Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

Flame If someone makes you feel rubbish about yourself then they aren't worth it.Someone that truly loves you will tell you how beautiful you are.However,for some reason some men stupidly feel the need to talk about their exes.DG told me a stupid fact about his ex not long after we had been together.I told him straight i will never speak about my exes as they are exes for a reason and i feel nothing for them.I do not need to know anything about your ex girlfriends as it is of no interest to me.

I think it is this time of year.I have always felt rubbish this time of year despite having a january birthday which really sucks.I've even felt rubbish this year despite feeling like i've really found the one i still have lots of insecurities and body hang ups.

Beingsetup how old is your toddler?I feel for you my youngest used to wake between 4 and 5 in the morning every day for 2 years.

beautifican - glad you have sorted it out, and thats fab news on looking for a house :)

2 years with no snogging? thats rather a long time. Mind you ive gone i think roughtly about 6 months inbetween each snog. which is ages and ages. and im ready for a relationship - or something.

Its just a bit poo.
stella - that is a good idea. i had a similar thought towards the end of last year. But there doesnt seem to be anything going on in my area at all. Then i joined this city socalising thing, with a view to incresing my rather limited social circle ( tis what happends when you have spent the last 10 years moving about) but nothing has come of that, as the it keeps getting posponded due to lack of interest.
Anyfriend i do get to agree to come out always cancels. or wants to do things in their house. I have decided that short of mr perfect dropping through the sky and landing on my doorstep it is highly unlikely i shall meet anyone.

Plus i think you need a very very thick skin for onlinr dating, doesnt matter how confident you are, but after a few rejections you end up feeling a bit like rubbish ( as some of us are today it seems)

hope he doesnt cancel stella, REALLY hope he doesnt cancel.

You hit the nail on the head beautician, I think he is probably trying to make himself look more attractive by showing you he can pull hot women, so if you look at it as him trying to show you how attractive HE is, and not pining after her, it doesn't seem as irritating.

It is the time of year, still cold, nothing much going on. I'm glad you found the one beautician you give the rest of us hope.

Hes 2 and he makes me sit in the lounge half the night most nights I should really go on the behaviour thread ....

We're not interested in each other (I am encouraging him to try and fix things with her), so it was just a general sharing conversation. It was just one that I took more personally than I would normally iyswim. Kind of like if I were to tell him that Carrot is the most incredible smelling man in the world - on a good day you would just take that as me being besotted and not at all in relation to you, in a bad day it becomes a dig and means that you must clearly smell vile.

yeah. i understand what you mean flame.

meh.

if your feeling a bit rubbish, its really easy to take that very very personally

Beingsetup So he won't actually go to bed?What happens if you put him in the bed?The longer you let it continue the worse it will get you really need to try and find a solution.You need time to yourself as well as sleep.We talk about many things on here not just dating.

Flame I think you need to get some more dates lined up.Do you have any babysitters?

Nope. No more dates this month unless they come from real life.

I can't go from watching Carrot sleep to focus on a date properly. I need to get my head out of the watching him sleep state. Throwing myself into dates never works, so I need to give the breathing space method a try. It is getting easier, just taking time.

(He fell asleep on my sofa Sat afternoon )

He goes to bed then wakes up in the middle of the night and throws my pillows on the floor and screams until I go next door. I have tried letting him scream but we have neighbours and he can keep it up for hours....

What time does he go to bed.Have you tried putting him to bed later,giving him a supper(this made a big difference with my ds2),making his bedroom a great place to be nice lights,a bath before bed(lush do some bath bombs called bathbots basically blue robots)these knock my two out even now at aged 4 and 6.

I have never had any magical sleep cures so there is no point me offering advice :(

I am also not a person to give sleep advice as both DSs used to sleep in my bed most of the time when little (which suited me as it stopped Exp - P at the time - hassling me!) and now often sleep in one of their beds together, top and tail. This normally results in arguments when DS2 tries to warm his chilly feet on some bare but warm part of DS1 in the night :)

good crikey!!!
how is everyone? sorry i haven't posted for a while - am going to try and add a picture of vimes though it may take some time, have never added pics to mn before

has it worked?!

Flame - have you tried taking echinacea? I find that it really helps all around (in particular when hayfever season kicks in and I get seriously run down).

Tookool - did you get your hair done in the end?

Starting second job with big festival this week. Of course I didn't take on the job to improve my dating prospects but hey, you never know, right?!?!

Date tomorrow or no date, he's lovely and I hope he won't disappoint me by turning out to be a complete twat (like SOOOOOO many others). It'll help me restore my faith in mankind to some extent!

fingers crossed for you stella

Nope, pic not working for me

bugger. how do you upload pics then? do they have to be jpeg ones?

better?

ach i don't think i've done it properly :/

Oooh yay! He looks nice :o

thank you

i think i hadn't saved done soemthing properly or enabled public profile properly

he's gorgeous

It normally takes a couple of attempts for some reason.

Ok that was weird - the pointer in brought up a little box in the screen saying Matt's name in the middle of MN (like in tagged fb photos). I have FB open in another tab, but nothing to do with him on there...

the pointer in where?