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NeedsAsockamnesty · 31/03/2014 12:04
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LadyMaryLikesCake ·
02/04/2014 12:52
Hi 
Can I join? Ds is 15 next week 
and I've been a LP since a month before he was born (and I'm absolutely knackered).
Meep is right, Sock. She needs to seek legal advice.
Monetbyhimself ·
02/04/2014 19:29
So contact today consisted of being taken to the library and left bored for 2 hours,whilst he played on his phone, not doing homework, being fed McDonalds (again) and another episode of him deriding DD for her 'attitude' because he's refusing to allow her to go to yet another birthday party at the weekend. This is the fourth party she'll miss this year. Instead she'll be hiding in a cramped bedroom, playing on her phone whilst Ow and Ex exchange snide comments and their snotty toddler screeches. Oh and eating takeaway pizza. Again. Quality contact time 
MeepMeepVroooom ·
02/04/2014 19:44
Yeah I can see what you mean Sock it's just such a shame for your friend that she is having to go through this worry needlessly.
Monet Sounds thrilling
Monetbyhimself ·
02/04/2014 19:56
And they'll come back after the weekend smelly with dirty fingernails, dirty washing and possibly another infestation of headlice, absolutely knackered and high on e numbers. We LOVE contact weekends 
LadyMaryLikesCake ·
02/04/2014 20:06
Ds gets an hour or two, if he's lucky, every 18 months. His father's always hungover, always short tempered and the last time he swore and shouted in ds's face. Ds decided not to see him the last time he decided to 'honour' us with his presence which was, of course, my fault I wouldn't mind an evening to myself sometimes but hey ho.
NigellasDealer ·
02/04/2014 20:10
oh yes mine used to come back high as kites, clutching bags of peanuts (remember exh small children can choke on peanuts) - once it was so bad it took til 3am to get them settled.
now of course he does not bother (he saw them at christmas and sent DS home on the train with £3 for a five hour train journey and no bus home at the other end) and as i said 'upthread' he has just informed the CSA that he earns less than £5 a week and therefore owes us nothing. he drives a Jag ffs.
NigellasDealer ·
02/04/2014 20:24
hmm maybe i will ladymary, maybe i will - ok it would involve a long train journey and some serious stalking but what the hell.
monet - dont tell me yours drives a jag too?
LadyMaryLikesCake ·
02/04/2014 20:26
Is he on facebook? Does he like to update his status about what he's bought or where he's going? Take copies and send them to the CSA. You don't have to sit outside his house 
Monetbyhimself ·
02/04/2014 20:27
Apparently it's OWs. And not bought with the proceeds of the joint account he emptied the day I threw him out. No sir. No way
LadyMaryLikesCake ·
02/04/2014 20:39
I'm cross on your behalf, Nigella. Did HMRC sort him out?
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RedBushedT ·
02/04/2014 21:40
Definitely wasn't thinking!
I have the weird yawning thing off and on. I couldn't go on how I was though. Couldn't sleep, couldn't relax, bursting into tears repeatedly through the day. Think I was heading for a full on breakdown.
My children are fantastic though They make it all worthwhile.
Lioninthesun ·
03/04/2014 00:30
Hi all. Struggling a bit tonight. Pretty ill and it's causing me lack of sleep and anxiety, meaning I get nothing done in the day and feel crap about not being as fun for DD as I should be.
Sounds really trivial, and is, but DD made an amazing easter bonnet and we both were really proud of it (I had to help put it together as it ended up pretty big!) but she literally did 99% of it herself. It was great fun to make but still quite stressful as was in 4 parts. Got it to the fete and was treated as though I had made it for her, and yet all of the others were clearly parent jobs (DD had even drawn a scribble face, so clearly actually made by a child) which was fine, but they all looked the same! DD was pretty upset when she didn't win and I tried to keep a stiff upper lip (feeling ill and not wanting to be there at all really and considering how to get the sodding thing home ontop of all of the extra fete junk acquired) but it did hurt to see how crushed she was. Tonight it really hit me how hard she worked on it, how little recognition she got and how crap I feel for not just making her one so she could win. I hate the fact I feel so pathetic I don't even want to take her to sports day, which is apparently next event on the calendar. Who the hell am I supposed to get to do the three legged race with? We are the only 1 parent family there and it was very clear at the fete as DD had to run around unsupervised while I held down a stall, so I probably won the worst parent award instead .
I just hate feeling so responsible all of the sodding time. I want her to feel I can offer everything but in reality I can't and I am all she has (no extended family bar my dad who can't boil an egg).
Self pitying rant over!
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