Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

[Solo]

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

LINK TO THE FIRST THREAD

Can I join....H left 2 months ago and I'm finding it all a bit much. We have a DS 4 and I'm 3 months pregnant. Can't see how I can keep my job or pay the mortgage but have at least applied for tax credits (working & child) and also council tax discount. I have DS all the time as H has nowhere yet, he's seen him where he can and the only overnight he had him (I was told he was taking him to his mothers) he went night fishing with his older Son and my DS had to sleep across the van seats 😡.

Anyway communication have completely driven down as we can't talk without getting into an argument.

Anyway, hello

Hi Doo and welcome! . You are at a very emotionally charged time and add to that being pg...it must be very tough going for you.
Glad you have your discounts and tc's sorted and I hope your h helps you out financially too. Can you talk to your mortgage lender? Worrying time I know. Keep posting though _ this thread can get quiet, but there are some die hard members here still.

So DS had gone with his dad this weekend...I'm broken and nearly went and got him from nursery before H could get him....but I need to do what's good for DS. It's my first weekend alone :(

Oh Doo :( do something nice for yourself and before you know it Ds will be back with you

Doo how was your weekend? I hope it was ok. My two were at their mums over the weekend as well. I always feel down without them around but try to take the chance to rest my joints and try to get into some kind of fighting shape for the following two weeks.

Today was not a great day though, just as we were leaving the house to take DD to school I managed to trap DS's finger in the living room door. He had so many things in his arms I couldn't see where his hands were and just caught him. Feel awful that I've hurt him and we spent all morning out getting it checked. GP had no appointments so sent us to the minor injury unit. Got there and they saw us only to saw they can't xray under 5s so take him to A&E, which is in the city on the other side of our house to where we were. Took him there and luckily the childrebs A&E wasn't busy so we got seen quite quickly. Luckily its not broken just a soft tissue injury.

So that was not a fun day

Hey chronic, it was ok, H ended up dropping DS home more than 24 hrs early....(not that I mind). Sorry you've not had a good day, hope the finger is on the mend soon. This is my weekend with DS but money is tight so not sure what to do I find swing parks incredible boring!

Luckily he seemed to be getting better with it before bed so hopefully tomorrow will be better. I'm glad your weekend was ok.

My DD is 4 as well and I find some of the best ways to fill time on my weekends with them is simple things. She loves it if I bring all our pillows and duvets downstairs to make a bed/nest on the floor in the living room and we just watch movies all day. Hopefully the weathers nice this weekend so it gives you the option of breaking up the days by going out.

Hi! Sorry for my absence. My laptop is playing up .

Dd's father has not phoned since last week Sunday; must've cost him a fortune! But do I care? No I don't! He was supposed to call her on Saturday but didn't; she's not bothered. I have my mean, nasty and private thoughts about him even though I'm not really a mean or nasty person usually.

I will make a new thread soon btw. :)

Solo I'm sorry your DDs father is such a twat. I've never understood how anyone could let their child down like that or be uninterested in them. Its horrible that shes become used to being let down but at the same time at least shes not getting upset.

I'm the same with thoughts about my STBX when she cancels her weekends with the kids or swnds them home early.

On a different note I've finally had a Community Paediatrics appointment through for DS in august so we now start down the fun filled path of seeing whether he has a developmental condition that cab be diagnosed

Hello everyone. I haven't been able to read through the whole thread but am just placemarking until i have some time! Haha the very idea of it...
Exh and I split up last January, 3 boys aged 3 9 and 12, and I am struggling at the moment with the relentlessness of our daily lives. I work 30 hours a week over 4 days and I feel like I am doing none of my roles well- whatever I do it seems like I'm letting someone down.

I have had to take time off today from work because I got bitten by a nasty flying something and my foot has swollen up I can't get shoes on- not even crocs- and I feel guilty as hell!

And now I actually have that hallowed thing, a day to myself, and I'm sat here looking at the house and it's untidiness and basically wasting my day online instead. Where has my motivation gone!

Aaaaaarrrgggghhhhhh

Thanks CPD but, what can you do?

Hello and welcome MrsM I'm about ready to make a new thread so keep an eye open :).
Please stop beating yourself up! And stop worrying about trying to get everything done! Unless you are Super Woman it can't all be perfect! Mine is a pigsty and really nasty atm but, Dd is clean, tidy and well fed not to mention loved beyond measure and I'm sure your Dc's are the same...it's what's important! :)

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