support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

fuckity fuck....

I am now starting to feel ill, high temp etc

This is all I need..

At least DD has playgroup tomorrow morning so I will have a break for a couple of hrs.

NNNNnnnooooooo simpson, that's bloody terrible!...hoping it doesn't happen x

Am a step away from being really mad

the girls have been waking each other up since 8pm, and have had all manner of milk, dummies, nappies.... finally quiet now. am so cross i have to deal with this on my own.

Thanks for the nougat Jellycat and happy birthday to your dd! Simpson I hope you feel better soon, its horrible when you're not well and theres no one to take over the childcare . I find the hardest thing about being a single parent is the relentlessness of it (and I only have 1!), no time off ever unless ex decides to step up for a few hours which is not very often and I'm supposed to be eternally grateful for .

I've had calls and texts today begging for forgiveness, I'm hoping he'll get the message soon

Oh dear, hope you feel better soon simpson.

Hello to everyone else :)

I may avtually be starting to get somewhere with the tax credits people. Have emailed my MP and got a reply immediately, they're going to chase it up for me now. It'll be a lot easier to get past everything and get on once all that's sorted. Maybe then I can start doing the things I've been planning to and get myself out of the house now and then, even just to a yoga class :)

Hi everyone,

Hope you all having a stress free day?

SJM - well done on giving the TC people a kick up the bum

Jellykat - happy birthday to your DD

Scorps - did you get them to bed ok?

nevereat - stay strong re texts

Well miracle of miracles I actually feel ok today DD not great this afternoon and now has temp again

The last party invitation went out for DD's 3rd party today so lets hope all/most of the kids make it otherwise she will be soooo upset, its all she has talked about for weeks

That reminds me...does anyone else have a DD (or DS) that just does not stop talking??? Its driving me slowly mad

A prime example is this morning we had a 20 min chat about how people who live in flats get in the building (ie they don't have their own front door)

The one good thing about her being ill is she does not talk

Oh, and I have just eaten a whole pack of mini babybels (meant for DS) and now feel a bit sick

Simpson, my daughter literally never stops talking, and has been known to talk in her sleep too.

Sometimes she changes her mind about what she wants to talk about halfway through a sentence and will just stop halfway and switch to something else and you have to try and fill in the gaps. It can be bloody exhausting. She's 10 now, I did think maybe she'd grow out of it as she got older but I'm slowly becoming more resigned to the fact that she's just a little chatterbox!

Hope both you and little one feels better soon :)

yes DD talks in her sleep too

It is just very trying tbh especially when she gets something stuck in her mind.

Ds was a bit sulky this morning and I said if he was not good he would not be able to go to Kew Gdns next w/end (he replied "I don't want to anyway!!")and I swear DD asked at least 50 times why he does not want to go and kept going on and on etc

I used to wish DS2 had a little on/off switch when he was little,but now officially a teenager i can see grunts for answers,creeping in..

The one thing i've always treasured about being single, is that once the DC are asleep, you don't have to listen or talk to anyone else, if you don't want to.

Glad you're not feeling too bad today simpson, try not to overdo it though, you don't want it creeping up on you again...I have always found as a LP that bugs take ages to go away,as you still have to keep on going,regardless!
Thank you for the Birthday wishes-Phew,glad it's done,for another year!

I will definately be glad when DD's birthday is over Especially her party!!!

Yes a mute button would be good

Jellykat - I don't have long until ds is a teenager and I must say I'm not thrilled at the prospect. I'm already starting to get a little bit of answering back which I am quite clear with him is not acceptable, and usually after a little post-telling-off sulk he apologises. I just hope they're nothing like I was as a teen, or I'm in for a rough ride!

My ex is having the kids on Saturday night, and I'm actually going to leave the house and do something grown up! I'm going to a housewarming party with an old mate. It's her friend's housewarming, and I don't know them at all so I shall probably just sit in the corner feeling slightly embarrassed and self conscious, but at least I'm getting out. Bless her, rather than let me get a bus and walk through a couple of alleyways to her place she's insisting on coming from the next town over to pick me up too :)

simpson- When is your DDs party?

sjm-keep DSs apologies coming, once they go you're buggered!

Although i have done the hormonal teen thing once, with DS1)he wasn't too bad, i think DS2 is going to be a bit tougher-he's much more stubborn,and determined,and i think stupidly, i have let him get away with not doing much to help around the house-mainly because i find it quicker to do a 2 minute job myself, then nag him for an hour!!
I have suspicions i have made a rod for my own back .Mind you,i rarely lose my temper with him so on the few occasions i do,he knows i mean business..

Re.going out Sat-Yay!
No to sitting in the corner tho'..That's a good friend you have there,am sure she'll get you nattering to new people

I have known her since we were at nursery school together. It's only by accident she happened to move up here to Herts from south London a little while back. It's nice to have an old mate nearby now though :)

I keep telling myself that I must get round to getting my kids to do bits to help out in the house, but I always cave and end up doing everything myself. It just seems easier

Not a lot different to when the git used to live with us tbh, the only thing he ever did in the house was take the rubbish out and only after I'd asked at least half a dozen times, then he'd have a strop about being told what to do. My place is tidier than it's ever been without his pants chucked all over the place and damp newspapers left on the bathroom floor after he'd finished reading them in the bath of a morning.

Actually, it's nice to not have to shout to get into the one bathroom in the mornings now too, especially as there's a really good shower in my bedroom he could have used anyway! Ah well, his mum can deal with all his crap now, though the kids say he tidies, hoovers and washes up for her. He's 31, it's about time he learned.

I suppose what I get for being stupid enough to have a bloke that had only lived in a flat on his own for 6 months and turned it into disgusting tip while he was there.

Sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant there

SJM - I am very on your night out

Putting out the rubbish is the job I hate more than anything

jellykat - DD's party is on 29th jan which is her actual birthday. She is sooooo excited

I am abusing this thread to rant - my DC are suppose to be with Daddy and new girlfriend tomorrow and on his weekly phone call to the girls this morning he casually mentioned that he hadn't asked her yet where or what time she wanted to meet (I did say i was happy to flexiable as she is driving but that is pushing it) As I hadn't heard i'd assumed that the normal arrangements stood and had made plans. Now i don't know whether to rearrange those or just cancel. I think i'm going to have to just cancel :-( Severly pissed off

woo hoo just had a result!!!

Not feeling too good this morning (head cold etc) and a friend of mine just rang to see if I wanted her to take DS to school as I took her DD in a couple of times.

Means I don't have to drag myself out for school run and can stay in house a bit longer and try and feel better for my keep fit class this afternoon.

Hannnis - what a twunt men are just so thoughtless sometimes, it amazes me that they ever manage to get anything done in life

Hope everyone is well. My ds2 talks ALOT.

I'm going out Saturday night too, will also be trying to talk to people. Feeling a bit down today, not sure why, very tired i think. No plans for tonight though, and i don't want to sink into a pit.....

More texts from H. Said he misses our nicknames thing. Then he asked if i was ready to date, and that it would feel weird for him, dating. He asked when the right time is, i said i don't know, you will know when you want to. FGS.I told him that he must find someone else to talk to about dating.

Interview was a waste of time.

So tired from all the nightmares and nonsense that I was literally shaking like a leaf.

I was always good at interview, I have only ever had 2 that didn't lead to me being offered a job. Feel quite pathetic :(

Christ, we all need a big hug today!!

sjm - How do you know it was a waste of time, did they tell you then and there, that you hadn't got it?.. Even if you hadn't, it's because you're knackered at the moment, not because you weren't capable of doing the job!

Hannis- Any news re. times for tomorrow? Don't cancel yet, it's your time off, as well as DCs contact.. Might he let you know tonight?

Scorps-look forward to tomorrows' night out, and get a good nights sleep tonight.

Hiya Simpson, will you never listen?..gym class, while feeling ill again..

Tomorrow we will try to feel like
this---->
A little Vodka and big chocolate will help till then.Or the other way around...

P.S If you could just send Johnny Depp around in his Capt. Sparrow costume to give me said hug- I'd very much appreciate it!(o.k so he's a bit short, but never mind..)

Oooh Johnny Depp yum yum

Well, I did cancel keep fit in the end as I am feeling too ropey

Had to do the much dreaded weekly phone call from H tonight

He has had a letter from the solicitor which he thinks says we are now divorced I have heard nothing and sods law have to wait all weekend

Might be in the post tomorrow simpson..
I've never been married,but would imagine the decree absolute arrival is a real mixture of emotions..

well I will be dancing round the house

Just wish I'd never married him in the first place But then I suppose I wouldn't have DC....

Well in that case 'congratulations' will be in order!