Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 25)

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Kicking this off.

Hi BeautnotMag, 3rd date sounding promising and can see you are keeping your options open.

Only pay site I'm on atm is soulmates but my sub runs out pretty soon I think.

Other than that only free sites - and sometimes I wonder if that's partly the problem eg pay f.a - get f.a! If I get one more 'hi sxy' message or message from some unintelligent, ugly, badly (or worse un-) dressed munter, I will go postal!

Oh well, I suppose the thread title does say it all ...

And have a week without alcohol - in fact pretty much without anything other than protein to look forward to!

KDK, we've all had our fair share o fthose, just chill and ignore them. I always find when you get the one message in 20 from someone normal looking it raises your spirits.

Once I was on POF for 18 months and only met one person, we fell for each other but circs made it impossible. Still friends now.

Hi all.My goodness this thread moves fast.

Lou Dont know what else to say on your exh other than to agree with others that he is a twat and the children may always love him but the older they get if he doesn't make an effort neither will they.If he can't realise that it's his problem.
Exp was supposed to have the boys overnight on tuesday but now isn't.Great when i have just spent the last day preparing ds1(he has autism).Now i have to lie to him and tell him that daddy has been called into work.When the truth is exp gambled all his wage this week and told me he cant have the boys as is too down.I just have to laugh now.

Flamesparrow glad im not the only one that gets confused with the whole dating etiquette it's so confusing.

Scl hi good luck with weight watchers i did it a couple of years ago and have lost four stone.I now weigh less than before i had kids.Shame that my tummy will never be the same again though.

Hi Eve - know what you mean - just that I don't ever - and I mean ever - get messages from anyone normal - if they look normal then a closer examination of their profile reveals that they list what they're good at as ... spanking. I only attract loons and munters - oh and lately scammers disguising themselves (badly and for no discernable reason I can imagine) as US soldiers as per this. I obviously did something very bad in a previous existence and should just learn to accept lifelong celibacy and get some cats!

afternoon

god, what a weird 18 hrs or so

Am still trying to finalise financial terms with XH, who is a taker not a giver shall we say. I ask you, is it my fault that he ran away from all his work locally, burned his boats and built up work in SW London so he 'has' to live there now and can't find a 'nice place' in one of the most expensive boroughs in the country???? I feel like screaming and sending him links of very affordable houses up the road from here

anyhoo

went over to GMM last night, which was a lovely evening, he cooked nice food and we chatted for ages, as usual. But I have to say, I am not sure quite what went wrong after that.......v nice snog on the sofa (felt 16 in a good way ), one thing led to another and we ended up in bed (which, having gone to the effort of shaving pits/legs and putting on matching underwear, was a good job really). He kep going on about how fabulous I was and he couldn't believe I wanted to be with him.....

but it didn't work

now I don't know what on earth to do, I really like him but he is talking about buying a place in Oxford (he is 40 mins drive from me as it is, that would put him >hr) added to the non-event in the sack and I am a bit flummoxed

advice wise MNers

sorry

shoulda said, elasta, been thinking of you

Lou, what they said plus twunt

asbm, nice to see you

Sponge, how did it go???

Oh mily what a let down. Happened to me so we just stayed friends afterwards. If he is moving further coupled with the 'problem' then I think you should detach a bit. BTW don't blame yourself. Did you ask him what went wrong.

hey eve, god it was strange, not something I have ever encountered.

He said 1st night nerves, and he was a bit kind of frantic at various stages, which was all very flattering but at the same time not quite what I needed.....He did say it's 3 years since his last serious relationship, maybe he has had a very long dry spell

poor man though, if I detach he'll be mortified, won't he?

Mily oh no.Maybe it was just first night nerves.I would maybe see him again to help make up your mind and just see what happens.

I saw my date from friday night again last night.I fancy him so much and act like a silly school girl around him.I kept blushing too so embarassing.He sent me this text today;

'Thank you I have had two lovely evenings with you now.Its so nice because we just get along so well.I really do like you Beaut and i would love to see you again xx'

He then text to ask if im free again during the week.We had a bit of a kiss last night which was a little embarassing as i literally went weak at the kness and fell against him

Beaut [jealous]

Meant to say lol

Abouteve I'm trying not to get too excited as these days i always find the men i like don't like me back.He hasn't seen my stretch marks and baby belly yet haha.So may run for the hills.

Hello everybody, and welcome new posters.

Elasta - hope you're bearing up ok.

MILY - what a shame. Oh dear, I'd probably give it another 'go' to see if it was first night nerves, but if he's moving...

Beaut - sounds great

Sponge - when are you seeing wm??

Lou - don't they just love the sympathy card. Try and ignore him, as you say, deal with on a dc's level only.

:)

Not a lot happening with me, trundling along and can't say I'm on top of the world hence the silence. Everything is ok, but just ok iyswim.

Hi Monty

you and me both re cheering up. Maybe should go for another drink (once I'm back on the booze which is likely to be very soon!) and give each other a bit of tuition! About time there was another meet-up isn't it?

MILY - definitely give it another go - poor man was probably just overcome with nerves esp after three years!

And Beaut - am very but very as well IYKWIM ... just go for it and enjoy it - and to be honest, any man really worth his salt will not be fazed by what are probably non-existent stretch marks/baby belly!

Hi all
More texts from my date.Hmm what to call him well whenever i speak about him to my friend i just say the date guy so DG it is.Is rubbish i know but i'm too dizzyin lust to think straight

So to the texts.Now he has asked me to go bowling on saturday for a friends birthday.I want to go but i am absolutely rubbish at bowling and often very awkward in social situations.I go red alot.I really must overcome this i was never like it before but my relationship with exp completely stripped me of my confidence.

Monty i hope you are ok.Get a comedy on and a bottle of wine to hand.Always works for me.I think Sponge said her date isn't until thursday.

Kdk haha great minds think alike re the wine.I have been on the dating sites for about two months now and to be honest i had so many messages from weirdos and much older men that i had pretty much given up.Do persevere though.DG really didn't seem my type at all from the pics and didn't seem to have that much in common.I wasn't going to bother going on a date with him.Obviously now so glad i did.

We both agreed that the huge questioning section when you join eharmony must work as we are very similar personality wise and share the same/silmilar views on things.

Kdk - A meet up sounds good. When are you back on the wine ? Soon as you're ready really. I'm not around weekends of 9 October and 16 October as I'm supposed to be going on holiday. Am around any other weeks though.

Beaut lol at DG's name. Exh's have a habit of stripping us of our confidence. I don't think you have anything to worry about with DG though.

Aurora - how's it going??

Ninah - where are you??

Juice - hope all is well with you.

I agree MILY - def give the guy at least one more shot

My house is completely moved out of. Feels very odd. Sort of complete finishing of the marriage iyswim.

The most baffling vegetable in the world has just left here. I've given up trying to have a clue what is going on, or actually caring tbh. I've completely backed off and leaving everything up to him, expecting him to vanish... but apparently not. I have some company and a laugh. Its like being married but without the sex or socks to wash. I am still classing myself as single so if someone sane comes along I am free to do whatever I like. Next weekend I have a girly trip to London which I plan to enjoy. :o

Flame, love that expression "most baffling vegetable in the world"!! Enjoy London next weekend, I'm off to Paris for the day on Sat to meet up with my American penpal who's on holiday there.

DG might not be a great name, but I'm not sure kiwi toyboy is either (even if accurate!) We went out for a meal at my local, then came back to my place (both DDs elsewhere, obviously) and he stayed the night

I freaked out a bit this evening when I logged into the site to hide my profile and found he'd been on there today, despite only leaving my place at 2pm. Will see how it goes, but will make sure he knows that I am not into sharing and it has to be exclusive for as long as it lasts. If he doesn't like that, he can disappear. I may be massively over-reacting here, I admit.

He may have been on for the same reason as you :)

@ all the activity other people are getting

Hi all,

I'm newish here (random post here and there) and have read your posts with great interest. Am I the only one who can't bring herself to: a. spend the money on online dating, b. consider going on a date with the guys who have been in touch???

Last date was in May when I went out with a time-waster for a couple of months. Still see him every so often and he has been in touch (testing the water but no balls to really ask "shall we go out for a drink?") even though he broke up with me...after I said I wanted time to think. It's an ego-boost that I need as really couldn't stand dating him again. Very good-looking but also incredibly thick and self-centred. Sorry, harsh...

Back to the internet, the majority of men who have contacted me seem to seriously lack common-sense: it's not all about looks but come on now! Plus ignore the crucial 'don't want children' etc... A recent one did sound very interesting but then put down that he goes to salsa lessons. That made me think it wasn't worth the effort / money for subscription.

On my other thread, I mentioned very good-looking dad at sleepover at British Museum so I must be on the right track: go to places you enjoy / do things you like and you are more likely to meet someone you've got something in common with, right?

Are children's teachers 'out of bound' by the way? Any thoughts, ladies?

BNM, Lilac, am v

Stella, glad you came across. You are not the only one ref the guys who have been in touch. I agree with you about getting out and doing things that you enjoy which have a by-product of meeting grown-ups who might be like-minded (good-looking is a bonus ). The trouble is time

Flame, rofl at carrot description

KDK, Monty, I'd be up for meeting for a drink

Whats wrong with salsa lessons?

morning all

MILY dont give up on GMM. I haven't been in exactly the same situation, but just after splitting up with Ex went out with someone (generally referred to as the one who broke my heart...) who was v anxious about being a disappointment - and so kept putting off taking things to the next stage for ages. it was all fine in the end, much better than fine in fact but I think had we got to that stage any sooner it would have been a simliar situation.

Just thinking how we worry so much as women about our bodies (esp post children) and feel men have it easy, yet from experience quite a few men - especially if they've been on their own for a while - have lots of 'performance anxieties' of their own...

am definitely on for a drink sometime with you other lovely ladies ....I can normally only do fris or sat due to the ungodly hour I have to get up for work in the week - is 22/10 any good for everyone?

havent been on my non date yet. it's supposed to be this friday, although he did say he was going to text me to confirm over the weekend and I haven't heard from him. So either he was busy, is not that bothered, or has met someone younger, thinner and blonder than me....or a combination of all of the above