230 for lunch and ended about half an hour ago

Mamazon, I think it takes time to be ready. After I split with my only long term partner after dd's dad, it took me a while to even want to date again. I spent what seemed like months getting over it. I think that's a healthier reaction than jumping into the first thing that comes along.

3 years (my sons dad left when i was pg). I have to say though i am starting to feel like althoug hi dont want someone in my sons life - i would like someone in mi ealthough i genuinly dont believe its a. possible to meet someone and b. possible to sustain a relationship when i can barely get out once a week. kinda accepted that i will be on my own at least until my son grows up.

Just found this post - I love it!

I've been single parent for 7 months now, though did it all myself before DH went anyway so if anything its easier.
Just started thinking about dating and rofl with some of your stories! Any advice on internet sites?? 39 with 2 young children....

oh thanks but i am not losing any sleep over it

my date was a total disaster too!
he was such a bore and had NO sense of humour, didnt laugh at any of my dry jokes.

the best bit was his constant sniffing and complaining of his headache, we had to trail round loads of chemists looking for the right headache tablets, and he wouldnt take them without food. so we had to search for a restaurant, order our food and wait til he'd eaten ALL of it til hed take his bloody pills.
THEN he had a feeling he was gonna be sick and also had the shits!!
oh god, it was a loooooooong day..

sorry it didn't go as planned, but lol @ your description of him!

i always expect mine to be dull now tbh, now my friend comes round to wait at mine while i am out and we have a bit of a laugh at my latest dating disaster, so if nothing else some comedy value comes out of it!

the one who came round at the weekend sent me a message late last night apologising, and saying he wants to learn to salsa with me

New bf met the kids on Friday and my parents and grandparents and we outed ourselves to work and he still came back for more

Cool nymphadora

glad it went well dora

I have managed to get a date for the week after next. He seems to good to be true at the moment and on the phone and online the chat just flows. He likes the same things and we both want similar things in the future.

Am quite excited but nervous already

i'm giving up on dating now

then again i have said that lots recently, i have no willpower it seems

god this is depressing..not that it matters too much as i am depressed already, but i have just come out of an 8 year relationship and do wonder if that's it..unbearable thought for me..last time I went on a date I was a teenager

Zippit. If you are the same Z. that's been posting recently about end of relationship(?). it still must be all v. fresh, non? And there is that 'grieving process' to go through. I have found the harder you try, to less likely "it" will happen. And you WILL feel like going out with someone again in future. But it's just difficult to imagine it. Things will improve.

oh lou, it's a travesty for you to not date!!

yep..I am grieving, but also see a very lonely life ahead

im not single but feel it.married for 7 years but felt single for atleast 5.gradually getting worse and worse.no emotional support,finacial support or physical relationship(i dont want it).nearly split up about a month a go but chickened out saying id try again 'for the children'(which i know is wrong).
for those of you who left a relationship-do you feel you did right thing and feel better for it?

Yes Moljam. For sure. I too stayed for the children, tried again for the children. Its the wrong reason. Situation not ideal of course but I am much happier, more relaxed and therefore a better mother.
Truly believe for us this is the best way.

Now how do I go about finding all these blokes for a date or two? please pass some my way

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pan, i will date again when the men raise their game and give me a reason to want to see them

until then i am some crazy old lady sitting watching the world have more fun than me lol

I am lusting after a man I cannot have. He makes me float just by smiling at me, sigh.

And harman, your go on scrabble