Child issue

[Lifeislong1]

Hi, gone through a seperation from partner and we have toddler together. I moved out of his property and into mine due to relationship failing. This involved a 25 miles and I didn't tell him about it in advance and as a result he's not happy and .is trying to see child as often as possible and pushing for more access. I currently allow him to seems on every weekends for 8 and overnight once a month. He has pushed forward with mediation and prevented me registering child at nursery.stating PR and saying he could care for child meaning moving towards shared care 50/50.As a result we are heading to court and I wanted to know how the court is likely to look at this, I filed a specific issues order and he counted, I will struggle not having son with me and my solicitor told me to claim DV. Thanks

And your son having a positive relationship with his dad and family is bad because...

Unless there is a demonstrable risk to his health or wellbeing by spending time with them you won’t win that argument. Presumably you allow dc to spend time with your family and friends. You are coming across as obstructive and playing the victim card of not working when you could while using a nursery/time with his df and being more flexible in your thinking.

You do know that alienating a child from their other parent is child abuse, right? Why are you so unashamed about abusing your child? Of course the judge was disgusted with you- you are a child abuser.

If you read the full thread, you will see that the reason OP wanted her child in nursery wasn't really so that she could work. It was to prevent contact with his father. She tells us that her son adores his father and grandparents, but she is doing everything she can to stop all contact.

And there is the problem once again. You know that your son adores his father and grandparents, but you are determined to stop him having any contact with them. As you have been advised repeatedly on this thread, the courts will not allow that. The more you carry on down this path, the more likely it is that the courts will decide that your son should live with his father and you should only have limited contact. It seems you are unable to put your son's needs first. As at least one other poster has said, what you are doing is child abuse.

Sadly, it is clear from this thread that you aren't listening to any of the good advice you have been given. The first hearing has gone badly because you didn't listen. If you continue to ignore all the advice, things will only go from bad to worse for you.

You can work whilst he’s with his dad ? It’s a win win, dad gets quality time with him, you save nursery fees. If you keep being this obstructive it could all blow up in your face and you get weekend visits and dad becomes primary carer.

I have no clue why anyone is still engaging with this. Either it's rage bait, in which case...or it's true, and the family court is doing what it's supposed to do. Either way engaging is pointless.

Why would nursery mean your child doesn’t spend time with your ex? Is your ex independently wealthy and never has to work?

That's the issue then court doesn't understand

I often wonder why people engage with some threads on here

Well you have yet to explain it here other than I don't like it.

Court doesn’t understand what?

I think you mean the court doesn’t agree with you that you have any right to withhold contact between your child and their father. Why don’t you want them to have contact?

The.amount.of involvememt that the father.wants.

Which is his right. You need to accept that.

Well he’s entitled to 50/50.

Yes I know.

But he only objected to nursery as a means to preventing his contact. The other parent should always be the first option (unless they are abusive/neglectful of course)

So frustrating

Yes you are.

I suspect that he has objected to nursery as he is very unhappy with what has happened and wants to change the situation.

That means objecting to everything he can in the hope of getting some movement

Clearly if you are willing to negotiate in good faith then things might change.

Going to court

You said

I see two ways this can go:

1. you pop on your steel pants accept that you ex is going to an involved father and go to work whilst your DC is with him
2. you carry on in this ridiculous way, the court could then decide you are a poor influence and your ex ends up with the DC most of the time and you get limited contact. You would then be required to pay maintenance.

Time to pop those steel pants on and accept the discomfort I think.

You don’t like the fact he is legally entitled to the same rights you are claiming. A court sees through that and looks at the interest of dc first and foremost. You could use a nursery on your own time but not instead of ex having access on his.

This is all your own doing. Your son has 2 parents.