The sofa Vs The bookshelf

[NOmeansNO]

the thread for those in a relation. or not really wanting one as they enjoy the single life too much.

Hi girlies....

Just had a lovely couple of day at my friends caravan in blackpool, had the paddling pool out for the kids and did a bit of sunbathing :)

I'm off to liverpool tonight with the girls, then gotta drive to my cousins wedding tommorow afternoon in leeds so best not get too drunk tonight lol

nmn-Is it tapas night tonight? Hope you had a great time and all your friends are wowed by your culinery skills!

bertie-I find texting hard work sometimes and it drives me a bit crazy as I hate waiting for someone to relply. Have vowed in future if I meet someone will not get into the habit of texting as ringing is so much easier lol but cheeky texts are nice sometimes ;)

dtm-hows the week off without the boy going?

MrsT - glad you have been getting more contact with dp.

bertie - i've got admiration for people who can write books. well done you.

betty - caravan sounds relaxing. was the weather good where you are?

had my big tapas night. it was messy. very messy. suffering today.

so I see NMN! terrible only haha.

betty - it's been different. esp the last 4 days. but he's home tomorrow, just hoping and preying that he's not got heat/sun stroke & is sun burnt as i think I shall have words with XH if he is.

betty - how did the drive go - ah just realized who you are finally on my FB after all this time. lol.

awww bertie - don't be so hard on yourself, if he's a decent man he'll understand you need sleep as well - besides there's nothing to stop you dosing whilst having a cuddle on the sofa - that way you get the best of both worlds.

MrsT -

hows you, i'm going to have to head in and call it a night. i am pooped.

Oh i met up for a coffee with a pof fella. he was good lookinggood chat,enjoyed by we meet up. but his neck was too thin . i think that may possibly be my best excuse for staying on the bookshelf. haha.

:o is there such a thing as a too thin neck? am good thanks, being a bit of a spoilt moo but all is good.

Can I join?

Single parent, have a DP but he doesn't live with me.

I shared rather a lot with DTM on another thread

yes of course, come on in to the gang. :o glad you and DP have sorted your bits out lol. hope the new jeans did the trick.

What's everyone up to for the last day of the weekend then? I'm apparently off to XH's house/camp with dad to get DS, as even after giving XH DS's tax credits & some money back he still can't afford the extra petrol to come home. still it's worth it to have DS home, even if it's gonna be 6 weeks ish till I have a break from the muchkin.

MrsT - thats really nice of you giving exp the tax credits. you will be pleased to have him back

channame - do you not live with dp through choice, or are you planning too. i have actively decided if i do ever get involved with anyone again on a regular basis in the next 15yrs i have dc living with me that i wont ever cross the line of sharing a home again. too much at risk

and why did you need new jeans??????

why are you spoilt moo mrsT?

I needed new jeans because I am "ample of arse" - I am a Bold Curve, which is Levi - speak for I have a fat arse.

At the minute, DP and I have no plans to live together, I like my peace and my space too much.

And he would have to have wardrobe space and he'd want to have a say in colours of duvets and if the heating was on or off and I'm not giving up my independence

And to be sensible he works too far from where my kids go to school for it to be practical really. He lives 50 miles away.

Having said that, I like it when he's here, but he's rarely here if the kids are here.

So it's like two lives in a way - my day to day when the kids are here and then being with him.

Sorry for the long post!

been having a moment with DP - said he'd ring, sat, then i'd call yesterday but he said he was too busy & would be available today been texting loads but sometimes a girl likes to hear a voice! lol. see ref the TC's thing - I figure the money's for DS and if he's not eating my food he'll be eating XH's so have always done it (or at least the child part of it not the working part as well)

still awaiting his return thou - they didn't set off from north wales until 1.30pm to say i'm is an understatement - mostly as DS will be tired ratty & not wanting to go to bed - so well you know as long as XH has dropped his new GF home first it doesn't matter how his son is for school tomorrow. anyhow! and breath! it will prob be gone 10 at this rate by the time he's asleep. and no doubt he'll come in with me just to settle him.

NMN - don't blame you ont he living together thing - i've just read from another thread to think that our kids are 'loned' to us for a few years until they move out of their home and fly the nest. sad but quite true though.

yeah, see i've always considered the child rearing days as being a short term thing. my mum had us 5 and we were raised to be independant and pretty much all of us left home around the 16 mark, either for work, or because we entered full time employment. lets face it, if we live till we're 100yo, 16-20years of that is nothing really is it. i am not a terribly lonely person anyway, so cant see it bothering me.

i also have a Bold Cure asse. I find river island jeans in a bigger size fit me really well if i get their boot cuts. i got a pair in the sale for £7 the other day!!

i got this

the other day for my hols. the stipeys are shaped fantastic for a round derrier of someone my height

MrsT - get him tucked up with a blanket in car just to transfer to his bed and he will be fine

That dress is gorgeous

I am so short I think it might drown me lol

Yeah Mrs T - see if your ex can snuggle DS under a blanket.

don't be soft - XH doesn't think like we do - DS will be lucky if hes' had a drink he's driven the whole way with no stop - quite frankly XH can do that and kill himself for all I care but it's not fair on the boy. he usually dumps him in & leaves straight away so I get a ratty tired emotional 5 year old who doesn't understand is sobbing & screaming himself to sleep cos he misses his daddy. while XH says to me well you deal with it I've got to go to work.

no you're right thou they're not at home too long - but DS can live with me forever lol. mummy's boy!

loving the dress btw.

changename - glad DP & you are going smoothly, nothing wrong with 2 lives sometimes colliding. :)

I've posted on your other thread - my exH would do similar. He's a knob. They're all knobs

I dunno I'm weird about DP - I'd like him here more I'm loving that he's been here lots this weekend (girls with exH) but at the same time I like my own space and the quiet sometimes.

I can tell you all, from experience, that you will blink your eyes and they will be gone - off to uni or work or gap year or just gone.

Yes, ladies, I am actually THAT old.

:o yes he is lol. DP for his part 1000's of miles away isn't happy either but ah well. just keep calm when he arrives.

keep DP as a man toy for now. men toys to man handle now & again are good.

Just wait DTM til you're waiting up for DS to come home from some skanky club at 1.30am.

Or worse, he is ringing you going "Muuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum me and 147 of my friends can't get a taxi home from skanky club of skankiness 2,567 miles away and I know it's 1.30 am but muuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum purrrrrrrrrrrrrrlleeeeeeeeeeaseeeeeeeeeeee"

Oh and of course, he and all 147 mates are all stone cold sober don'tchaknow

:o dont' worry I shall be elbowing DP to get his bum out of bed & go - can't moan really, as I remember doing that to my folks - their house still has 110% discount in the store cupboards.

I am the one who goes. Every time.

They all love me.

At 1.30 am

When they are not might be slightly drunk

MrsT - fingers crossed little man is in good spirits. have you long to travel once you get to pick him up and get him home

namchange - i made a conscious decision to have my kiddies when I was in my twenties as I knew I would get my life back after they leave. It's worked out well as I am studying while they are little and i am stuck indoors. once they hit high school and get lives of their own i will be wrapping up my studies and looking to put more of my time into my career again.

i'd quite like to be in a job in my sector that involves travel aswell. kids will be heading off when i am late 30's and that will be a possibility then.

hahaha... if i had called my mum for a lift home she would have told me to get lost. My 2 dc will call their dad anyway. he still collects his 26yo daughter every wkd from the clubs .

NMN - erm I can't talk split from XH & dad sometimes dropped me off to dates/collected me as well - was a good thing sometimes thou as a few times I rang early so he could bring me back - good old dad lol.

:o changing a woman after my own heart - I don't think we'd really settle to sleep till they're in any how would we?

Well DS came home after 8 hours (apparently) in the car!!! non stop - no wee's. he did give him a drink thankfully. I managed to keep a civil tongue but think XH could tell I was annoyed. DS for his part was v v tired, & didn't sleep till about 9.30pm even though was in bed from 8.30. Today so far we've had tears. (had tears again when he walked in the door as his throat hurt him) he's caught he sun on his face but mostly seems to have had a good time. biggest shock thou was XH actually buying him clothes!!! honestly no really - 4 years separated & he's NEVER done this. apparently 2 changes for shorts & t shirts as I hadn't put enough in (well more than 1 wear a time, and besides we're out on sat to get his summer wardrobe out). nearly fainted when he said he'd done that - althou could well have been more to do with the fact that XMIL was around. either way.

Mrst - at least he's home.

and as for kids being out. i could sleep. lol. I am not a big worrier. what will happen will happen, me worrying about it ownt make a difference. .. but i suppose time will tell. i dont speak from experience.

ahy very true. althou we're already back to shouting - 2 hours later & he's getting out of bed to tell me the bobble on his teddy came off think the reward charts need to come back out again.

anyhow, how is everyone tonight?