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I'm going to get slaughtered for this, I bet

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satyricon · 02/07/2007 14:01

I'm brand new on the site. I'm not even sure why I'm here, in fact. But the message boards seem so friendly and supportive, so I thought I'd try my question. Bear in mind that I'm a guy and therefore clearly quite dim.

My partner and I split up about 6 months ago. She had miscarried a month or two before and after that, everything changed. She didn't want to be around me, didn't want support or company, just wanted to be alone. Finally she told me she was moving away and she didn't love me any more. It was a terrible experience, and it's taken me a while to come to terms with it. I suspect I might never see her again. Certainly, the last time we spoke, that was how she was feeling. I've tried very hard and I do understand that what she's doing is trying to do is to rub that part of her life out... and that means me.

OK, so that doesn't make me a lone parent. Sorry if this is in the wrong place.

This question's going to sound pretty humdrum after all the stuff I've just said, but her goes. How do you get back into dating and the whole scene? It's been a long time and I'm totally clueless. And what makes it worse is that I was a real social vulture before all this. Going back to the clubs and bars I used to hang out in just seems a little meaningless and dull. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Am I just a bit of a freak?

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newlifenewname · 03/07/2007 14:04

Well I'm sure most of us singletons will want a REAL man who can withstand a bit of hen pecking so I suppose this does at least serve that purpose, in case he was shly fishing for a date.

satyricon · 03/07/2007 14:06

No real men here. I think you're all safe.

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Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 14:07

Now look, someone has done another thread all about you! If that isn't welcoming then I don't know what is!

newlifenewname · 03/07/2007 14:07

Can I just ask as to your REAL man status - do you have a hairy chest?

Fluff, counteth not. REAL hair only.

satyricon · 03/07/2007 14:08

I'd like to thank everyone, unreservedly, for such a warm welcome. And yes, seeing as you ask, I'm afraid I do have a hairy chest.

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SurferRosa · 03/07/2007 14:09

Oh girls, girls...

I don't mind what he is. I like him. I like his eloquence. And having seen his profile now, I think he sounds wonderful

Also I think it's fair to say that had a woman posted the original post for this thread, we would have been easier to welcome her...having lost a child at whatever stage of its life, qualifies this chap as a father, if not a 'mum'...IMO that is...

And it is probably the case that his child's 'should have been' birthday is around now. So he 'should' have been a RL father now.

A little sensitivity.

(gotta go as DS1 has decided to cut the lawn using my feeler gauge and I shall be distraught if he loses it.

Satyr, I'm glad you like the pixies. I'd be a crap partner now so dating/motive for your presence is irrelevant, but still like chatting to you. So please stick around if you can stand the cynicism!

Tinkerbel5 · 03/07/2007 14:10

satyricon do you have a hairy back and arms aswell ?, just asking for the ladies

KerryMum · 03/07/2007 14:11

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CatIsSleepy · 03/07/2007 14:11
Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 14:12

Er no, it's on the other thread.

satyricon · 03/07/2007 14:12

Guys, I used to be a news journalist. Believe me, I have a very very thick skin. Metaphorically speaking, of course.

In the interests of remaining businesslike, therefore, I have no intention of answering the question about back hair.

But no, I don't. Yuk.

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satyricon · 03/07/2007 14:13

I wondered if that one would come up. Never read that one? I recommend it. Very funny.

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Tinkerbel5 · 03/07/2007 14:14

you dont have to be businesslike here

SurferRosa · 03/07/2007 14:14

pS I don't usually write with such a marked absence of proper grammar/spelling, but seem to be breatsfeeding a small infant while typing with one hand. Add to that my literary confidence falls apart at the seams in the presence of a real writer (who is admittedly rather attractive!!!)

I must take the opportunity to say, for those of you who know me, my profile is gone due to having had a fight with my friend last week...long story but had to name change! I'm not a newbie, honest

KerryMum · 03/07/2007 14:14

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nomdeplume · 03/07/2007 14:15

Hello Satyricon, welcome to MN.

Wisteria · 03/07/2007 14:16

Am i being daft, but what is a feeler gauge?

I have to thank Satyricon as he is solely responsible for me finding a long lost album which I'd forgotten about but used to adore, sadly badly mutilated like all my other vinyl, and ordering it off Amazon, am now very excited!!

SurferRosa · 03/07/2007 14:18

Wist, woulda taped it for you!

Feeler gauge is a thing you use to measure distance between tappets on a motorcycle engine.

Well you did ask Gin
or even

talcy0 · 03/07/2007 14:19

Hello satyricon.
Very pleased to meet you.

KerryMum · 03/07/2007 14:19

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CatIsSleepy · 03/07/2007 14:20
Kewcumber · 03/07/2007 14:21

talcy's in the lead (given the PVC conversation)

Wisteria · 03/07/2007 14:21

SR - unless you're psychic you don't know which album I bought !! although I particularly liked the gin ref!

CatIsSleepy · 03/07/2007 14:22

(do people still tape things??)

Kewcumber · 03/07/2007 14:24

parcels - I tape parcels does that count?

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