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how long have you been a single parent?

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AMAZINWOMAN · 06/07/2007 19:41

ive been a single parent now for oevr 7 years
i chose to be alone

i cant imagine myself being settled again and sharing the parenting responsibility-its been so long

but i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life! im worried that i will be though as we are very close and for someone to come in our lives it would affect the dynamics

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skyatnight · 18/07/2007 19:52

Re. your dd's father, it's good to know there are at least a few 'grown-up' men around who adjust to a new situation and make the best of it for their kids' sake.

Elizaveta · 18/07/2007 19:55

He's a bit older than me so I think that has helped. Not that younger men can't cope but I think he's at least had some life experience etc. And he is a good dad. But he can be highly annoying at times so I try to tune it out.

jellyjelly · 18/07/2007 19:56

Is it or can it be for bi sexual or just plain always gay? Females as for.

Elizaveta · 18/07/2007 19:59

Plain always gay?? That made me LOL. I'm not plain!

No, pink sofa is for bisexuals, too. I think other websites are less bi friendly but it's a good mix there. You can get a trial membership for 3 or 5 days I think before you have to pay.

skyatnight · 18/07/2007 20:04

Nobody's perfect but, as you say, you don't have to like him any more or have coffee mornings with him, as long as you can get along and he is a good Dad to your dd.

I'd better go and see to my dd now but good luck tomorrow, hope it goes well.

jellyjelly · 18/07/2007 20:13

Thankyou i am sure you are not plain at all. Which ones are not so bi friendly?

KC1 · 19/07/2007 11:45

10 months physically on my own but to be honest, felt like a single mum from the day dd was born 14 months ago!

Elizaveta · 19/07/2007 12:20

Lou33, how was your date?

I'm meeting mine at 1 but not nervous about it. Finally be nice to see her in person.

JellyJelly, I'd say the ones that are less bi-friendly, for women, are the Guardian website and more mainstream ones like match.com etc.

lou33 · 19/07/2007 13:20

it was ok, bit too quiet for me, i need someone more self assured

still i got a couple of drinks and 2 hours out of the house , so not horrendous

lou33 · 19/07/2007 13:28

sorry i was talking to dd1 when i pressed post too soon, i meant to add i hope your date goes well

Elizaveta · 19/07/2007 15:45

Lou33, quiet is not always good but getting of the house is at least somewhat of a result! Will here be another date with this bloke?

My lunch date was great. She is as I thought she would be and vice versa she said. We've emailed since getting back from lunch and have made plans to go out on Saturday.

lou33 · 19/07/2007 16:05

oh thats great! how exciting

hmm i dont know about me, he just sent me a message saying he wants to go out again but i am not convinced tbh

Elizaveta · 19/07/2007 16:27

It is a good feeling!

I've had first dates like that where it was pleasant enough but I couldn't really imagine taking things further. I'd be inclined to say no thanks unless you think there is some hope like maybe he was just shy last night and would open up more on a second date.

allgonebellyup · 19/07/2007 18:09

Lou, maybe you should give him another chance???

i remember when i met ex dh (we are still good friends) i thought he was waaaaaaay too quiet, but turned out he was a little shy and was actually very witty and sweet when i got to know him.
It did help that he was blessed with a beautiful face though!!
was your date attractive??

lou33 · 19/07/2007 18:44

lol yes v much so

allgonebellyup · 19/07/2007 19:36

oooo then you should deff give another chance, no???

a pretty face can go a looooooooong way in my opinion

Elizaveta · 19/07/2007 19:38

I agree. He should get a second date!!

lou33 · 19/07/2007 19:44

hmm i dunno, he just seems a bit innocent and lacking in confidence for me

i need quite a strong character

Nymphadora · 19/07/2007 19:50

Ok haven't read the whole thread but I have been on my own with the kids for 6 years and had absolutly nothing in that tim e(well one snog!) and as I was preg with dd2 when I split up with my Xh I was really paranoid about my body!

Anyway just started seeing someone and we got carried away one night and the sex just happened and I didn't have chance to be paranoid and am quite glad that it was like that IYSWIM

lou33 · 19/07/2007 19:50
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allgonebellyup · 20/07/2007 14:31

Got my date coming up on sunday, ahhh!

we spoke on the phone last night for half an hour, he had me wetting myself laughing which is great, but im still dreading he will not be my type and i just wont fancy him!!!

lou33 · 20/07/2007 16:30

ooh good luck, hope it all goes well!

allgonebellyup · 20/07/2007 16:49

thanks, i am getting so paranoid that i wont fancy him that i asked him to give himself a mark out of ten for attractiveness (on the phone).(!!!!!)

He reckons a 7.. should i be pleased?

lou33 · 20/07/2007 17:38

lol 7 is probably what most would say so not to appear too cocky or too fugly

am sure he will be fine, have you seen pics?

allgonebellyup · 20/07/2007 20:08

yes seen pics but he looks super gorgeous in one of them and just averagey in the others, but i can tell theyre all of him.

i think the one where he looks gorge is a one off- i have some of me where i look fab and dont look at all like me!