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A thread in memory of biscuitsandbandages who tragically lost her battle with leukaemia on Thursday 27th November

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Mumsfret · 28/11/2014 20:17

Biscuits gathered so many supporters and followers as she went through the trauma of diagnosis and bravely endured attempts at a cure. Her Mumsnet army can post their condolences here. It may serve as a comfort to her family to know how much she was admired and loved.

On Biscuits' last thread, Kundry kindly posted a link to a donation page set up in her memory, for those who wish to respect her request to donate to multiple causes close to her heart, rather than send flowers. Oxfam (training doctors and midwives in the 3rd World), a book reading prize for the school her DSs attend, and Leukemia and Lymphoma research to help banish this disease from future generations. The link is:here

RIP Biscuits Thanks

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Mumsfret · 09/12/2014 15:50

Goldmandra, I know you weren't implying anything and had nothing but good intentions. You make a very valid point! And I share your concern
that we can't assume anything. Mr Biscuits might (quite understandably) be finding it hard to deal with everything all at once, and it might have been the last thing on his mind. However, I gather from Kundry, whom I believe has spoken to Mr Biscuits, that he's been very receptive to the idea of a blanket for Baby R. I'm hoping Kundry will be able to update us soon as she's also been communicating with the (wonderful) Woolly Huggers.
Paleo, also really good to know there are a few ways of reaching out to the family, if they are indeed open to it. Thank you. I am not at all surprised at how the community must be feeling about someone so widely loved and respected.

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Kundry · 10/12/2014 15:06

Hello everyone. I did speak to Mr Biscuits at the weekend and he is keen on the idea of the blanket - he instantly thought of their baby as the older children I think have blankets Biscuits made.

He knew she posted on here but had no idea of the impact - he said he has had several Secret Santas arrive which he has had to send back, he really had no idea how much impact she had! - I'm going to let him know her username but he understandably doesn't feel ready to read anything on here.

So I'm going to put the Woolly Hugs organisers and Mr Biscuits in touch with each other and let them take it from there.

The celebration was a great party with loads of kids, a bouncy castle, plentiful cake and fireworks. She would have loved it.

Aethelfleda · 10/12/2014 15:15

Thank you Kundry, that is lovely to hear. I'm sure Biscuits would have watched over the celebration with glee- and had a sneaky bounce and big piece of cake and lovely cuppa tea when only the littlest children were looking--. What an inspiring lady.

cleanmachine · 10/12/2014 16:49

Oh my goodness. I pop here from time to time to catch up on biscuits and her journey. Am in absolute shock. Biscuits inspired me too just appreciate every single day and to never take health for granted. Thinking of her family at this sad time.

Northumberlandlass · 11/12/2014 19:03

Thank you Kundry.
I hope in time Mr Biscuits will have the strength to read some threads & see how much we thought of her.

Great idea about the WoollyHugs hope they can help finish the blanket.

Ev1lEdna · 12/12/2014 11:43

I just want to send love to her family.

childoftheeighties · 15/12/2014 09:31

I'm so very very sorry to read this. I lurked on her first thread and hoped for a very different outcome. My thoughts are with Biscuits family x

TongueBiter · 17/12/2014 23:01

Sending love and strength to all Biscuit's family. I don't think anyone who read her threads will ever forget her - a brave and courageous woman, wife and mother.

Me2Me2 · 05/02/2015 11:58

I just came by to see how biscuits is doing and can't believe it. She touched me in the thread I read. My condolences and best wishes to her family and children.

Chchchchange · 11/02/2015 15:35

I still think of Biscuits. So sad she didn't make it.

AriaBanjo · 15/02/2015 20:15

I was just thinking the exact same thought - I still think of biscuits too Hmm

MrBircuits · 16/02/2015 22:18

Thank you.

I'm not sure what else i can say. There are 212 messages on this thread alone dedicated to my beautiful wife. 212. I havent been able to look at this site up until now. It had been a space for Theresa to help others and eventually to voice her own thoughts and feelings through a very difficult time.

Theresa was so very brave. She was also smart... really smart... but so very caring and kind too. She was a great doctor, known for her care and attention. She cared so much for so many of you too, so many people that she had never even met. Theresa would nest in the corner of our sofa and tap away at her laptop almost every night. You were all a part of her life. She was als so very dedicated to her crumbs. She would always be thinking.. who needs new clothes, which of crumbs needs an extra cuddle... or how to bring another out of his shell...

It was our baby's birthday yesterday. She's gorgeous and looks just like her mum. She has the same stare of comical despair, the joyful giggle and is already showing a great sense of humour. Our other two crumbs have just turned 5 and 7. They miss their mum. Of course they do. Dad's dont make very good substitutes I'm afraid... no matter how hard they try. One thing is for certain though... I wont EVER let them forget what an amazing mum they had, and that they were so very loved.

I dont think that I can find the words to describe how difficult it has been losing someone that I loved so very much. I've certainly cried every day since she passed away in my arms. Theresa had been so very strong and had been so determined to give herself every chance of survival. I for one did not believe that we would fail.

You have all been so very kind too. I've not stopped crying since reading the first message of this thread. I will make sure that her crumbs get to read them all one day. I'm certain that they will value every word. So thank you. All of you.

If there is one thing that Theresa will have wanted... is for you all to make sure you live every last second of every last day. Enjoy the small moments and find happiness in the little things... because they add up to form wonderful and fulfilling lives.

Mr Biscuits

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3catsandcounting · 17/02/2015 01:17

Mr Biscuits - you've brought a smile to my face and a tear to my eye. There will be so many thrilled faces on here when they realised who's just posted!
Thank you.

TanteRose · 17/02/2015 01:32

Mr Biscuits Flowers

2Retts · 17/02/2015 02:49

Trust me Mr Biscuits, there are probably many hundreds of folk who have followed Theresa's poignant journey from that very first post but have never posted. I am one.

212 messages is merely the tip of the iceberg; so potent was her infectious spirit.

It is so wonderful to hear of your baby's look of 'comical despair and joyful giggle'; upon looking at the photo of Theresa holding your daughter, I can actually envisage what you are describing. It generated a smile despite my tears for you, Theresa and the wonderful 'crumbs'. I'm sure you're doing a magnificent job with them...love is enough.

The sense of loss you and your gorgeous 'crumbs' must feel, is truly felt across this vast community too and be assured, beautiful Theresa has left a lasting legacy.

Love and peace Mr Biscuits (and the gorgeous crumbs).

maras2 · 17/02/2015 03:00

Much love to you and the little biscuits.I spoke to your wife about our different but somehow similar faiths.She was a wonderful advocate for tolerance so I can see what a good doctor she must have been.Lent is fast approaching and I will offer prayers for your family during my Lenten fast.Peace and love.Maras x

BictoriaVeckham · 17/02/2015 03:38

Flowers Mr Buscuits. I hope you found some peace reading her posts. She always had you and the crumbs at the top of her list.

Theresa touched so many lives mrb you must be immensely proud of your wife.

God bless

rootypig · 17/02/2015 06:18

Biscuits, you died a year to the day after my precious aunt, who also left behind two boys and her baby girl. She got to spend more time on this earth that you did, but felt the utter despair that you did at leaving. I dearly hope that you are both out there somewhere, looking down on your precious, precious children. I have never read more grace than the post where you said your prayers were already answered, because it was you and not them. I hope that the garden is so perfect and beautiful Flowers

trulymadlydeeply · 17/02/2015 06:50

Mr Biscuits and Crumbs,

I too lurked on Biscuit's thread, but never felt qualified to post - so another one of the many more than 212. I checked in every day and was SO shocked when she died. My heart goes out to you all.

She was wonderful: caring, clever and always thoughtful of others. I think about her such a lot - she was a real inspiration to many of us.

Hope that you're as OK as it's possible to be. Let us know how you're getting on from time to time, if you can.

With very much love to you all,

XXX

Rosa · 17/02/2015 07:00

Another tear in an eye here as well. Mr Biscuits thank you for posting. Your post comes from the heart and Theresa was lucky to have a man like you in her life. Wishing you and the crumbs love and wonderful memories of a greay lady. Your final line is a reminder to all of us that we should live life to the full and make the most of every second.............

LinesThatICouldntChange · 17/02/2015 10:30

The lovely Biscuits has made a lasting impression on so many people. Her care and compassion shone through her posts, along with her fabulous sense of fun. I remember literally snorting with laughter at some of her posts, and equally being moved to tears by her dignity and grace.

I echo the sentiment that 'love is enough'. The crumbs might sometimes have mismatched socks or a forgotten reading book, but hey... You and Biscuits have instilled such precious values in them and they will always know how loved and cherished they are

jelabi · 17/02/2015 12:56

Such a lovely post from you Mr Biscuits, I read all Theresa's posts and was totally moved by her determination to live for you and your lovely children,
I was so sad that she didn't get that chance, life is sometimes so unfair.
You sound a wonderful man and your children are lucky to have you and to also have had such a caring, beautiful mother.
Take care, god bless.

spanky2 · 17/02/2015 13:01

I remember biscuits and posted on a thread she started. I was so sad to hear of her passing. She has been an inspiration to me. Thank you for having the strength to post an update.

SallyMcgally · 21/02/2015 02:34

I too read biscuits' posts! and have been thinking of you and your beautiful crumbs. I hope it will bring them comfort to know that so many people value their gifted, generous, funny, extraordinarily lovely mother xxx