Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

[lilacisinlove]

Too good an opportunity to miss!

well done spomge! half astone and a bit! :)

Lou - my washing machine died a couple of years ago- theres a charity that gives brand new appliances to'the deserving poor I'll dig out the details if you're interested?

welcome balls!

just -i think the bestadvice i cangive (which i don't necessarily take on board myself (!)) is ump in and be prepared for frog-spit!

spomge!

early morniing typoes!

sponge - that is fantastic. well done :)

Am still mourning the loss of my red hair this morning. i think its a huge mistake. :(
But i feel less bad. i had a wonderful tea of 'chuck it in the oven and eat with your hands chav food' My dad is coming over to help build a bookcase and ive got a nice, non man weekend planned with DD.
Grandad top text me last night, so im going to out with him when im free. Least he is persistant ?!?!?!?!? and 4 other people i was sort of chatting to also asked me out. So i will go. when im free. stupid not to.
So - very firmly back on the horse. :)

Thanks all :) It is a good start, and I'm v pleeased, however I do still have another 6.5 stone or so to lose, so a long way to go. but will persevere!

Lou re the washing machine. snape's idea sounds a good one, or what about freecycle? The thought of managing without one for however short a time fills me with dread, and there's only 3 of us! I'm a bit far away from you, otherwise I would willingly offer use of my washer. hope you find one soon. Good news re DS1 though, although dislocating rotator cuff sounds v painful.

tookool :( re the lovely red hair. but good to hear you are back on the horse re dating.

As it's now Feb (not sure where jan went) should we try and arrange a spring London meet up? When in March/April are people free? :)

pleased !

tk how about putting some red flashes or highlights in it? As a compromise.

aponge - great re weight loss

I haven't lost any weight this year but have cut down my drinking to once per week which is a big improvement - it was about half a bottle most nights before that.

Lou - great news about your son. sorry to hear about your washing machine - its prob the most vital piece of equipment - agree with others about freecycle or gumtree.

not so essential I know but my dishwasher has been broken for ages and it drives me nuts washing up late at night - I hate it - the dishwasher gets things more clean than I can and I have got such a short attention span always end up leaving some stuff to soak overnight - slattern that I am - when I was with exh he would never have allowed that!!

Sponge - that is a fantastic loss - long may it continue - I've been back on WW since just before xmas and have lost the same but it has taken me since Nov so am very .

And all you complaining about not having had a snog/shag for x years - try best part of six years ... yes, six long years - think in all that time I had one shag (with xh), a couple of snogs and not a lot else.

As has been said, persevere, (try to) develop a thick skin, be prepared to kiss a lot of frogs (and I mean a lot), be very ready with the delete/block button .. and take time out and come rant here when you need to.

If you'd have asked me three months ago, I'd have probably said internet dating is a waste of time - still think there are better or at least other ways to meet - and still not convinced that paying is worth it ... but have met someone and now doing the official gf/bf bit - which at 46 is ridiculous ... but there you go.

So chin up tits out (or other way round whichever works for you) and pucker up .. you never know what is round the corner!

Glad it's still going well Mz.

I have agreed to meet supermarket guy usual time. Just for a coffee. I'm fine with having a chat before I start the weekly shop. He rang work!

Now if it was Doorstep man it would be for more than a coffee I mean something stronger. Sigh. Must try and forget him.

Thanks everyone. I am currently without washing machine tumble dryer and dishwasher. Oh well sinething will turn up i am sure. Off to a launderette now!

Something, i mean

lou - here

you might not qualify - i had a load of debt at the time, but you might fall into some kind of special category due to motability car requirements (sorry - don't know you very well (yet!) and there might be some assumptions in there. ) Hope that helps - laundrettes and hand washing and relying on the lovely goodwill of friends to use their machines will probably get tedious very quickly!)

Ohh sponge, if there is a meet up I can make, I will try to come down on the train as I would love to meet everyone.

Well done with the wieght loss - it isnt easy, athough I am curently wearing a suit that is hanging off me as have had so much stress over past couple of years.

So good news is have lost loads of weight since divorce. Bad news is cant afford to keep buying client suits for work as I dont wear them that often.

So this morning have had a blow me out email from sailor2 saying that although he enjoyed my company he also thought that we just didnt have any chemistry between us. On the one hadn he is polite enough to say so and not just dissapear - on the other do I really need to see it all in writing - you do need a thick skin for internet dating

Erm, can I join you all please?

I'm a single parent, been on my own for 5 years now since the twat formerly known as my ex left me for someone else when I was pg, which really shook my faith in men and more or less destroyed my self confidence. I have a 4.5yo DS and all my friends are married so never go out. I've literally not had a date for about 18 months and that was my friend's brother who was a really nice man but we just didn't click.

So I'm looking to venture into online dating (again). I've been on POF before but tended to get the dregs of society emailing me - you know, the type who's main ambitions in life are to get an ASBO and appear on Jeremy Kyle. So which sites would you recommend for decent blokes? A male friend suggested match.com - is it any good?

snape thanks i have bookmarked it for later :)

hi cuba , welcome

i cant really advise you on other sites as i mainly used pof, and met some really nice guys, still friends with a couple of them

i am with dp now but we met online though not on a dating site, and the last serious relationship i had prior to dp was with someone i met on a site called cheekyflirt (i think)

we were together for 9 months until he emigrated

Will try and catch up in a bit.

Having a very very low day :( This seems to be the week for people asking me how I am still single. How the f*ck does that help make me feel better?!?!

just tell them it's because like a female spider, you kill the men after you have finished with them

Lol!

I am just pissed off with being alone every single night. I am pissed off that I put so much into my marriage for it to be thrown away for some whore. I am pissed off with Carrot for getting me used to not being alone then taking it away again. (Ok, that one may be a smidge selfish - he is doing nights to clear his debts rather than to spite me) I am pissed off with friends and friends partners telling me I am supposedly fabulous and attractive but if I am so great how come I am alone?

I know that part of it is me turning down perfectly nice men off dating sites, but I need someone who will push me back when I push them (metaphorically) and all these guys would just let me walk all over them.

Rubbish! Texted SVNG (may need to take that 's' off it now) this morning to check whether we were eating out tonight or just drinks - thinking that he should / could have clarified! He cames back with "drinks would be great" and suggests a really crappy pub around the corner from where we live (his house is 2 mins walk from mine but we only found out the other day). So I texted back with "Hm...may be best to cancel it then, sorry. Plus I've got an incredibly stressful day ahead! Hope you have a good day :)". He's come back with "No worries. Let me know when we can rearrange :)". I didn't put a kisses at the end so he obviously did the same... Look, I'm not expected a 3 course meal at a Michelin-starred restaurant but surely I'm worth a bit more than a couple of pints at my (very crappy) local?!?! The whole thing just stinks of minimum-effort, don't you think? I'd understand if we were complete strangers then a little cafe somewhere or the nearby pub would seem appropriate but we know each other, this is supposed to be a date! I don't got to the pubs near me even with friends, never mind making myself pretty to have first date at one of them. Argh!!!
Ok, rant over.

Stella, how many times have you met him?

Ok can see it could be a first date with a colleague. No point going if you don't think he is making an effort.

Welcome cuba...where are you? I used Lovestruck (London based) and it worked for me :) I found OK Cupid useless and wasn't brave enough for Plenty of Fish. I honestly feel that you get what you pay for, and subscription sites are more likely to turn up someone worth getting to know. That's my experience, anyway.

mental note of 'lovestruck'.

welcome cuba :)

I have had precisely big-fat-zero interest since ammending OKC profile to state i'm not after a quickie. I think it's good to be honest, which apparently translates as 'frigid'. ;)

Sorry for much whinging today. I know it is just that I am low. I have tried switching to st john's wort instead of prozac and I am on the cross over period. I want someone to hold me. I want someone to care that I feel like this and want to hold me. :(

Poor Matt's fb statuses say he is feeling the same, but we are just not right for each other :(

Hi all

Welcome to the newbies.

Cuba I met my now partner DG on eharmony.I also really liked guardian soulmates.But avoid single with kids too many weirdos on there.You will always get some but i had loads of awful vile messages on that site.

Sponge Wow congrats on the weight loss.That must have been such a boost to lose that amount in a week.

Aurora Vimes is lush.

Flame hope you feel better soon.Can you not meet up with a friend and go and do something to take your mind off things.

I'm actually rather excited about tonight.....

My big fat gypsy wedding,secret diary of a call girl and an oh so healthy diet of pop tarts haha.Im on my own this evening.