how long have you been a single parent?

[AMAZINWOMAN]

ive been a single parent now for oevr 7 years
i chose to be alone

i cant imagine myself being settled again and sharing the parenting responsibility-its been so long

but i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life! im worried that i will be though as we are very close and for someone to come in our lives it would affect the dynamics

have pics of 4 of them in my profile. got to get 1 of dd 8 and ds 17!!! and yes thats years not months

allgonebellyup - "Has anyone ever heard of blokes being interested in women with 2 (or even more!!) children once they are late 30s?
i cant imagine going out on dates once i get to that age!"

You don't automatically become an old decrepit hag once you get past 30 you know.

I've been on my own for 12 years. My DDs are 15 and 14 and I have a son of 6 months from a relationship last year which ended pretty sharpish when he found out I was pregnant!

I've given up on relationships as I have appalling taste in men. Wish I'd learnt to concentrate on the things that really matter when I was younger though rather than trying to find the right partner.

Oi!! old and decrepit? I'm 39 and just met my sexy Texan in December, also have 2 kids. He thinks the sun shines out of my fanjo

We're head over heels so it does happen, I know lots that have met nice guys and have kids.

im 40, got 4 kids, had a bf of 29 for 9m before he emigrated

had a few dates since , all dullards, but have one tomorrow with a guy of 28 who isnt in the least bit phased by my age or my kds, so here's hoping

i dont want to think as my friend said, that at my age i have to give up because noone will take me on with 4 kids

I am only 29, I so hate to think I could be alone forever, so depressing.

but lou you are very beautiful and no way would i guess you are 40!

uly love american accents and sean connery

am jealous of ulysees

am of you (lou)

god dont be, my life is dull and i only tend to meet idiots

At least you do meet people though Lou, imagine not ever meeting anyone at all, and then there you are in my life LOL.

hmm but in some ways meeting people only makes you feel more depressed when you realise how uninspiring they are

nutcracker, can you not arrange a few girlie nights out to meet some potential blokes?

or even online dating? (although obviously has slightly dodgy reputation)

Actually all the men i meet now make me realise what a saint my dh was, and how funny/thoughtful/goodlooking he was, and makes me so frustrated that i chucked him out.
(he has refused to ever return and is seeing someone new)

Have tried loads of online dating sites, and I only get conctacted by blokes old enough to be my grandad or blokes quite obviously only after extra marital sex.

Unfortunatly I don't really get any oppotunities for nights out.

the dates i've had have just made me miss my exbf more, and realise what a rare kind of guy he is/was

Awww Lou, thats sad.

The thing that scares me most, is that I might meet someone, fall for them in a big way, set up home together etc etc , and then they leave me. I think I kinda feel like because I was the one to get rid of xp that what goes around comes around iykwim.

Silly eh.

ikwym nutty

wrt me its really sad, i'm trying to move on but tbh i dont know if i ever will

i think he was my one, you know?

Lou

Wonder if that saying is true, tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved' is that it ??

I know xp wasn't my one, so can only hope he is still out there somewhere, however cheesy that sounds lol.

Lou - there's more than one 'the one' you know. If there weren't, there'd be a lot more people who were single.

I'm like kewcumber - 42 and chose to be single. So that's 4 months that I've been a single parent but I'd add in most of last year too as I don't think you can count being up the duff as being on the market

i know , but he was my one, one lol

Ah well, I am officially back on the market as of yesterday My 'vaguely seeing' someone turned out to be too damn vague, so we are now 'just friends' (yeah, right!)

Actually feel rather relieved - have my weekends back now to spend with ds and my lovely friends, not schlepping across London for nowt...

(It does help that I got 'Women Who Run With The Wolves' for my birthday!)

Sorry just got back here! I was 40 when I met dh so no way is it all over by 35!!! That's just ridiculous! I'm having the best (and most) sex of my life and my dh is nearly 50!!

And don't dismiss online dating entirely because that's how we met and he is a gem! It can happen but I realise that there's a LOT of sifting the wheat from the chaff to be done. I had completely lost faith before I met dh and it did seem too much hassle for a lot of grief so I know what you all mean. I would just say don't give up entirely and keep a small part of your mind open to the possibility and don't take any crap from any of them!!

lol and ewwww at the thought of me having lots of sex at 40 plus!!!!!

no offence intended ooops