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I'm going to get slaughtered for this, I bet

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satyricon · 02/07/2007 14:01

I'm brand new on the site. I'm not even sure why I'm here, in fact. But the message boards seem so friendly and supportive, so I thought I'd try my question. Bear in mind that I'm a guy and therefore clearly quite dim.

My partner and I split up about 6 months ago. She had miscarried a month or two before and after that, everything changed. She didn't want to be around me, didn't want support or company, just wanted to be alone. Finally she told me she was moving away and she didn't love me any more. It was a terrible experience, and it's taken me a while to come to terms with it. I suspect I might never see her again. Certainly, the last time we spoke, that was how she was feeling. I've tried very hard and I do understand that what she's doing is trying to do is to rub that part of her life out... and that means me.

OK, so that doesn't make me a lone parent. Sorry if this is in the wrong place.

This question's going to sound pretty humdrum after all the stuff I've just said, but her goes. How do you get back into dating and the whole scene? It's been a long time and I'm totally clueless. And what makes it worse is that I was a real social vulture before all this. Going back to the clubs and bars I used to hang out in just seems a little meaningless and dull. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Am I just a bit of a freak?

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KerryMum · 02/07/2007 17:56

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BigGitDad · 02/07/2007 17:56

BGd has kids, two of them, read my profile.

Cappuccino · 02/07/2007 17:57

no not you biggit

the OP

it sounds a bit, well, odd to me

BigGitDad · 02/07/2007 17:58

But to me Kerry (how is your lad doing btw?)this site is more than just about parenting, it deals with relationships and human issues, that is were blokes can learn from. Men from Mars and Women from Venus and all that stuff..

BigGitDad · 02/07/2007 17:59

Leaving work now will come back on later after corrie!

Judy1234 · 02/07/2007 18:01

May be join something. If you're interested in football a football club (although that won't get you a new woman I suppose) or something mixed, whatever your interests are.

Or go on line. Huge numbers of people on dating web sites.

FlamingTomatoes · 02/07/2007 18:06

join a pottery class

full of bored housewives LOL

KerryMum · 02/07/2007 18:56

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jellyjelly · 02/07/2007 20:45

Are you still on here? Why dont you join Parentsalready which is very reasonably priced or match.com Am on parents and its good. Have yet to try match properly.

fireflyfairy2 · 02/07/2007 20:53

Why shouldn't he join here & post? Because he is not a father?

iirc there are lots of women on here who are not mothers

paulaplumpbottom · 02/07/2007 22:12

Not very friendly Jelly

1dilemma · 03/07/2007 01:32

satyr to answer the question hobbies, shared interests join clubs, classes, exercise, holidays whatever you feel happy doing. Be careful if you go for flings and welcome to mumsnet!

satyricon · 03/07/2007 08:51

Hmmm. Have just come back to the thread.

So what are you guys saying? That I'm not welcome? I'm not sure I understand.

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Judy1234 · 03/07/2007 09:49

Why should someone without children who is male not be able to post? The point of the internet is that you get views of very different people that in real life you might never meet.

chopster · 03/07/2007 10:16

I agree with xenia

The thing I lvoe about internet forums is that very thing of meeting different people.

chopster · 03/07/2007 10:16

oh and saty, it's a forum for anybody, it's up to you whether or not you post.

Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 10:22

How odd! I've just read all of your posts satyricon and I dunno, I'll get lynched for this I'm sure, but something just seems a bit odd?

Can I ask how you came across Mumsnet?

Good luck and all that, and I'm sorry you've had a shit time. Hope you don't mind my voicing my puzzlement over your posts.

Piffle · 03/07/2007 10:24

I've been waiting years to pass on my infinite wisdom to men. Heaven knows my partner is immune
so naturally I relish the thought of collectively (cyber) forming and nurturing a "new man"

So welcome to the den...

jeremyvile · 03/07/2007 10:24

You're entitled to post if you want to, as someone else said, i believe there are women without children who post.

Piffle · 03/07/2007 10:25

rhuby rhuby rhuby it's the ....
Lav like
but we must move on

jeremyvile · 03/07/2007 10:27

A word of advice though, if you think MN will be a good place to sleaze around and pick up bored housewives, well, its really not that sort of place and i dont think it would be appreciated by the majority.
Sorry if thats not your intention.

michaelad · 03/07/2007 10:29

Oooh.. a writer, someone with a very good taste in authors, a funny profile and a Pixies fan.

I'd be tempted if I wasn't already married to one fabulous writer!

Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 10:30

Ok, it's this "Seriously though... only a few guys? Whatever happened to men who really listened to what a woman has to say? I've buzzed through some of the threads and it strikes me that the feminine wisdom on here would come in extremely handy to the average clueless bloke. "

I don't know any man who talks like that unless he wants to endear himself. And I'm sorry but your posts do read like you want to perhaps look for a date on Mumsnet.

Sure anyone can post and there are lots of dads on here, I believe you would be the first childless guy however, but at someone said, if you think this is a dating board, well then just take care.

DonutBouvier · 03/07/2007 10:31

blimey, why can't satyr post - why are you all looking for ulterior motives ? I've read his posts so far and he comes across as intelligent and honest and nice - he's suffered a miscarriage, that was a potential child, so why shouldn't he participate ?

Rhubarb · 03/07/2007 10:31

The profile reads like a dating ad in itself.

Sorry, am I being too harsh? Just thought you might like the feedback from the wise words of a woman!

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