Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

there is nothing to be said really is there? He never listened to me when we were married, so is hardly likely to take any of it in now. I just have to work out what is best for the DDs - do I say, ok, you organise birthday tea for DD1 after school and I will steer clear? Given that I see so much of the girls it's not the end of the world. I just wish he could see that the better we all get on (fully accepting we are never likely to be and I would not wants us all to be, best friends.....) the better it is for the girls?

Maybe I should tell him about me meeting TLM's XW yesterday as she was keen to say hi to the person her DD spends time with and who is clearly a long-term fixture? I would be happy to do the same with XH DP.......

God he is sooooo immature, always was. I am so well off without him

the bile has receded, I think I will let the message go without answering - which is what he says he wants but may be the more mature thing to do myself than syaing all the stuff i would like to

Does any of that makes sense?

sorry Ninah, hope you have a lovely time and if nothing else maybe some harmless flirting

Mily - sounds to me like a great big jealous hissy fit. What a tosser! Not surprised you're angry, I would be steaming.

I would send a brief reply saying something along the lines of:

"Thank for your email of x date. I note your comments regarding DD2s birthday, that is acceptable. Kind Regards, mily"

Don't even acknowledge the tantrum.

right, off to collect car, maybe paying for the MOT will cheer me up

good call Janos

Mily..added after reading your last message.

Just a suggestion, of course - I would reply, but as above. Don't respond to any of the stroppy crap because that's what he wants.

HTH :)

Oooh citing stuff here.

Getting messages from manA's fb account from someone saying she's been his girlfriend since October, he's a cheating bastard and run up a fortune on her credit cards. He's a con artist and stay away from him.

That does kinda fit the cocky git vibe I got!!!!

Doing less well on the whole Carrot date thing now. Want today over.

It doesn't actually read like a pissed off girl though. Most odd.

Based on previous experience regarding that sort of thing Flame (getting 'odd' fb messages from women claiming to be gfs), I would steer well clear.

Already was. He was cocky and arrogant.

Good call...he's deffo up to SOMETHING and that SOMETHING is not likely to anything good!

Flame, she is probably just realising what a b---ted he is and warning you. I would delete and block them both.

Mily, your ex is blatantly jealous and cannot see what is in his DD's best interests atm. He needs to get over it . So glad you have met someone who makes you happy, that is the sweetest revenge, moving on.

your exh can go in the massive cannon ready for blasting into hyperspace with mine mily

what an arrogant fucker he is

i feel crap again today, just about made it through one store for dd2 to spend her birthday money before having to get myself home

managed to stop at the exh's place v briefly on the way to the shops tho so she could collect her gift from him

she was inside for all of ooh 2 mins but she likes what he got her anyway, and she doesnt have to sit there for hours now

think dp is coming down with the same bug, he didnt go to work today

i am hoping everyone is ok tomorrow evening as we are taking dd2 to her birthday meal

and who mentioned voices on the last thread?

i love dp's , it's really deep and proper blokey iyswim, a bit gravelly ....swoons back to bed

Totally agree with eve - just keep showing him that you're happy and have moved on ... let him throw his toys out of the pram if he so wishes, just make it clear that you will not be happy if his childish behaviour affects the DC.

I meanwhile am sitting on my hands to stop me calling/texting/appearing needy ...

and wondering whether it is fair to see theatreman who has offered to keep me company tomorrow (entailing a three-hour round trip ...) when I am really smitten with a n other and just trying to distract myself (although will admit he is a nice guy and quite diverting in his own way ...)?

MZD, think it is fair enough if you are just dating.

Am a bit pissed off this evening. Got ny tickets for a friend and her daughter to go to party at our local. Daughter and her bf had decided to go elsewhere, but didnt bother to tell me so I now have £50 worth of tickets that no one wants. Daughter wont pay for them and her mum, who is going with me has no job atm. Mum offered to pay but I cant accept any money from her, as I bought her ticket as a treat. Cant believe how selfish daughter is.

Still I am not going to let it ruin my evening tomorrow

Not sure what to say Elasta - bloody bad form though!

To be honest I think I am going to have to opt out of all this dating stuff. I've remembered why I stopped in the first place - because I'm not emotionally strong enough to cope with the whole rejection thing - I'm fine when it's a matter of meeting tosspot blokes that I wouldn't want to meet once let alone again but having met someone I liked ... and now pretty much know that has decided for whatever reason that he'd rather not continue ... has left me feeling really devastated ...

Much as I like theatreman, I feel that really it's unfair to continue to see someone with whom I'm emotionally unavailable - and to whom I risk doing, what has many times been done to me, eg toying with someone else's feelings ... ah, bollocks to it all - funny how you only feel lonely when you've met someone you thought you could be with ....

blimey so much to catch up on and also a new thread - just spent about half an hour reading through.

Lou your ex really is the pits as is yours MILY but your new year celebrations sound great - I went to the Dover Street Wine Bar for my 40th.

Lilac am I right in thinking that nm has invited you to Dubai for the weekend.

Mz - understand how you feel re dating - well I sort of gave up anyway - still look at mail etc but not actively dating.

Met an old friend for drinks last night - we used to work together in pubs when I first moved to London (many years ago) and we have stayed close friends ever since. We visited the pub owned by our old boss for a drink - that was fun to catch up with him - it was instant recognition on his part when we walked in.

Was the only one on the bus going back home - weird emoticon. It usually packed.

Exbf then came round for a while - he's got alot on his mind and also I'm quite worried about his health.

Tomorrow evening my friend and her son coming round to celebrate - usually spend it alone witht the dcs - they are old enough to stay up now as well.

Dont really make resolutions but will be please to see the back of 2010. One of my main wishes for 2011 will be that the coalition continues to unravel and we have an election. Since they came in I have really felt politicised again.

I am pleased that we won't be turfed out of our house in 2011 though we will be in 2012 but at least that gives me time I hope to find something else suitable in the area of whereever ds2 goes to secondary school. It may well be in the same area in which case we will have to live locally.

SCL - with you on resolutions - used to always do the stopping smoking/losing weight etc ... then fail miserably by about January 6th and feel terrible - bloody stupid way to start the year so these days don't bother ....

Think I am so low because having spent far too long on the FIA search - and given up hope - I feel like one was offered albeit under what would have been difficult circumstances and then snatched away - though probably should have known was not going to end any differently.

Ah well, at least looking forward to seeing a few of you tomorrow!

And very glad about you not having to leave your house - only so much a woman can cope with after all!

Yes not sure if I can make tomorrow unfortunately due to childcare issues. But if something changes Ill be there in the queue at the bar. (slurp emoticon) and promise next time to get an all evening pass.

Oh and exh was moaning at me again today (after having them for 24 hours only) - naughty ds1 also filmed him ranting - when I saw the footage I felt so lucky I don't have to live with that miserable visage on a day to day basis.

I could do with a message from a random on POF to distract me. This has to be the longest evening ever.

Might send persia another message.

Mz i'd see theatreman prob as long as no chance of a n other showing up
agree though on pitfalls of dating, you hope to meet someone nice and often when you do it;s even more agonising!
scl I;d love to have a tape of ex at his worst, just to remind me!

You having a meet-up tomorrow?

SCL I second that about the coalition, hopefully Cameron will go too far for the Lib Dems, of course they should have stood their ground already but failed miserably.

Turns out DD isn't invited to the party tomorrow night. She isn't in with the in crowd. I might end up sneaking her in somewhere with me. I'm sure the place that I went to last NYE had one or two teens in with parents, rather than a group of them on their own.

@ ninah - bugger all chance of a n other turning up as he lives in manchester - and seems to be making his lack of intention to pursue any sort of relationship pretty clear sadly ...

As I said it seems a bit unfair to let things go further with Theatreman when it's just me trying to soften the blow caused by lack of interest by someone else - just wish it didn't hurt so bad. Think I'd rather forgotten just how much rejection hurts - especially when unexpected.

Mz, try not to dwell you will soon move on from this experience. I might be tempted to give Theatreman another date, its not like you are promising happily ever after.

DD is going to the ball after all. I persuaded her to ask the hostess if she could go and it turns out she messed up the invites.

So that's me on my own tomorrow night but will go out and catch up with mates to see the new year in.

I might have a mate coming round tomorrow night now. Her ex completely flipped and is now no longer having her kids so I have invited her here.

I swear this is the longest evening in the history of the world