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how long have you been a single parent?

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AMAZINWOMAN · 06/07/2007 19:41

ive been a single parent now for oevr 7 years
i chose to be alone

i cant imagine myself being settled again and sharing the parenting responsibility-its been so long

but i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life! im worried that i will be though as we are very close and for someone to come in our lives it would affect the dynamics

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lou33 · 16/07/2007 20:09

well i hope so sky

i did have a bf for 9m after splitting with my h, so there has to be more than him!

PersonalHouseElf · 16/07/2007 20:11

Not me! I'm blessed/cursed in the norkage department. Maybe if he discovered that they weren't as perky when the bra comes off!

lou33 · 16/07/2007 20:22

in which case you have been spying on me!

PersonalHouseElf · 16/07/2007 20:27

Me? Never!

(damn, I've been busted!)

zookeeper · 16/07/2007 20:29

about 6 hours

I'm already knackered

Ulysees · 16/07/2007 20:30

I'm sort of a single parent. Left dh in March and we share custody. I have a partner but we haven't lived together yet. Exdh is great with the kids so it isn't that bad for me yet and stand in awe of my mates who don't get much help.

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 20:33

Speaking for myself, and excuse me for being frank, but it is one of the cruel aspects of the fate of being dumped when you are pregnant. If the father were still around, I would like to think he would be feeling guilty for putting you through childbirth, grateful that you chose to have his child and lying to you and reassuring you that yes, your norks are still as perky as ever after bfing and no, there's no difference down there either, darling. But, as a single parent, just when you are feeling vulnerable, I'm not sure you can expect a new man to love your stretchmarks - it's all very daunting, isn't it?

I'm not up for trying it yet but I think I would have to go for a 'let it all hang out', 'I'm really confident in my womanly skin', 'you will love me for my non-neurotic personality' strategy - and hope he's fooled by it. No control knickers.

Ulysees · 16/07/2007 20:37

I agree, they take you as you are, I've got some stretchmarks and no doubt cellulite although I honestly don't look...will do now though just to see

Confidence is a bigger turn on anyway and it's not as if most men are perfect? Ok, so my last bf was George clooney but even he had awful feet

lou33 · 16/07/2007 20:53

ulysees are you counting down the days?

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 20:55

George's feet eh (smelly?)

Yep, Ulysees, confidence is a turn on but will it work if I'm not actually confident (eek!)? I'll have to practice (being confident) first. Especially as I do want a perfect man next time.

sugar34plum · 16/07/2007 20:56

zookeeper 6 hours?

lou33 · 16/07/2007 20:57

sky, pretend to be someone else and take on their confidence?

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 20:57

Yes, zookeeper, 6 hours??

lou33 · 16/07/2007 21:00

zookeeper are you ok?

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 21:05

lou, ok I'll be Liz Hurley or Jemima Khan. Not because I like either of them but they are both, or have been, single mums, yes? And don't seem to have a problem getting a date? (although they are both rich and beautiful as well, no? - might have something to do with it?)

It would work in the short term but I'd have to be careful not to let the facade slip.

Who have you been then?

j20baby · 16/07/2007 21:12

tecnically 6 years with dd, but had 2 lomg term relationships since then, both of them i was still a single parent to dd, and to them most of the time! am now 6 months pg and alone..probably forever, just can not be arsed with men or relationships ever again!

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 21:16

I know that feeling j20baby.

j20baby · 16/07/2007 21:19

crap aint it? i wouldn't mind, i can just about cope with the lonliness, but being pg is making me have really erotic dreams so feeling frustrated too!

lou33 · 16/07/2007 21:20

lol noone but when i was v shy years ago i just used to pretend i wasnt me iyswim, just so i could speak to people

then i discovered i didnt need to pretend as often and actually had gained some of my own confidence

i'd be monica bellucci tho

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 21:44

Yes it is crap j20b. Pregnancy hormones and libido - what a combination. You couldn't just use your ex for a while, expediency reasons? No, I know you have your morals and that would be beneath you.

Lou, I just googled Monica Bellucci. (I've been out of the culture/film loop for a while, due to no babysitters). You have much better taste than me and you do actually look a bit like MB or, should I say, she is a pale imitation of you!!

Yurtgirl · 16/07/2007 21:45

One year and 2 days!

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 21:46

And counting!

j20baby · 16/07/2007 21:57

i would if i could but he makes me feel sick

skyatnight · 16/07/2007 22:02

Hold that thought...and try and subliminally introduce it into your dreams. (I think you need Paul McKenna.)

George Clooney has bad feet apparently (Ulysees?) Crumbling-Athlete's-foot-toenails...

Is any of this helping?

zookeeper · 16/07/2007 22:19

yes I am ok thanks Lou33 - dp and I have split up after nearly 15 years together - we have been arguing furiously for two months and he finally left today, but we are both so knackered with it all we managed to be very civilised, almost amuicable.

anyway, I guess I'm a lone parent too now - half of me is wondering how on earth I'll cope the other is taking inspiration from you lot who sound very strong.

sorry to hijack thread!