Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

Nice one lilac!
am fed up today, ex texted this morning to say he was unwell and could not make the fortnightly visit but I didn't get text til we'd waited 40 mins in a freezing car
fecks sake
what am I supposed to do when I am 'ill'

ninah, you know the answer to that - you dose yourself up with anything you can lay your hands o, grit your teeth and get on with whatever needs doing. Do you meet halfway or something? I sat outside ex's house for ten minutes this evening then DD2 phones and says 'are you picking us up?' Yes I say, been sitting outside the house for ten mins having arrived at agreed time. I won't ring the doorbell, my aim is to collect the girls and leave without setting eyes on him at all.

no, he does have a long drive both ways to be fair
but I don't buy it somehow, just a text? maybe it's alcohol poisoning or syphilis
I tend to stick to an unvarying routine, just so as to minimise any need for contact, as you say
dd got 'dressed up' for him

early night tonight, since I'll be hands on 24/7 for a full month now. maybe longer, if he's gone flaky. Aargh!

Lilac I do the sitting outside thing. As Im not invited in!!

Not allowed to ring on doorbell or ring phone either at certain times due to sleeping dcs (precious emoticon)

My exh came over to see boys today for uncle visit LOL

• I did drop him to the tube and he said he wondered why he bothered coming over!! I gave him a mouthful.

I went.

I am home.

I am depressed.

Is passion and spark too much to ask?

Ohh Flame, it just doesnt always happen, and when it does it just never works out - for me that is.

Have just got off the phone from physio, he is lovely and has had an awful week poor man - have told him I dont know what is happening - which I dont as because I thought I was being stood up I stupidly told sailor2 I was around tomorrow and he still hasnt replied - although to be fair I know he is out tonight - so will have to wait and see.

So am in a right old mess, 2 potential dates - no idea who if anyone I am going out with tomorrow and my babysitter is out wild camping up kinder scout. It could only happen to me

place marking. uneasy peace descends on casa snape - as long as the ex stops trying to fuck me. not quite reached that level of desperation yet.

Ninah your ex sounds like an arse.Poor dd.I'm sure she will have a better time with you anyway.

Flame if there isn't spark you can't force it.You just aren't meeting anyone worthy of your fabulous self but i know you will.

Finally got hold of DG he has fractured/broken his wrist i couldn't get much sense out of him to be honest.I feel so useless stuck here.

place marking

oh beaut, hope it's not too bad and he's not in too much pain. What happened?

flame, it isn't too much to ask, although it's a bit soon for passion I think.

beaut - what happened? is he ok?

elastamum - any update?

Flame - do you like him at all?

Spoke to mr big for a short time on msn last night. Shall text him to say happy birthday.
Not heard from stardust since yesterday evebing. Bear didnt reply to the text i sent him.. which was in response to his...?????
BUT, i did weirdly get a 2am text from someone i had been talking to in the summer, we shall call him hugh, becuase he was a bit hugh grant like. Stupidly young, 26 to my 32, bu i wouldnt meet him because i thought he was too young and he honestly said he was after a more no strings thing at the time, which i wasnt really. Very clearly a late night drunken text. lol god knows why becuase ive not heard from him for like 6 months.
AND im chatting to someone i shall call Hair, on pof, who messaged me and seems ok.

snape - hope your ok, your ex sounds tbh, a disaster.

Oh Beaut :(

It was just so hard. The first date was quite good, but last night any conversation at all was soooo much effort :(.

The spark and passion was in general btw, not now with him iyswim.

Carrot dropping me off to my date was a bit weird , but not awkward iyswim. Finally able to talk to him about all this kind of stuff without my stomach churning (it actually felt easy and normal to talk to him about it all), so I guess we're getting better at the friends thing.

I am giving up looking for men until the end of Feb. I am not turning them down if they fall in my lap (although my mate says that would show they were keen if they had to wait til March ), but I am not logging in to POF etc.

Soooooooooooooooooo many mates telling me to stay far far away from Matt . It is turning him into a hot plate though - I am at the stage of I have to now just to check they are all right :o

ex safely packed off to the station and riot act duly read! now to put my life on ebay, so i can make rent. :(

I'd like to give up men for lent flame but none to give up, you are ahead of me there lol.
beaut he is an arse
no sorry, no phone call to explain to kids, just a crappy text at the last minute with a crappy excuse
unwell, meaning hungover or can't be bothered
any more news re DG?

Place marking

To be fair, I don't exactly have vast numbers!

hey all

Lol Lilac at technic for being OP on new thread

BNM, hope DG is ok, at least explains why you hadn't heard from him

Eve, get you and your irresistable vibe

Elasta, what to say ? Any update on physio, sailor2, or radioman??

Ninah, Snape, SCL arses aren't they?? Never ceases to amaze me the depths they can plumb.....

just chilling out at home waiting for the dds to come back from XH's. Have had lovely weekend with TLM, despite him having to plug away at 4000 word essay for his course. He did go offinto London yesterday morning on a mysterious shopping trip and was very coy about it when we mt up in Richmond after I dropped DDs........am rather excited as it may have involved jewellers.......

got my decree nisi through from sol dated 13th Jan so that means DA can be applied for
from 24th Feb.......jsut getting nervous as XH hasn't returned the financial order to the court so there is still potential for that fall down. Meanwhile TLM's XW is stirring about their DD being unhappy about us......TLM trying to work out best course of action and v hard to tell since DD seems so happy when she is here. However, she is only child and it has been just her and TLM for 3 years. All of sudden I come along and, my DD1 has same name and there's something TLM XW is stirring about him having 'replaced' his DD with my DD1......sigh

Anyway.......

Ohh, well am off out to meet sailor2 - must think of a bettter name, will let you know

Took, v at your story, makes it sooooo hard to trust even the most apparently trustworthy (stardust??)

Flame, hope you are feeling a bit brighter, Brackets just not the one............

oooh, goody elasta, have a lovely time

Smily, my DD is an only and very clingy to me even though she is 16 now. She still gets huffy if I am going out with someone. That's part of the reason I'm perpetually single. I do and will put her first whilst she is still technically a child but after that I would like to have a full time relationship as I will be lonley when she leaves home.

Elasta, enjoy!

Not sure about me being irresistable but it has been a flattering week for me. Nothing will come of it. Mr D2D probably pulls this way regularly but if he did call me when he's next here I would go out with him in a shot.

congrats, smiley for decree nisi :)

have rewritten my OKC profile. is it the done thing to link for constructive (please!) criticism? spent lovely afternoon chatting to non thretaening guy from slightly too far away who is a 94% match on there. doubt we will ever meet, but we initially get on beautifully. This is very good, as i don't really get people sometimes. :)

Yes you can link and then delete it later if you feel uncomfortable having it on here.

I'm probably not the best person to look at it as mine doesn't say much. I just had a message off someone that I replied to weeks ago but it was like pulling teeth so I stopped the contact. The message today said 'hi'

yep snape - lets have a look. Though ihave heard from many many men, the tbh, most people fdont read them at all.
I did an experiment once ( must have been bored)
Used two friends pictures ( with persmission) equal attractiveness.
One i made sound nice, and intelligent, with a good job, funny, well travelled etc.. etc...

one i put about wanting a man to rescue me, and not looking for one night stands, man must have this job, this income, pay for the date and that i didn like this this and this, but liked the most lame things..

in made fuck all difference, and seemed to get emailed from the same people. Actyally the lame profile which was a bit anti men maybe got a few more.

I think somethings up with stardust. Where as it was a lot of texting ( more than i would ususally be happy with) it has dropped off loads since friday. Ive only had one today. Wed i had about 20. Id bet £10 that hes going to cancel tomorrow.

congrats smiley for the decri whatever its called. I need to sort mine out, technically still married.

elasta - how did it go?