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Mum has pancreatic cancer

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:09

He has a few months at most

Fuck

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shouldnthavesaid · 16/12/2013 19:10

I'm so, so very sorry xxxxx

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:10

She. Not he. Fuck.

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kilmuir · 16/12/2013 19:11

very sorry

PacificDingbat · 16/12/2013 19:11

Oh, I am so sorry.

Have you and she only just found out?

LIZS · 16/12/2013 19:11

So sorry :(

Incapinka · 16/12/2013 19:12

Am so sorry. Has she just been diagnosed? What are her options? Will they consider treating her?

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:13

I found out about half an our Ago. Inoperable. Nothing to be done.

Fuck fuck fuck

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MrsJohnDeere · 16/12/2013 19:14

So sorry.

Ruprekt · 16/12/2013 19:15

Oh how awful for you and your family. I am so sorry. Hmm

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:15

She. Why do I keep typing he. Fuck I am thick.

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foreverchristmas · 16/12/2013 19:18

I'm so sorry Sad

foreverchristmas · 16/12/2013 19:18

Is someone with you?

FruitbatAuntie · 16/12/2013 19:18

Oh shit, I'm so sorry to hear this. Don't know what to say to you, but couldn't read and not say anything IYSWIM. I'm sure someone who has been through this will be along soon to hold your hand and help you (MN is amazing like that).

brunette123 · 16/12/2013 19:19

You are not thick you are in shock. I am so sorry to hear this.

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:19

My kids are in their way I had to tell them oh god what do I do how do I do thid

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Badvocatyuletide · 16/12/2013 19:22

So sorry x

KateF · 16/12/2013 19:22

Hi OP, my mum had pancreatic cancer too, I'm so sorry to hear your news. I'm happy to share my experience if it will help but sadly my mum only had a month from diagnosis to death. You will be in shock just now but I'll check back here intermittently in case I can help at all.

TheGonnagle · 16/12/2013 19:23

oh that's rubbish. I'm so sorry x

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:24

She is seeing the cancer team on Friday. What do I need to ask them? She's in pain what can they do? She's home but what is the best

Dad is going to be in pieces he adores her

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Incapinka · 16/12/2013 19:27

Is chemo an option? Am so sorry. I hate cancer so much xxx

poopooheadwillyfatface · 16/12/2013 19:27

they should be able to relieve most of her symptoms quite well. Good drugs available for pain and nausea. possible macmillan follow up. so sorry to see your news, pancreatic is esp shit Sad
there may be other palliative treatment options to improve her quality of life too

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:28

She phoned me and said there's nothing they can do. Maybe there is. Maybe I will google maybe there is something they don't have thought of yet

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Bahhhhhumbug · 16/12/2013 19:30

So so sorry oldbaghere my DGDs other Nana (I'm their paternal ,she was their maternal) was taken by this horrible disease last year and as you are obviously horribly aware it is one of the worst cancers to treat and has one of the lowest survival rates. She also was told inoperable and was only given months (she lived nine in the end) and was quite inspirational in how she dealt with it. She was only 58 and seemingly fit as a flea till this. How old is your mum OP?

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oldbaghere · 16/12/2013 19:30

Even my title is wrong it was supposed to day my mum not just mum. Thick as shit I am.

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Badvocatyuletide · 16/12/2013 19:32

Pancreatic cancer is notoriously difficult to treat because it is one of those cancers that is very advanced by the time symptoms show :(
She should be able to stay at home if she wants to (my aunt is having hospice at home ATM - she has terminal lung cancer)
Get in touch with macmillan if you haven't already. Get them on board, they can sort out proper beds, walking aids etc. They have also helped my aunt apply for money to help with heating bills etc.
I'm so sorry op x