Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

[Solo]

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

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Yep! His loss indeed!

I'm beginning to think I'll never understand men!!!

Hi all, I thought I'd send one last text this morning simply saying 'let me know when you have time for coffee' or something along those lines...still nothing! So my dear friends; that, is that I'm not waiting around anymore and I'd have to give serious thought if he did contact me again. Really liked him too :(

Oh that's so crappy Solo - why the hell do the ones you think 'Hmmm......maybe!' have to do that? Always bugs me more. All the happy thoughts, the getting prep'd, the chuffin childcare.....and then they do that.

He's just let you know he's an arse before you had to meet him. Sod him!

Agreed! Fos. Shame, but yes at least I know early!
Oh and the friend that asked my username? She phoned this afternoon too. I couldn't answer and she left a voicemail asking how my hair went and the 'coffee date' (very emphasised), so sent a text later on just saying that I didn't go, may do in the future, but not now. I feel like I will get the 3rd degree if she knows he blew me out, so I might just say it was my decision not to go.

He has sent a text. It was early this morning and I left it several hours before responding. He simply asked when I'm working this week.

Oh......

Never know what to do when that happens......!!!

Typical flaky bloke out there on the market lol. Making decisions with them would seem just downright impossible!

I know and he still hasn't come back to me. Nosy friend called today...I told her the truth (and kept it breezy).

Not feeling full of the joys at the moment. A guy I met who is in the process of leaving the wife is too intermittent with contact so I have told him we cannot meet up until he has moved out. He has just gone on the bidding and has a number at the council (he has a joint tenancy with his wife). We only met once in Feb we did not 'do' anything but I took to him. We have tried to meet up on a number of occasions things keep blocking it. Illness etc.

I emailed him (after a bad night's sleep stewing over it!) to say leave it until he DOES move out. I can't take the intermittent contact. A few days lots of emails/texts then all of a sudden nothing. I find it so stressful.

It seems the male species are notoriously good at ignoring us Solo small wonder they are seeking a girlfriend! Just funny way of showing it isn't it lol. :(

Flowers :( It's so annoying isn't it? We finally (certainly in my case) put ourselves out there and it's not a great experience. I don't know what they think they are doing! For me, I just think that as I've been without a man and all the pleasures (?) and pitfalls that that entails for the best part of 9 years and in fact it may as well be 11 years when I think of the sporadic contact I had with Dd's father and the fact that we were intimate once (well when he actually touched me anyway) once I told him I was pregnant! Sorry that was a rant there! The point was that I feel like I might just as well carry on on my own.

I hope he doesn't mess you around Flowers

And yes I am torn between texting him to ask if he's okay and telling him not to worry about it and move on! But I did like him.

Solo I have been putting myself about for years! That's the honest truth the only reason I stick with him all this time (2 months is a long time for me I usually love them and leave them lol) is he has integrity and character and I see all his goodness and isn't like most men whatsoever. They are so horribly flaky out there I cannot take most of the players that abound on the internet.

Poor lamb has texted this morning he has had to sleep in the car as it has kicked off big time at home and his wife had it planned. She can get violent. He does sound innocent in all of this and I am very seasoned and not the type to take flannel etc. His friend can't put him up although he initially said he could. I suggested he goes to a local leisure centre every two days for a swim and a wash.

He starts a new job Friday too he can hardly be living out of a car!!

I would offer him a shower but still unwell from a nasty bug and wouldn't wish to pass anything on PLUS got a not very sexy cold sore on my bottom lip!!

All part of living the dream innit! :)

I find it almost impossible to meet one I actually LIKE and this time I did. I will just have to hang on in there in his sorry plight.

I always seem to attract the victims!

He sounds nice enough and I hope it works out for you and I can see why you'd want to have him sort out his life before 'taking him on' iyswim? Hope you get what you want Flowers you deserve it.

I still haven't heard from him and really doubt that I will now. I'm the type (nowadays) that would rather be alone than with someone and not happy. I spent too many years accepting crap men and crap relationships and I won't do it anymore.

Right, I need to get ready for work.

Catch you later!

Yes good for you Solo. I don't like taking nonsense either.

Well it turns out we are meeting Monday we are going round a monastery local to him. It appears we have that in common. I love a nice walk round a historic building and a scone makes my day.

Hope this guy either shapes out or you forget about him!

Sounds good! I too love historic buildings :) It's not in Kent is it? With magnificent Magnolia trees?

Not heard anything. I have had a nice message from another man; he looks and sounds okay, but he's 64. I'm not sure about the age really...

No Solo I wish it WAS in Kent I would love to move back nearer to London! I have to reside in the cheapskate midlands these days alas.

It is in Leicestershire we are going to meet up - I live on the border of all 3 of the local counties there is plenty to go and see but sadly never the right companion on hand to go and enjoy it with anybody as a rule!

He has texted this morning to say his friend is putting him up a few days so that is cheery. At least he can arrive clean and shaven for me now!!

If the guy in his sixties is very sprightly you may be ok just make sure he has lots of hobbies and interests and branches out etc as certainly in this region they largely grind to a halt by that age. Luckily this friend of mine is my age so not too over the hill yet and he is a very active type who loves cycling and walking etc. They need to have a pulse and a spark don't they!!

:) I hope you both enjoy yourselves!

Yes that's what I was thinking; if he's active and not 'old' he'd be okay... I haven't replied to him yet.

Hope everyone's dates go well - if all goes to plan I have a meet for coffee planned for tomorrow afternoon!

He's nice looking and texts using core English and grammar so that's a big plus! He's a few years younger than me and never had that before so it's a bit off putting but see how it goes......

Oooh! Have fun! :)

Mine didn't contact me again, so that. is that!

Fos if he is sensible it won't matter if he is just a few years younger as so much depends on the individual. Sometimes they are more with it than the older men lol. That said immaturity is a turn off for me.

It is so difficult to get it absolutely right isn't it!

Hi. Will stop lurking. Single mum of 8 yr old daughter here. I hate my life. Just going through the motions until she's 13 or something and I can finally get a life back... Trouble I, I'll be 50 then and well past my best...

Hey - hello there! Don't believe you'll be past your best, I'm 49 on Tuesday, and I still make the most of life, you'll have a great young outlook and that's worth loads