Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

Am more gutted honestly about my ex's attitude towards my mum who he knew. He hasnt offered on iota of help or support.

He just obviously doesnt want to upset his new wife or new lifestyle by doing a bit more with his kids. Ds2 had been crying to him about not liking his surname, so I told him last night that DS2 wanted to change his surname to mine and has asked me a few times if his dad will let him. Ex left mine looking very upset, but I guess thats what happens when you try to force your kids into a new happy family without giving them any say in it.

elasta, agree X attitude is pants, both in terms of what a good human being would do for someone in this situation - ie think beyond the end of their own priorities, but also these blardy men who don't start and finish their thoughts with 'what is the right thing for DCs?'

elasta :( re Ex. Sad isn't it tho, I know that if anything bad happened to my Ex, even though he's put me through seven kinds of crap over the years, I would still offer to help in any way I could. I also know that were the boot on the other foot, he wouldn't do anything....a reminder were any needed that this is why they are our Ex's!

no news here, though been remembering some stuff said on friday...work friend (who is v protective of me re Ex, and gets v cross at how he behaves to me and the boys, I thought like a brother) told me his wife thought there was something between us (there isn't but it's upset me a bit she might think it - or him tell me for that matter). Just all made me feel a bit awkward, as if telling him the WM stuff wasnt bad enough I don't need to be concerned do I?

Sponge, if nothing else, you telling him the WM stuff will have put paid to any other nonsense

hi everyone, sorry i'm place marking again
everything going well hwere though

just finished stacking a mahoosive pile of logs delivered to the bottom of my drive today - thank goodness for lovely neighbour who came and helped, without him I'd still be out there (sadly not the kind of neighbour Eve is hoping moves in soon )

feel nice and cosy though as have enough wood to see me to the new year at least and I love that. Log burner is the best

also made soup today, is all getting a bit Little House on the Prairie round here.....

I agree with MILY - you telling him all about WM will have helped lots :) Having been the jealous/suspicious wife, she is just abit insecure.

I have been analysing again. Not like me I know . Putting together my little a,b,c thing from earlier for a friend, horrible realisation occurred... I was feeling exactly like that when I met XH. The reason I backed away was because I knew if I started it, then it would be a long term thing and I felt I was too young. If he is in the same place (and our minds are freakishly similar it seems) - eek from my angle, and I can completely see why he would be freaked from his! Woman with an xh and 3 kids... you would kinda need to be sure. Now I want to run a little bit too...

Flame, maybe just sit tight and see what happens. You 2 have been incredibly honest with each other which is a good thing, but y'know, if he is the real deal, time will tell and you have plenty of time. With what you have been/are going through, you need a bit of peace and equilibrium, so go with the flow

failing that, I recommend log-stacking and soup making therapy

mmmmmmmmmmmmmm soup.

I am unpacking as therapy. I should have bookshelves soon so I can organise. I'm thinking by set, genre, author and publishing date.

geek doesn't even start to describe that....

sooooo

going for dinner chez GMM Saturday night, very excited

fgs, I may have to shave my legs

:o yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(and )

about geek not your legs

hello all

MILY how exciting re dinner at GMMs am most envious, I dont think I've ever had a man cook for me! (yet) Has he told you what he's cooking?

FS - I used to have all my books organised in strict alphabetical order (by author), CDs and DVDs the same. So am clearly also a bit of a geek as well how are you feeling now re Carrot? Think MILY's advice is spot on, though I am the worst person ever at going with the flow...

re WM, he text me at 11pm last night to tell me he'd just got back from the hospital (nothing serious, cut himself at work...he is v accident prone). I dont know if our friend has said anything to him or not, he seemed exactly same as normal (although he doesnt normally text me as late as that!). so no further forward really

Tis nice he let you know he was injured :)

The dvds are more haphazard due to the teeny one playing with them.

How am I feeling now? Um. I spoke to two mates last night - one who moved up country to live with the woman he met online who has 3 kids (so great for advice on this!!), and a girly mate.

Boy mate told me that I should go with what Carrot wants, no need to back off but not push him either. Also to bear in mind that XH being so involved will be frightening for him too.

Girl mate annoyingly quoted back advise I gave her about a fortnight ago about not missing out on enjoyment by planning for break ups before they happen

Soooooooooooooo... the plan is that I am sorting the old house with XH tonight (loft etc), and then when I am done, I am going to find him in person and tell him that I'm taking my own advice and not running away just in case things go wrong (figured romantic gesture would be better than text - he is a romance kind of guy :))

Get your

Get your nursey outfit on sponge!

I do like dressing up

I can honestly say I have never dressed up....maybe that's where I'm going wrong? :)

Am also at thought of going to see him in said outfit, as leaving aside fact he would probably die of shock, he still lives with his parents and I dread to think what they would make of it!

Go give him a bed bath!

or take his temperature

I'm terrible aren't I?

rectally?

Dressing up is ESSENTIAL. :o

My whole big romantic gesture would have been much better had he sodding been home.

evening

sin, you are terrible

lou, you are no better

Sponge - he lives with his parents ?

as for what is being cooked on Saturday, not sure tbh, I will report back fully

Flame, I wouldn't mind the re my legs, am terrible at that sort of thing, just can't be bothered half the time.....but may have to make special effort

lol at lou and scl you are very bad influences!

FS how annoying that carrot wasn't home...guess that's the trouble with spontaneous gestures. but there will be other times...how's the alphabetising (sp?) of the books coming along? :)

MILY - I was a bit re the parents thing, but he does own a property which he used to live in - when mortgage rates went up, he couldn't afford to live there so now rents it out (which mostly covers mortgage). So could be worse....

and are you still excited about saturday?