SIL is 24 and is possibly trans. Should I tell her mother?

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I found SIL's posts on reddit and it turns out she is considering undergoing operations to become a man (except she has no money so possibly wouldn't do anything). She is v socially isolated, earns 400-1200 pounds online writing online but otherwise stays in her room all day, is fairly nocturnal, dropped out of school. Diagnosed with ADD and aspergers as a teen but family ignored the diagnosis. She is an adult but is v dependent on her mum and i consider her vulnerable.

Should i tell her mother? I think it would be very detrimental if she found out i read her posts online and she would explode. Not sure if I could trust her mum to keep a secret. In addition mum hasn't really done anything re her other aspergers and ADD so maybe not much point knowing. but I think if I was her mum I would want to know.

Thanks all.

She has no money so the only option would be the NHS which would take years and a huge amount of counselling. If OP is concerned she should contact social services. It sounds like her sil could do with some support from somebody outside the family, somebody that will see her as an adult with agency.