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I'm going to get slaughtered for this, I bet

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satyricon · 02/07/2007 14:01

I'm brand new on the site. I'm not even sure why I'm here, in fact. But the message boards seem so friendly and supportive, so I thought I'd try my question. Bear in mind that I'm a guy and therefore clearly quite dim.

My partner and I split up about 6 months ago. She had miscarried a month or two before and after that, everything changed. She didn't want to be around me, didn't want support or company, just wanted to be alone. Finally she told me she was moving away and she didn't love me any more. It was a terrible experience, and it's taken me a while to come to terms with it. I suspect I might never see her again. Certainly, the last time we spoke, that was how she was feeling. I've tried very hard and I do understand that what she's doing is trying to do is to rub that part of her life out... and that means me.

OK, so that doesn't make me a lone parent. Sorry if this is in the wrong place.

This question's going to sound pretty humdrum after all the stuff I've just said, but her goes. How do you get back into dating and the whole scene? It's been a long time and I'm totally clueless. And what makes it worse is that I was a real social vulture before all this. Going back to the clubs and bars I used to hang out in just seems a little meaningless and dull. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Am I just a bit of a freak?

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KerryMum · 03/07/2007 13:38

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Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 13:38

Well I'm sure you'll get lots of CATs and I hope you'll be very happy with whomever you choose.

KerryMum · 03/07/2007 13:39

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Kewcumber · 03/07/2007 13:40

KM - it is because I am COOL.

satyricon · 03/07/2007 13:40

I have better things to spend a fiver on than the Mumsnet CAT service, thanks.

But that, by the way, WAS nasty.

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KerryMum · 03/07/2007 13:41

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Kewcumber · 03/07/2007 13:41

said with just the right amount of disdain Rhubarb!

Beauty parade by CAT, there's a thought...

Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 13:41

Why?

CatIsSleepy · 03/07/2007 13:42

i don't think it was nasty satryricon, sarcastic possibly

satyricon · 03/07/2007 13:42

Because I've already said that I'm not trawling for dates. But, dear Rhubarb, you seem determined to disbelieve me. S

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Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 13:46

Just for your info, as I'm sure you know, you don't have to pay a fiver to receive CATs, but you do have to pay to send them.

And in your second post you humourously suggested you should have called your thread "any bored ladies in the Highbury area".

Yet you are offended when I suggest that you might want to receive CATs?

Perhaps you should try Netmums then, they are more cuddly over there, less cynical and without sarcasm.

satyricon · 03/07/2007 13:48

Goodness. The first post in answer to my original thread made a lewd comment. Just trying to show a sense of humour. If you're feeling short of it today, I can cheerfully post a few jokes for you.

My, what a suspicious thing you are. A wide-eyed chap like me doesn't seem to stand much of chance, does he?

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Tinkerbel5 · 03/07/2007 13:48

satyricon don't think we are all cliquey and bitchy cause we aren't, welcome to the site

Carmenere · 03/07/2007 13:50

Speak for yourself Tinkerbell, I'm both cliquey and bitchy

KerryMum · 03/07/2007 13:52

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Tinkerbel5 · 03/07/2007 13:53

oh well carmenere we all have a cross to bare

Kewcumber · 03/07/2007 13:53

no-one ever lets me be in their Clique (except the west london possee and I don't think they count)

Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 13:53

You call that a "lewd" comment! Blimey you really are wide eyed then aren't you? And was that "lewd comment" not made by Tinkerbel5 there?

I have to say, the other men on this site can give and take a lot more than you can.

Tinkerbel5 · 03/07/2007 13:55

a man in real fur

DonutBouvier · 03/07/2007 13:55

oh c'mon - give satyricon a chance !

Tinkerbel5 · 03/07/2007 13:56

I think he's gone to lunch anyway, might have to go and do the washing up then

newlifenewname · 03/07/2007 13:58

Obviously guilty until proved otherwise on mn at the moment. This is what trolls do to forums, can't believe you cynics allow it to happen.

Tinkerbel5 · 03/07/2007 14:01

you cynics, lol

Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 14:02

He has lots of supportive posts, it's nice to get a balance though isn't it?

No-one says he is a troll, and we have even said he is welcome, but he is taking offence at everything right now. Which on Mumsnet, puts you at a bit of a disadvantage.

CatIsSleepy · 03/07/2007 14:04

FWIW I think he genuinely wants to be on MN (has a proper profile and everything) so it's up to him to stick around if he wants to and not be put off by a sarky comment or two!