Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

Back from run, lovely shade of pink!!!

New house is very stressful, and it is hard when it was supposed to be a family home - this happened to me.

We bought a house - I spent months with builders doing it up - H left us 3 weeks after we moved in and I am still here with the kids as I took it as my divorce settlement. For a while I hated the place but now I have re done bits of it and it is our home and we are really happy here. You will be too

hey lovely people

Elasta, big cheers re mum , and run

Flame, it is so hard and you are not alone in how you are feeling re the dating game. I am torn about the fact that I would like a companion/playmate (the latter not necessariliy in the Playboy sense ) to do stuff with but I don't know how it 'should' feel i.e. grand passion and feelings vs whatever it is going on with GMM atm

did any of that make sense???

housewarming gift sounds spot on, esp if decorator is himself decorative (no harm in a nice view )

Oh that really sucks Elasta - thankfully here it was just a planned move. I have actually done all the house choosing etc alone.

That did make a lot of sense. I always remember my mum talking about her relationships with my dad and the boyfriend after - dad was the big love, and BF was the grand passion. DH kind of grew on me but then turned into just that extra part of me iyswim. Carrot was meant to be a bit of a laugh and some passion, not this stomach churny stuff when he texts .

I'm more relaxed about it all again today btw . Or I am for this hour at least...

Hi All!!! hows it going??

Have just had a highly embarassing encounter with a man at the climbing centre where I take my kids.

Was belaying my son up the wall and the guy who runs the place - who I have talked to on and off - comes up behind me and says 'your harness isnt straight, let me sort it out' and promptly starts adjusting the harness round my waist and hips whilst I have my hands on the rope with my son on the end. Was definately a close encounter, not the thing you would normally do with a stranger. I was really .

Perhaps he is just safety conscious, but it did seem an very odd thing to do - bet he doesnt do that to the men!!

Hi ladies, since you are all experts, please tell me which dating sites are a) worth joining and b) free or cheap?

I'm a 42yo single parent BTW, so it needs not to be populated by 20somethings!

Thanks!

hey elasta - the main question is, was he fit (we'll come to interesting and available later....)

agree re embarassing though - well done for not losing grip on your son!

Lilac, I am a relative newcomer to this thread so wouldn't say am an expert. I have joined Guardian Soulmates which is not cheap but has proved better for me than the other site i joined - Single with Kids. The latter is much cheaper but irritates me because I have had 200+ messages, all but a tiny handful being broadcast so-called 'ice-breakers' which blokes send out to all and sundry with dreadful grammar, spelling and cringe-enducing messages . It also seems to have a lot of blokes without kids, which seems a bit odd to me

Others on here have used Plenty of Fish (which I think is free) with mixed success. Not sure if My Single Friend is free or not, but again think people here have used.

Ooh yes Elasta - wot she said

I was on Plentyoffish. Spoke to a couple of nice blokes. A couple of creeps. It was better once I sussed telling them to say specific thing in subject line as I could delete anyone who couldn't be arsed.

I am on smooch and pof.

Did date a guy from smooch last year for about six months but he turned out to be a bit odd in the end.

re pof haven't had much luck. Did reply to a guy last week but having then looked at his profile closer not really interested.

Sin, just saw your post on other thread re asking someone out for a drink - you too direct? never! [grin}

MILU it hassss worked on a couple of occasions.

One thing I did find hard last year when dating the guy from smooch (samename) was that he couldn't really understand my lack of cash and time. He was single.

This was something Ihave never had to deal with before

god yes, that would be tough - you'd feel like screaming! Or I would

something I am struggling wrt GMM - he is 42, has a well-paid job, and a v well-rounded life (bikes, runs, goes to gigs, plays guitar in a band, has brunch on a sunday with the papers and heads to art-cinemas for matinees, no I am not making this up.....) and I feel like:

1. how do I even fit 2 hrs over a g&t in my life?
2. How do I talk about anything of interest (DD2 potty training, DD1 drama class, my job, the ironing??)
3. He prob would like someone to join in those kinds of things and, because I never have a work or childfree moment (am really really not moaning, god love 'em....) I feel frantic with trying to work out when I might see him

some of you may have noticed btw that this slow-burn thing is working on me , it really was a very nice snog on Saturday eve.....

Climbing bloke is very fit - they all are, you dont see many fat blokes hanging off climbing walls - but not really my type. He knows I am single though as he filled in my membership when we first joined and when he asked me for next of kin - in case you get sent to hosp - I had to say that I didnt have anyone as I lived on my own with the kids.

Perhaps he just feels sorry for me

Sailor was from MSF. but not heard from im since the weekend so perhaps he has bailed on me

elasta, not a chance - you are gorgeous

but if not your type, no good

am browsing rightmove to see what I could afford if I have to sell house to get XH to agree to divorce

Mummy I know just how you feel. Every time I start to date anyone, I realise I just dont have any time to see them. Now with mum ill i really dont have any time at all.

She seems to be doing OK atm. New nurse has arrived and has taken control a bit. Am sleeping a bit better as not waking at 2am worrying quite so much - still running up that hill!

elasta - such a relief for you to know she has that care on hand, glad you can relax a bit

Hi Lilac, I hang around on POF as it's free so don't feel under any pressure to get my monies worth.

I was just affirming to myself today that I hate internet dating. Met someone local last weekend, then he didn't bother to text me and I was feeling secretly mortified. Seen him online on fb and he has blanked me.

Anyway just logged on and he popped up in chat to tell me he has just got a new place, almost next door!!! OMG. There is nothing stalkerish about this as he applied for it well before we met and he had no idea who I was and where I live. Had a bit of a joke over it and a few xx when I told him I was logging off so don't feel so rejected now. Damn my stupid ego.

Well I joined OK Cupid and Lovestruck London (great special offer through Quidco) and we'll see what happens next!

Morning all. Not much to report here, things are still good with dp. Actually its been 9 months today since we met!

He has a day off today so is spending it here. We just had sausage sandwiches and watched jeremy kyle lol

good morning

flame - yeah i know the one he was adopted by the dwarfs in the story elasta is right i am a bit scared too but trying so hard to see how things go ((((())))) (and i don't care if hugs on mn aren't the done thign anymore, sometimes someone will just need a hug) {we need an emoticon for stikcing out your tongue!}

elasta - am glad you get on with your mom's nurse and that your mom's now settled at home.

mily - that site is also linked to other dating sites and that's why there's bokes on there with no kids.

asbm - i had some damage done to the back fence and some git left my back gate open, that was saturday 4th, reported it to police and he was the one that turned up on the following monday and it's just gone from there

Lou, do you have chickens installed yet? congrats on the month-aversary

aurora, agree re hugs

Flame, the question is, are you a werewolf?!

Yup that'd be the one :o

Oh and, I am best avoided for a few days a month

rofl flame

where is everyone??

Hi Mummy, Hi All, Have just got the kids to bed, far too late as usual. Have been running again, it is getting easier and is helping me sleep. Brother says mum is looking a bit more perky as she is being properly looked after.

Had a message from sailor this morning, says he has been really busy - have told him I am away this weekend as off to see mum in the morning - ex is picking up kids. Am not happy that my moods and self confidence can be so affected by txt or not from man i barely know - MUST get a grip!!

Feeling a bit more positive - the running is definately helping