Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 28)

[ninah]

lilac where are you????!

sorry, couldn't post anymore
is it REALLY two years, eve? i haven't met anyone either!
mily I am like that about resolutions. All or nothing. Will try ot be a bit more sensible this year.
we have a top charity shop for books round here, can always find something

and my next NYR is to stop getting all excited at the prospect of being the one who starts the new thread, only to have my hopes dashed every time

New year New thread!!!!

Lets hope this 2011 F&IM thread will work wonders for us all

MILY, good to see you are working as hard as I am! I keep nipping off to type powerpoint slides then sneaking back here

I am spending NYE by myself with the kids unless the dwarf decides to put in an appearance. It sucks. If ever there was a year to bid goodbye to in style it is this one.

Resolutions... stop drinking alone.

Oh and I aim to be unpacked by the end of Jan.

The Carrot thing sounds worse written down tbh. He knows where I stand but also that I will not wait around. I have an amazing friend who slows my brain down if nothing else. He'll either see sense or he won't. He says himself he's not met anyone who "gets" him like I do before. Just depends on if he will risk losing a friend who understands his brain to have a partner who does. Nothing I can do will change that so there is no point getting stressed.

Flame, glad you are handling it OK. Please don't let some man stress you out as they really arn't worth it.

NYR, to start taking my job a bit more seriously........

And to clear out the rest of XH crap still lurking -good use of those evenings when TLM away.

Did I ever mention that he did this? XH I mean - having turned his nose up at most of the stuff I boxed and bagged up that was obviously his, he then took without mentioning it:
1 table out of a nest of 2
3 of 6 wine glasses
2 of 4 champagne flutes
3 of 8 coffee cups
the lead for the ipod speakers

Not drinking alone sounds a good one, reckon it would cut my alcohol consumption by about 80%

bugger

TLM ironing expensive paul smith shirt I got him for xmas has found faults in it - argh, was to be worn on NYE

now I have to see if I can get another one sorted in time as the faults are clearly visible, can't believe I did not spot

argh argh argh

Nightmare mily! Can you get another in time do you think?

Did snigger at the one of the nest of tables though!!

Too much to do to bother stressing tbh.

XH descaled my kettle last night. odd.

ninah, I'm here! Too busy surreptitiously packing, think I'm on top of it now. Have to go into town to see friend's DD dancing in panto at 3pm matinee, get train back, take girls and hamsters to ex, take pet rabbits to bestest friend ever (I can hardly take the rabbits to Dubai, can I?), come back, throw stuff I've been squirreling around my room into suitcase and get cab to airport. None of my summer stuff is ironed and no time to do anything about it, can hardly iron it with DDs around. Bound to forget something, but they have shops in Dubai, right?

Happy New Year to you all, whether loved up or not. I didn't see this coming so you never know what that date may turn into. And you know, if he'd invited me to Skegness for the weekend I'd be looking forward to it just as much, haven't seen him in a week and can't wait.

a new thread for 2011 :)

ok heres my NYR, for what they're worth:

1. Get my house finished. By this time next year I will not still be living in a house with 2 unfinished bathrooms, no internal doors and no curtains at half the windows...

1. to improve my diet/eat more healthily, with a view to losing at least a little of the 5 or so stone i gained whilst miserable with my Ex.

1. to put the feelers out for another job, because the one I have is v v boring, and to quote one of my friends, a huge

waste of my considerable talents

I would make one about men, but given the barren wasteland that is my lovelife, it scarely seems worth it!

ah there you are! Skeggie, bless you ... you do sound happy (so you won't mind too much about not starting thread lol)
life can change around so quickly, can't it, gives me hope (not just re men)
hope 2011 brings lots of the good stuff

Thread 28 already!! Blimey, etc. Me and DS are still not dressed and have just had lunch.

Flame, I'm alone on NYE too. Hope Carrot situ turns out ok :)

Mily what a toerag - did he take that stuff just to be arsey cos it sounds like it.

Elasta - I will drink to that - the FIM 2011 bit I mean. Also maybe the not drinking; but that would be a bit hypocritical

I've been chatting to a couple of men on OKC who seem very nice but I just don't seem to get very excited about all this stuff like I used to. However, keep an eye open and all that.

Janos, good skills on the PJs front - yesterday (a working day ) TLM and his DD brought me scrambled eggs and bacon in bed and I was still there munching at 10 in my pjs, albeit with my laptop and blackberry to hand . Yes the taking of the things was XH being an arse - it was the day he rocked up 3 hours early and got the hump because TLM here, so he obviously decided to take some stuff to make a point. Subsequently I changed the locks........

Lilac, can't wait to hear all about the trip and, in line with Lou's bedroom tan comment, you may not need to wear many clothes so the ironing won't matter . Also, the hotel may well have an ironing service so you can outsource the lot!

the woman on the House of Fraser customer services line was v helpful and there is now a replacement shirt put aside at the Oxford St store for us to go and get tomorrow, so Cinders shall got to the ball

ok, need to rant

I sent XH this email today, in the spirit of moving on as we are headed for Decree nisi and 2011 is another year and so on:

Hi

Can you let me know if you have any plans for the girls' birthdays please. At the moment, DD1 has asked if she can have a couple of friends for tea after school on the 4th, then a Gym party at the weekend - not sure of their availability so maybe Sat or Sun. I plan to do these things. Let me know if you want to be involved. So you are aware, TLM and maybe his DD will be around 5th/6th. It is fine by me if your DP wants to join in any of this kind of thing

Not too sure what to do for DD2. We are in Leamington on the 8th so there will probably be a bit of a celebration then, as the cousins are there too. On the Monday I plan to have a birthday tea with maybe 1 or 2 of her friends.

Finally, I have noted the alternate weekends from this weekend onwards, in order to be able to plan things. I don't plan to ask to swap any - I think the more predictable it is for the girls the better. If you do need to swap then I'll see what I can do, obviously the more notice the better.

See you tomorrow morning

H

this is what I just got back:

Hi, got your email.
First before I answer re birthdays I have a request.
What ever you may thnk about the validity of this isn't important, but please think about this.

I am not sure how this process is supposed to go but I am trying, in the sort term to keep DP apart from you two. She does not want to meet you and I am not at all interested in meeting TLM. So I do not want to see him and in particular it is insensitive for my first view of your new bloke to be hugging my daughter in front of my house.
All I ask for is a little thought about how this is done & then we will both avoid nasty confrontations. I am sure you would also be angry to see my DP hugging DD2 or DD1. Please do not bother answering this point, I dont want to debate it.

RE brthdays. I am not going to be able to attend DD2's birthday in leamington because of work & so will give her a gift.
I am able to join DD1 for tea but will not be interested if you & or TLM are there. I wish to make it clear that I do not want either or you in my life for any more time than is necessary. So whilst I will be civil do not expect me to engage in any chit chat.

makes me angry

He has been like this since that morning he saw TLM at my house

He seems to conveniently forget that he had got together with his DP while we were still going to counselling and trying to reconcile

he only thinks of himself

I hope his DP does hug my kids so that they feel loved and wanted when they are there

I don't know whether to answer with what I really think or ignore it.......

controlling sob

and when I think of the story he gave me about the money he needs (which I am giving him) to get a flat that is big enough to have the kids to stay, then he goes and rents a place with his DP on Richmond Green at £1400/month which only has 3 rooms......

GAH

I can't tell you how furious I am

and the pious bullshit email he sent in October when I told him about TLM and he pretended he had no partner (though they had been together since May) then had his cover blown the very next day when the letting agency sent a letter here with his and his DP's name on the address

Tosser MILY!

I had to stifle a snigger last night. XH told me that ?ow has had her hair cropped whilst she's been away. She clearly doesn't know and/or care about his views on that. His disgusted face was priceless. I still genuinely have no idea on their set up.

mily he is really jealous isn't he
and what's with the 'MY house'
bet asbm would have some useful input on this
Well I am spending New Year with Holiday Man aamong other friends. There's a fair chance his ?ex will be around earlier on in proceedings - they spent most of Xmas together with dc etc. So while he is f and i he is not all that a, at least emotionally.
Feel I have to keep reminding myself of this!