Am I being too fussy?

[salizchap]

OK, after the passing of yet another waste of space relationship, I have put a new profile on POF in the ever unrealistic optimistic hope of atracting mr right.

Is it me? 4 men have contacted me recently. Although I specifically say on my profile that I only want to date locally, the first man lives 200 miles away. The second just looks miserable and doesn't smile in any of his 10 pics. The third is unattractive and only writes 2 lines in his profile. The fourth is ok in his pic but his ortography, spelling and punctuation is awful.

None has an interesting or well paid job (full time student, lorry driver, shop worker, unemployed). I would like, for a change, date a professional man who might be able to treat me occasionally, especially as a lone parent I struggle to make ends meet. I am fed up of landing blokes who are worse with finances than me and just make my life more complicated.

Am I expecting too much? Am I being a job snob?

I didn't get time. I felt sooo poorly :( Have been being sick all day :( He did say he had had a lovely weekend, which I take to mean all of it, dc included, but he is comign over tomorrow so I will discuss it then. I hate feeling so rotten, that's 2 weekends in a row that have been spent being sick, and not a drop of alcohol involved
I'll put a pic up (for a limited time only) if I can work out how :)

Awww! He's lovely! And is that you? You look GREAT!!!

woohoo...look at the pair of you....very of your very shiney hair .

Sorry you are not well again Boo, but imagine you are getting plenty of tlc .

Not tonight, I think he has seen more than enough of my sick
My hair is never that shiney, I blame a very very good camera with fabulous flash, but I can pretend :) It was such a fab night, I'm glas we've got some nice pictures from it.
How goes the medallion man saga?

I want one of those cameras .

Well, I have decided to ignore MedallionMan..he left me a message on PoF a couple of days ago [hmm} but figure that is quite rude considering he has my email/mobile so I am hoping he will drift away quietly...have given up for now.

Boo, how are things going?

MedallionMan has taken the hint and not contacted me. I have de-registered from PoF for now, just can't be bothered at the moment.

All good here, have finally shaken off this bug, but it's lasted a week
He stayed over last night and helped me put up the decorations as a surprise for the dc when they woke up, and put up the tree ready for them to decorate this morning. They were chuffed :)
Really looking forward to this week, will be able to spend lots of time together, I'm meetign his parents on Tuesday and we're spending his birthday together on Wednesday. He was lovely this morning, he has a big Christmas holiday booked off work and said he'd love to take me and the dc out somewhere if I'd be ok with it. I said it was lovely, and it is a lovely thought, I would never suggets it in case he felt somehow obligated to say yes. But I'm not sure if it's still too soon to involve the dc on a regular basis. My head firmly says yes, far too soon. My heart says he's a fabulous guy that I think I'm falling in love with, that is good to me and respectful of my situation and my dc, and what harm can it do? My dd spoke to me yesterday and said she wouldn't mind if he stayed in the morning for breakfast, rather than dashing off before they wake up, so maybe we'll start with a nice Christmassy breakfast one day this week and see what happens.

blardy hell, that is fantastic, you enjoy every minute of it and keep us updated....obviously some of us are living your romance as well .

how's it all going Boo?

Fabulous :) I met his family yesterday, they are so lovely, his dad reminds me very much of my own. I am so pleased that me having dc doesn't seem to be an issue to anyone so far, I was really expecting getting back into dating to be much much more difficult and to encounter more judgeyness iyswim. So far there's been nothing of the sort. We had a lovely day yesterday, drove to T opsham for a pub lunch and a mooch, and now I'm waitign for him to come round to pick me up again. Spending time together in the day is a bit of a novelty :) It's his birthday dinner tonight and then I'm seeing him tomorrow night too. He's said he understands that I'll want to spend Christmas eve with the dc, but maybe he'll come across christmas day when they're in bed. Really looking forward to Christmas this year

Well you obviously deserve this happiness Boo. What did you get him for his birthday/christmas?

no uptades from BooBoo???
she must be well busy!

Literally just logged on, how weird is that. Nice to know I have stalkers though
All good. The meal last night was amazing, I met some more of his friends and had a great time. It all feels so adult compared to my other relationships tbh. My grandparents are very impressed with him, and I really like his family too. I know I'm still holding a bit of myself back though, which is becoming an issue as I've realised I'm petrified of gettign hurt again. WHen ex left me it really did affect me, I was left with an anxiety disorder and anorexia, both of which I'm thankfully in recovery from now, but I think both of which are making me forming a true, proper commitment more difficult than I feel it should be.
I'm just off for my CBT session so I'm in overthink mode, but I am goign to talk to him tonight about this and just hope he doesn't think of me differently. The eating especially is difficult for me to tell people beause, wether they mean to or not, it makes them not know how to behave when eating together and that makes me more uncomfortable.
Right, am off to cheer the hell up

dear me... sorry to confuse you pumping the tread I stopped to previous pages didnt realised the story carried on

Boo, glad family/friends are all positive. I think you are doing the right thing in holding back a bit, there is not rush, he seems like a really nice guy. How was Christmas, any plans with him for NY?

well haha, MedallionMan has added me as a favourite today. He is looking for long term, my new profile is for other relationship . Wonder if he will get in touch .

Jaqui you dark horse
All going well, he came across on Christmas day after the dc were in bed, and yesterday too. Dd's off to her dad's tomorrow which is goign to make things much quieter around here so I'm hoping we can get some nice daytime stuff planned with just d, maybe a drive somewhere if the weather isn't too bad. I really do like him an embarassing amount which is lovely as it wasn't instant, it has become more with time.
Am at medallion man. WHatever to make of that??

ooooh, glad everything is still going well Boo.

Oh I jumped ship on trying to find lurve on another thread, just going for the sex now hahha. I await a message from MedallionMan, start getting replies ready please .

Blimey. I don't understand the 'favourite' thing. I never was contacted by anyone who made me a favourite so I don't really see the point. It creeped me out
Medallion man seems weird. At least you gave it a chance so there's no doubt in your mind that you did the wrong thing

He is on line A LOT, and still has me as a favourite but with no contact. Am wondering if I should put on my profile something like...for those of you that have added me as a favourtie, man up and make contact or I shall remove you...what do you think? The paranoid side of me thinks that he knows it is me although I have a different name etc.

Ah what does it matter if he does know? I'd put that at the end of your profile. I had somehting similar on mine about being able to string a sentence together and not calling me 'babe'. Some ignore it, but mostly I htink it sorts the wheat from thechaff. My man (yay!) had somehting similar on his as well iirc.
Well, dd is at her dad's for a week so it's just me and 2yo ds. Man coming across tonight and hopefully going out in the day tomo with the lovely lovely friend who babysat for us when we were at the ball. I so so appreciate being able to include each other in our social circles. My exdp never included me with his friends or family, and tbh I put up with it without really realising how crappy it made me feel. That dp (double yay!) actually goes out of hi way to be involved, both with my friends and his, as a couple, is so nice :)

Boo, we need a NY update .

Ah it was fabulous
We went to his friends house first for a few too many drinks and then got a taxi into town to a lovely pub. I feel so lucky that his friends feel like my friends, they are people I really like and get on with, and they seem to really like me too, so it was a great night. Ds was at my friends house overnight so we even got a lie in this morning, and not a hangover (in my case) in sight. He on the other hand was feeling a little delicate We had a lovely, slightly tipsy talk yesterday where he told me he was in it for the long run, that he really really liked me (we're in no rush to say the L word) and it was lovely. I feel very loved and secure at the moment :)

swoon......very happy for you Boo, long may it continue .

Thanks Jaqui :)
How goes your man hunt?