Child issue

[Lifeislong1]

Hi, gone through a seperation from partner and we have toddler together. I moved out of his property and into mine due to relationship failing. This involved a 25 miles and I didn't tell him about it in advance and as a result he's not happy and .is trying to see child as often as possible and pushing for more access. I currently allow him to seems on every weekends for 8 and overnight once a month. He has pushed forward with mediation and prevented me registering child at nursery.stating PR and saying he could care for child meaning moving towards shared care 50/50.As a result we are heading to court and I wanted to know how the court is likely to look at this, I filed a specific issues order and he counted, I will struggle not having son with me and my solicitor told me to claim DV. Thanks

My ex couldn't tell you the name of the schools our DD attended. Nor could he tell you what subjects she studied at A level, or where she went to uni or what she studied. And he would consider himself fully involved in her life. (In reality, far from it.)

When my eldest DS graduated, my ex didn't attend the graduation because I'd be there.

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What's with all the question marks?
You can read, surely.

I think she may have some comprehension issues, based on how this thread has been going.

My point was that I would have very much welcomed his input into their education - he had nothing to do with it at all. You should count yourself lucky.

Would you not find that annoying?

No. I'd find it helpful and reassuring.

No. It's fucking heartbreaking to know that the father of your children cares about them so little that he doesnt want to be involved. The children that he wanted and adored once upon a time.

It doesn’t matter whether a parent would find it annoying or not.

Parenting, whether together or apart, is all about making decisions jointly. Sometimes this is easy, sometimes it’s not.

Why would it be annoying? It’s the way things should be. The father of a child should be as involved in the child’s education, care, development, etc. as the mother. Why are you trying to prevent your child’s father from playing a significant role in his life?

It’s probably pointless asking these questions, since you seem unwilling or unable to answer them.

No...you say you have a job, are you never expected to collaborate on anything or work as a team? Do you just make all the decisions yourself and tell everyone else you don't want their input?

Not really similar.

It’s completely similar. Your child is your joint project, you need to work together on raising him.

It's exactly the same. Raising a child that you both created is a collaboration. You don't have to consult your ex on matters that don't concern your child, but your child is his child. Why do you think you should get to make the decisions?