support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

It's Friday, clearly it is time for

cheers

OMG..Didn't even notice the new wine glass thingy,it's sooo clever!!

No DS2 tonight he's at a mates.. So am just going to re dye my hair, light the fire and then... !!!

God he is such a wanker

He has called to speak to kids (slightly pissed though swearing blind he isn't ) and is now saying he cannot afford to come over possibly.

I said if you care about kids you will want to see them and he just hummed and ahhed etc...

I ended up putting phone down on him,

Then DD got me so wound up I smacked her bare bottom which I have never done before

definately needed here

Shit simpson!!! What a lazy, arrogant, selfish twunt!!

Deep breath...

Just say sorry to DD,and have a cuddle..she'll be okay.

I'll be back later,if you want to talk more.

I totally hate him

he kept going on about an insurance claim (basically he is living in rented accomodation and it had a flood a mth ago and now he wants to say his clothes have got damaged when they haven't to get £££)

Sooooo he kept banging on about this claim saying if he gets it (unlikely) then he will use that money to come over and see DC.

Luckily I have not told DC about possible visit.

DD is ok luckily she watched Peppa Pig on my lap while she had her milk

But I have to confess I was on the verge of losing it with her

Oh simpson, That's bloody awful, he's got ages to save a bit of money,especially if he hasn't seen them for 4 months!!

He really needs to get his priorities sorted out doesn't he? to say the least..

Thank god you haven't said anything, sounds like you can't until he's actually on his way(if).

What do you think about formalizing contact through a solicitor in some way,i.e Christmas and Summer hols..it sounds like he calls the shots,while you and your DC have to just go along with everything,that's not fair on you or DC, i'm not surprised you get pissed off!
Just a thought, but maybe if times are agreed on paper,it won't be so easy for him to make excuses?

He has had solicitors letter (several tbh) and for a while I totally stopped contact after his antics on the last visit and being drunk when he phones them

This trip was me giving him another chance iyswim

Also the keep fit class I go to (with creche) is finishing next wk as the instructor does not want to do it anymore

Do his weekly phone calls wind your DCs up? i.e Does it make them miss their dad more after they speak to him?

No but they wind me up

Ds sometimes does not want to talk to him and has to be bribed But I actually think misses seeing him the most face to face iyswim.

DD is the one who really wants to talk to him on the phone...

Hhmm It sounds like you need to need to give your H an ultimatum..Do it properly or not at all.

'They wind you up' ..Why do i smoke?- "Just nipping outside for a fag DC, i'll sort it out when i've done ok!?".. It's called 'time out'

I have the odd smoke when DC are in bed.

I have been tempted to have one in the day but know if I start then I would be on 60 a day

NNNoooo doooonnn't doooo iittttt..

It's a nightmare! I've tried everything to give up..what i need to do is go to bed for 3 days and go 'cold turkey', but that's just not possible!

God, i don't know whats happening to me.

I feel so shite. My parents said today they don't want me ringing them when im upset anymore because it upsets them, yes its hard, yes im lonely, but kind of get on with it.

I don't know where my money had gone lately. i miss H. I was horrid to him this week but cant say sorry.

I got the wrong day for my driving lesson. Im so tired. Im lonely. Ive lost weight again :( i want to talk to H but hes not that person anymore and doesnt love me.

im struggling. i cant see the end. i long to cuddle up on the sofa, feel loved, be in love, be a family. i get out and about, gym, dance, out, i never meet anyone, im just exhausted. i find it so hard to keep fighting all the fucking time. i wanna tell H, i want him to fix it but i cant.

Scorps - I have to ans you, its been a while since you posted and I hope you had a good cry and a rant and maybe feel a tiny bit better.

Cant comment on your parents, thats left me gobsmacked.

But I do remember the overwhelming pain and loss youre feeling now and it does pass - maybe not for ages and maybe with more rollercoasting but you will survive. Take some strength from the rest of us on this page and take care xx

scorps - how are you doing??

Keep talking on here, we are all here for you

Hello Scorps. Sorry you are so low today..

I don't bother talking to my mum about anything, she's never been interested if it's not about her.My dad died when i was 13..
So i do know how you feel

I wish i was out getting pissed tonight, but noone to go out with..
AND i heard a song on the radio today,that XP was learning to sing to me.It's reminded me of the nice bit's when we were together,when i felt beautiful and loved..
I wonder if he ever meant the loving things he said, or was it all a pile of shite? i'll never know.

Have been racking my brains as to how to move on-been trying to think of a new area to move too,but i love my house.Am looking for a part time job to get me out of the house a bit, and meet people.No luck yet.
Even perused Guardian Soulmates,but all no- no's in a 40 mile radius..

Anyone got any other ideas?

Come on Scorps,you have to keep going too..You're not alone x

Why does everything break at the same time??

And I swear my lightbulbs have got a conspiracy against me to wait maybe 4hrs after all the lights are working in the house before another one goes

My mum came round today and took DC out to feed ducks while I went out to buy another microwave to replace my old one....

How is everyone today??

Hi :) I'm ok today, but only today. spent all weekend either with friends or sleeping, couldn't do the quiet this time. Hav heard back from that man..... We have mutual friends and he's quite shy apparently. Hoping to meet up soon....

I think my dad meant that it makes mum sad and he doesn't like to see her sad and they're in france etc, i don't know.

But I've eaten well, seen friends, got some sleep. Must remember my life is the focus.

Whoever asked if they ever loved us - Yes, they did, then. Not now. Life moves on, people move on, and sometimes thats without us when we always thought we would morph through lifes phases together.

My issue i think is that i wonder if he's happier alone, if he's dating, if he ever misses me, regrets it, finds it hard.

Oh Scorps, shy is good..
There you go!but go slow and be careful.

Well i know my XP won't be dating-he never has any money,doesn't own anything despite being 50,isn't particularly attractive, is bald and fat,moans and whinges,snores and eats like a pig, and lives with his children (24 and 21) who are really aggressive,swear every second word,and bark out of car windows at women they don't find particularly attractive,and also write very abusive things about other people on Facebook, unless you are going out with their dad, then they say it to you via text..The 3rd son,16,is catching up fast..

That's just the initial obvious stuff..
Quite a catch! NNNNOOOOTTTTT..don't all rush now..

Think i have come to my senses ladies!
Have also borrowed a book about positive psychology,to keep momentum going.

I know my H won't be dating anyone as noone would have him

Felt bad today as I shouted at DS because he lost the TV remote control and he cried and said "you have hurt my feelings"

DD did a wee on the toilet at playgroup today and then refused to have a pull up on so I thought lets give her a go with knickers cue lots of accidents

i am never going to get her toilet trained, she was 3 last wk

Very quiet on here.....

How is everyone???

My sadness has been replaced by seething anger, again. He left work early today to pick up the kids, they were doing my nut in. I called him a McDonald's father - fun when you're there but shut when you really need one. Cock.

Still waiting to hear back from man...am wondering whether to take plunge re texting him again but too scared! My sister knows his friend and pparently he's very shy. His last gf shagged his twin....and yes, she knew it was his twin.

Having a bad day today

Just so fucking fed up of doing everything myself

I can cope with the kids tbh (most of the time!!) but its the running of the house thats getting me down

DD is pulling her blind down off the roller in her room and today when I let the kittens out I could not close the patio doors

The lock is totally buggered so will cost me £££ I don't have.

It took me an hr to close them again, cue lots of swearing etc

Door now locked but out of action A friend popped round and we managed to get the kittens in (they don't know to come to front door)

Fuck knows what I will do tomorrow as having the cats under foot all day will do my head in

And it was the last ever keep fit class today and I got a call to say no room for DD at the creche, so I had to miss it

Meanwhile H is swanning around being able to do whatever he wants

simpson- my first port of call for anything that doesn't work properly..spray WD40 on/in it! it's can be a little miracle cure.

Pity it doesn't work on fuckwits..