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A thread in memory of biscuitsandbandages who tragically lost her battle with leukaemia on Thursday 27th November

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Mumsfret · 28/11/2014 20:17

Biscuits gathered so many supporters and followers as she went through the trauma of diagnosis and bravely endured attempts at a cure. Her Mumsnet army can post their condolences here. It may serve as a comfort to her family to know how much she was admired and loved.

On Biscuits' last thread, Kundry kindly posted a link to a donation page set up in her memory, for those who wish to respect her request to donate to multiple causes close to her heart, rather than send flowers. Oxfam (training doctors and midwives in the 3rd World), a book reading prize for the school her DSs attend, and Leukemia and Lymphoma research to help banish this disease from future generations. The link is:here

RIP Biscuits Thanks

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Sunbeam18 · 01/12/2014 21:50

I know, she had so much to live for and so much to give. Its so up fathomably unfair that she didn't make it. I'm thinking about her all the time and I think her story and her inspirational personality will stay with me always. Thinking of her lovely family every day

Sunbeam18 · 01/12/2014 21:51

Unfathomably, that should read

expatinscotland · 01/12/2014 22:05

How unspeakably sad. I normally stay away from this board as my darling, 9-year-old daughter died of AML that required allogenic stem cell transplant to treat (it's when you need a bone marrow from a donor, not your own put back in) and she did not survive.

It's such a horrible disease, and so little in the way of treatment advances.

RIP, biscuits.

magimedi · 01/12/2014 22:10

Flowers - expat - how lovely of you to post here.

OrangeyTulips · 01/12/2014 22:13

Thanks hello expat. I think of you and your little one too.

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually · 01/12/2014 22:23

Expat, it's very kind and selfless of you to post on here. I have been thinking of you and your daughter.

GiantGaspingSatanicCyst · 01/12/2014 23:11

expat Flowers Every time I hear Call Me Maybe (which is often! It's a family favourite here), I think of your lovely girl.

Ludoole · 02/12/2014 01:39

Just heard about biscuits Sad
I was a lurker on the thread but truly believed she would overcome the leukaemia..

Thinking of biscuits, mr biscuits and the little crumbs.

InglouriousBasterd · 03/12/2014 13:19

Rest in peace brave, brave Biscuits - truly devastating news, I am so sorry.

catsrus · 03/12/2014 17:55

It seems our lovely biscuits was a GP - her patients are now donating and posting on the donations page, some lovely tributes. I'm not at all surprised at how loved she was by the people who knew her in RL. It's just not fair is it Sad. Any news of the woolly hugs idea?

yousuf1 · 04/12/2014 09:48

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un
"Surely we belong to Allah and to Him shall we return"
Thinking of you biscuits and everyone in the biscuit tin Hmm

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Mumsfret · 04/12/2014 11:05

Catsrus, I noticed the same and it seems the donations keep coming in. Testament, I think, to the lovely person she was, and I hope some small comfort to the biscuits family. She remains ever in my thoughts.

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Incapinka · 04/12/2014 17:44

I am so very sad to hear this news. Love to Mr Biscuits and the Crumbs. I so hoped this story was going to have a happy ending. RIP Biscuits xxxx

nello40 · 04/12/2014 21:25

RIP Biscuits, very sad news x

Goldmandra · 04/12/2014 22:32

Maybe WoollyHugs could do their magic again for the children?

Did biscuits finish the blanket she was making herself?

If not, might it be a nice gesture to offer to finish it for her and return it to the family instead of making something different?

Just a thought.

Doobledootch · 05/12/2014 14:09

Such sad news, thoughts to all of her family and friends and especially her children xx

LinesThatICouldntChange · 06/12/2014 12:31

Goldmandra- that's a beautiful idea about perhaps completing BiscuitsandBandages blanket.

I wondered, when I was donating stem cells for my db, whether biscuits was in the same hospital (she said it was a centre for transplants in the south east) Her transplant was the same week as my db's, and I was following her thread, it was very poignant to think she might be literally a corridor away, behind the room I was in.

Biscuits had an amazing capacity to carry on caring about others, and being genuinely interested in the lives of others, even though she was living through a terribly traumatic time herself. She was so upbeat and positive and generous hearted... I felt so spurred on by her encouraging posts when I was going through the donation.

How fortunate her patients were to have her as a doctor, and how blessed her real life friends are to have known her. She certainly touched the lives of so many of us who she never even met.

SunlessSea · 06/12/2014 12:51

So sad to hear this news. I've lurked on this thread since Biscuits' first post although never posted. Her first post described so vividly the shock of her diagnosis. Little did I know at the time that my daughter would be diagnosed with ALL shortly afterwards. I dipped in and out of the thread and thought of her often in the last few months. I wish her family love and strength to deal with their devastating loss.

RichTeaAreCrap · 06/12/2014 19:22

So very sorry to hear the sad news about Biscuits. I followed her thread and was willing her on. What a wonderful lady she sounded.
My thoughts are with Mr Biscuits and the children.

SunflowerSmile · 06/12/2014 22:45

If positivity was the only thing determining fate, Biscuits should still be here. She was remarkable in her attitude.

I was full of hope for her, not least because of her young family. I am so saddened to hear this. I posted on her thread in the early days and thought of her often.

I also want to take a moment to say how much love can come from a gathering of "internet strangers". It is so warming to read of the care and concern in Biscuits last thread. So much love for someone who clearly was a special person.

Sending the Biscuit family thoughts of strength and peace.

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Mumsfret · 08/12/2014 09:15

I think that's a really wonderful idea to finish Biscuits' own blanket, Goldmandra.

I know that Kundry is on the case re the woolly blanket. Hopefully she'll be able to update soon.

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Goldmandra · 08/12/2014 11:08

I hope her family like the idea and don't feel it would be too intrusive. It's so hard to know how people will feel and their wishes are of paramount importance.

I remember biscuits posting about her hopes that she would be the one to sew the squares together so, if it feels right for her family, I think it would be a privilege to do it for her.

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Mumsfret · 08/12/2014 11:55

Yes, I totally agree; the idea would be to support, not to intrude. I think Kundry is quite well-placed to suss the situation out in a gentle, non-intrusive way.

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Goldmandra · 09/12/2014 09:33

Sorry. I didn't mean to imply that anyone would be insensitive about how they approached biscuits' family. I am certain Kundry will do a perfect job Flowers

PaleoRules · 09/12/2014 10:18

Mumsfret, I live in the same town as Biscuits' family and, although I didn't know her personally, I have a few mutual friends if you need anything passing on.

Such a tragic loss and I know it's hit the local community hard x