Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

Sponge, yes am excited about Saturday, really looking fwd, although i will be knackered as I have a very early start thjat day, gotta go down to Somerset and back . But it will be good to have the evening to look forward to

Had a great night out last night, with 2 old work friends, both have been there with XH's and the dating game, so much hilarity comparing notes.

too much to drink and not enough to eat is not good this morning tho........

Dp just joined a gym local to me, a 12 month sub. So looks like he is gonna be around for a while :)

oooooh, good buying sign (sorry, once a saleswoman, always a saleswoman )

as long as he doesnt try getting me to go

it's been 9 months hasn't it?....oh, I should think he knows better than to try that

it has, but he doesnt lol

Lol Lou - he wouldn't be that mad would he?

Carroty news... we're down to friends :( He's still intending on seeing me lots (goody... another male friend I can't sleep with). I want to still see him as we get on so well, but ARGH. Bloody man. It works dammit. He has over thought himself and now says that it is better doing nothing as he doesn't know what he wants. And yet I have had two texts tonight referring to me in a cat woman outfit .

Meh, has been a crappy day in general. He'll work out I'm fabulous eventually. For now I'm not going back looking - a rebound bloke for the rebound bloke just seems madness :o

Hello all, just marking my place as my Mother is visiting so I don't have time for a proper catch up.

Elasta, I am thinking of you at this horrible time

FS take some time, concentrate on you and getting your new home sorted and then try to get a night out with the girls. There are nice men out there, but there are a lot of broken ones too... You deserve someone who knows what they want and knows that they want you, no messing around!

Hello and goodnight to everyone else, have been spring (autumn?) cleaning and building furniture so I'm knackered and going to fall into bed.

That sounds faaaaaaaaaaaaaar too sensible .

We were discussing my day and i said that he would figure out I am fabulous eventually. He says he already knows I'm fabulous.

Hi All,

Just checking in. Have gone back to work for a couple of days then am going back to see mum this weekend with my boys - it may well be the last time they visit. She is so brave, but is not feeling at all good

My work have been lovely - they have given me as much time off as I need and have also said they will pay me, which is a huge relief and soemthing I wasnt expecting. Even our CEO asked after mum today, I felt really touched.

Thanks all for your wishes, it really helps

He is trying to keep his options open flame. Sorry to have to say that.

Personally i would tell him i have enough friends and to shit or get off the pot

Agree with Lou on this one Flame. Was going to post yesterday to say I wouldn't go over and tell him he can have his own way.

Elasta hope you are OK.

Things seem to be going well with me, went out last night on a second date.

But why? (In a questioning men way rather than a questioning you lot way). He isn't getting anything from this. I could understand if he was using me for sex iyswim. I'm going back to pootling along happily for a while. It is quite nice having company every so often in the evening (I hadn't realised how much I miss it), so not bothering to stop that, but I can't be arsed right now going looking again. I'm gonna get settled in here, and then deal with the madness that is men a bit down the line. If one happens to drop in my lap I certainly wouldn't be turning them down though on the basis of insane vegetables.

Elasta - thinking of you so much

Flame, don't get me wrong. I have had casual relationships, a FWB that I've known over 4 yrs and Salesman who I still speak to and might meet up with next weekend, but it is just that and I'm not wanting or expecting anything more. In fact it's mostly on my terms. I will sleep in the spare room or not depending on my mood. Like you've said he isn't getting any benefits so is wanting a friendship which may mean meet up every now and again, which is absolutely fine if that is what you want too. Not so fine if you want more.

Must admit that I'm a bit fed up with the casual thing atm and am hoping to start anew.

FS - cant answer that, have decided men are just odd sometimes, and no amount of analysing ever makes any sense of the way they behave. I think he's being a bit crap but whether it's for a genuine reason or not (I tend to think the former) I guess is something only time will tell......

eve - whats this re second date? Is this the neighbour?

Elasta - not much I can say, except that am thinking of you, and wishing you strength to get through the weekend, and the weeks ahead. it's so hard to lose a parent (I still miss my mum every day).

am glad your work are being supportive. good employers are hard to find (speaking as someone who has just been shouted by one of my peers at an office meeting, my firm certainly isnt one!)

I am feeling very about the way I treated DH in the beginning, as a result of all this. I did exactly this to him - poor man never knew if he was coming or going. He says he decided that he liked my company regardless which is why he stuck around. Always remember him saying Offspring - Self Esteem was "our song" when we were in the friends stage. :o

He's self harmed again btw. This week with the moving, plus crap time at work has set him off. Despite all the pain, it still makes me want to just look after him when I see scars.

FS if you haven't already, you need to read this It's good to have around as a reminder of what not to put up with!
I'm sorry about your XH, it's horrible seeing the people you care about hurting

ffs i am beyond fuming, tell me this is perfectly understandable

exh has not seen the kids since the 14th august

he has spoken to them once a couple of days ago

he has not asked to see them at all

today he sends me a message saying "Lou check YOUR hotmail" not saying why

eventually i do, thinking maybe he is finally asking to see them

oh no that would be too much to ask for

he has sent me a fucking VIDEO of our wedding day, remixed and with music added and stuck on youtube!!!

i am livid, i replied saying "no thanks", that i wasnt interested and had stupidly thought he was emailing about seeing the kids but clearly he has something much more important to do with his time

isnt that just a bit fucking WEIRD? we have been split for 5 yrs almost

he is trapped in the past isnt he?

Lou, beyond weird and out the other side into a place you just don't want to see.....

Elasta, thoughts are with you and yours (((())))

Eve - 2nd date??

FS, what they all said, with clogs on , especially FairyLights

Lou, your Exh is an unbelieveable twat agree with Mily, beyond weird...

am just leaving work now, will try and catch up with you tomorrow when I'm back in work again at 8am (frankly I may as well live here!)

Its creepy. He keeps doing things like that. I didn't watch it btw. Looking forward to hear dps input lol.

Exh makes my skin crawl, he is living in the past. Its been nearly FIVE YEARS ffs

that is so weird lou!

he says he thought it would be funny

and he cant see the kids as he is busy working everyday to get money to go to thailand to see his other child, but its ok he has got lots of conkers for ds2

Hi ladies can i join you all.I have within the last month joined eharmony and SWK.The reason i decided to join is that i was on the blind date thread.I havent heard a word about that since soo decided to join some sites having been single for 3 years.

I am going on a date tomorrow night and i have a third date with someone on saturday night

Lou, he is weired. I didn't realise he had another child abroad!

Got a four days off work now so am sat having a glass of wine. 2nd date was with 'neighbour' haven't sorted out a 3rd yet.