Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

[Solo]

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

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Is it the ex's nature to dramatise things CPD? What excuses will she be coming up with with a newborn. Why don't you challenge her on it and say something? Or would this make matters worse!

She has form for having grain of truth in what she says but she leaves out bits that would show it to be less of an issue. At one point shw told me that she'd been told her unborn child only had a 20% chance of surviving to term. I have a feeling the truth is more somewhere along the line of 'you have this condition and at its worst there is a 20% survival rate but you are at the vwry mild end so the risk is negligable.'

Well either that or she made it all up. I'm not really in the mood to be kind to her this weekend as I was desperate for two nights without the kids to rest my joints as I habe to push myself further then is ideal when looking after the kids. So I am in pain and tired as obviously getting at call at 5am did not lead to a good nights rest. I've also had to try and distract DD from thinking too much about how she was meant to be at her mums for two nights but got sent home as soon as she woke up after one.

I would love to call her on all this but I've found it useless to try. When we were together she turned everything into a massive arguement and always managed to make it so I was the one who apologised for bringing up things. In the end I gave up and never raised any issues with her. Since shes left I'm perfectly happy to call her on her bullshit but have found that if I do she then drags the kids into it. Not long after she left she came to visit the kids at the house so I said to DD 'I'm just going to go upstairs to let you have time together with mummy' and she immediately turned to then 3 year old DD and said 'what daddy means is hes going to go slag mummy off to his friends and Nanny and Bampy.' It was awful

Goodness, it's just too darned hot!

Yep it certainly is. The upstairs of the house is like an oven. Ds didn't put any suncream on for school Monday and came home from sports day with a red neck and red face lol. I did warn him!

It is cooler today where I live but still nice and warm however it isn't sweltering like yesterday. :)

Yes, same here. I got caught last week at sports day...back of my neck is sore!

It's going to be hot again today so am gearing up for it ... 29 degrees.

At least the washing will dry in no time! I do find the heat uncomfortable though.

Supposed to be 34 degrees here but so far it feels a lot cooler thank goodness which is welcome! I can't take hot weather anymore either.

Its been hot here but less so today then the rest of the week and it actually rained for a little bit earlier which was nice. I have my DDs first ever sports day tomorrow so I'm lookong forward to watching her but I'm having to take her little brother as my parents can't watch him and I think he might try to join in all thw races if I'm not careful

Cooler here this morning and then it heated right up!

Enjoy sports day CPD and try to take lots of pictures!

Sports day has been postponed unfortunately. It started drissling at about 10 and with sports day starting at 1 they decided the field would be too slippery for the kids. The key stage 2 years did their sports day this morning so only the key stage 1 years are having to rearrange

Aw! :(

Yeah DD was upset about it so we had a cuddle and ordered a takeaway and she perked right up. Don't order in food very often so she sees it as a big treat

Now ds goes to secondary school I don't have to attend sports days which is a relief after several years! Ds has exams this week so it is keeping him quiet lol. He claims as he got top marks for his geography test the other week there is no need to study for his geography exam today well I hope he is right lol. Oddly enough he got the highest mark in his year. Normally he never excels much so it came as a shock! I wonder if it will continue though ....

I suppose it depends on how he learns Polly. I've always been unusual in that I have only rarely had to revise subjects I was weak in. I was able to recall most rhings without revising and actually found that I tended to do worse on the exams I had revised for then the ones I'd not botheres too but I am a very rare case I think. At least hes not stressing too much about the exams though, there seems to be more pressure on kids nowadays then there used to be

Yes it is good he doesn't get stressed CPD. He excels at spelling too and takes that in his stride - invariably getting 8 or 9 out of 10 etc I tell him why not study it also that way guaranteeing 10 out of 10 but he isn't motivated.

He does do badly on his maths papers but the way things are with my sorry finances this year I can't afford private lessons but will have to prioritise them in a few years when he takes the GCSE syllabus. I bought a workbook but struggle with maths myself! I only got grade D at o level .... so it is the blind leading the blind!

Flowers I took maths GCSE last year...I got a d and was fairly okay with that as I failed so badly at CSE maths at school and don't take information in with very much at all these days it's quite an acheivement for me...you know you can sign up to do GCSE maths and English if you got d or less don't you? And it's free too. I'm thinking I might do English this coming year; it's my better subject.

BTW, Carol Vorderman's books here are most excellent! They helped me a lot! And this price is brilliant too. :)

Thanks Solo I think they are for younger children only anyway I think ds is ok with maths really but just not good at the tests. He did all the easy answers first for the exam but did not do the last 3 pages as he ran out of time. He claims he will practise online - yeh right!

Not desperate enough to do GCSE maths online - I did do a numeracy course locally a few years ago it was supposed to be for adults and on the same level but then I got sick and couldn't take the exam. I found it quite easy on the whole. I know I really struggle with those shapes questions though - rhombus trapezium and all that lark!

No! Those books help any age because they are so easy to use. My maths teacher recommended it to us.

I dread the years from now when I'll be asked to help with homework. I'll more then likely be on stronger medication then I am now and it already makes it hard for me to concentrate. I used to be quite clever, did well at school and then was an ICT and telecommunications technician in the RAF but now know that I'm not the man I once was mentally as well as physically

I will have to look into it although may as well wait until September now I don't fancy sitting down with maths books over the school holidays lol.

Met up with ex (Dd's father) last weekend; it's been 3 years since last met up. Dd not really that interested but, he has now not called three times after arranging that he would (he's back abroad again now). I don't think Dd is that bothered tbh and I'm certainly not (my heart still hurts) as it's too hard for me. Pain in the neck!

But I meant to say that she must be dreaming of him as she's talking in her sleep..."Mum, Dad..."

Ds is asking me to pay for something for him to the tune of £150 saying I could give it as an early birthday and Christmas present. I feel very used. I have not agreed to do it. Should I?

Solo if you have the spare £150 and he doesn't expect something at Xmas then maybe - but it is quite a lot to spend. I assume his birthday is near to Xmas?

I was rather hoping once children left home their presents became cheaper but perhaps they don't and I am just kidding myself!!

Flowers he will be 19 in August and I too thought that a £30 birthday gift and perhaps up to £50 Christmas would be the right level at that age and having left home. I do have the money (but wish Ds didn't know that) as it's put aside for rewiring and new windows but if I dip into it all the time then I soon won't have any left. And he still owes me loads of money!