how long have you been a single parent?

[AMAZINWOMAN]

ive been a single parent now for oevr 7 years
i chose to be alone

i cant imagine myself being settled again and sharing the parenting responsibility-its been so long

but i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life! im worried that i will be though as we are very close and for someone to come in our lives it would affect the dynamics

Where are you sugar? In kent where abouts? T. Wells here!

strains of some day my prince will come?

ikwym, dd1 is 15, and the thought of 18 yr old boys trying it on, ewwww

Nearly 4 years. I have 2 DC.
I have been seeing 'a friend' for about a year but he lives 200 miles away and I only see him probably once a month. Im still a single parent and to be honest I do enjoy it this way sometimes, best of both worlds i guess, the intimacy and the space. He is great with the kids but...

I do worry that i dont feel i will be able to share my house (and life) again with someone.

On the flip side usually when i have PMT, I feel lonely and want more.

1 yr if you count the blip and 17mths if you don't (I don't).

Don't think I will ever meet anyone else, and even if I did, my self confidence is now so low i'd muck it up anyway.

maybe our expectations have risen already! Give it another 6 months and im sure i'll be as long as his single and has a pulse!!!

Charlie im in hartley by blue water so not that far from you.

Awww Nutty. I'm sure that's not true.
But then I think the same way at times.

2.5yrs, but would love to settle down one day and have a bigger family.

Oh I dunno Elf, haven't even had an admiring glance from anyone since i've been single, nevermind anything else, and I know me having kids has put at least one person off.

I keep telling people I don't care, which is crap as I do really, I think I am just giving up so that I can't be dissapointed when nothing does happen.

Sucks, doesn't it?
I'm a born pessimist. Never disappointed then.
I can't remember the last time I got an admiring glance.

Mind you i'd probably run a bloody mile if I did get an admiring glance LOL, wouldn't have a clue what to do or say or anything.

Oh well, maybe one day I will find out.

i did have a guy ask for my number on wednesday in the hospital waiting area.Which boosted my ego way high. But crashing down now as he hasnt called. Telling myself he put my number in wrong!

i split from dh in april and am on my 2nd (potential) fling. i do get looks from blokes which is good for my confidence but told i am quite cocky!

well i have a bloke, but until we live together i still class myself as a single parent. so 8 1/2 years now.

agbu you go girl!! Please send a few my way

agbu i get looks and offers too, but alas since my bf moved to thailand, although i have been on a few dates, they just havent inspired me to meet them for a second one

i have one on weds which is more hopeful than the last few, but even so i dont know if there will be enough spark for me to make an effort tbh

i live in hope tho!

Lou, could you answer me a question.......

What's a date?

they tend to last a couple of hours and have no spark in them, and i find myself desperately trying too while away a couple of hours on a dullard, while being unable to det drunk enough to make it amusing, as i am always driving

that's my experience anyway

*to

Ooohhhh. One of them. Trying to behave like a lady by not drinking pints/out of bottles/more than them.
Wearing tight magic knickers to hide the lumps and bumps etc

i have lots to learn about dating again!

lol god no i just be me, they can likeit or lump it

I don't know what would be worse:
taking off magic knickers to find a little bit 'more' of someone or taking off a Wonderbra and finding nothing!!

I've been a single parent for 4.5yrs, dd is 5.

Just sort of got rid of boyf after 2.5yrs but have always paraented alone and consider myself a single parent.

I always end up with complete losers

2 and a bit years. I've been asked out a few (very few!) times but I've been so messed up in my head that I knew there was no point even trying to see someone. Once I get my own and dd's life a bit more on track, I'd like to be more sociable, primarily to meet more women friends and just have a life but dating will not be my priority and certainly not using dating websites because I'm convinced I would just attract the wrong type of man. If I ever go on a date again, it will not be in a restaurant with slow service!!!

Relationships currently seem like too much hassle but I have a secret dream (not secret now) that I will have an 'Autumn' romance which will be the love of my life. i.e. I will wave dd off to university, or whatever method she chooses to leave the nest and have her own life, and I will meet someone and we will have a second youth together in our late middle age (I am late 30s now), no hassles, no responsibilities, lots of fun, travel, romance, and it will last (yes) until we finally crumble and croak, one one week after the other. It will be so nice. I'm not sure what sex will be like at that age though.

If someone comes along in the meantime, I might consider it but it would have to be a slow-burning, get to know them as friends first type of relationship.

But I do think, despite what Lou's friend says, that there are men out there whose dream it is to find a ready-made family and they can't all be duds or doing it for the wrong reasons. (?)

both at the same time phe?!