Relocating Child 300 miles away - 60/40 split

[NorthernMum86]

Hi,

I want to relocate myself and daughter after splitting up with my ex. Our daughter is 3 - in pre school in the local area.

We currently have a rough 60/40 split but the move would mean thats not practical anymore given he has her on 2 week nights a week plus a weekend split.

I want to move to be with a new partner, but he lives 5 hours away. So the current arrangement would need to change to something like School Holidays & weekends but he is pushing back against this.

What chances of this passing in court do i have?

thanks
NM

I agree, would explain the limited “full facts” as well.

So disingenuous.

Happy to provide any facts needed. I’m not sure what I’ve missed.
like I’ve said I’ve posted on the legal maters area for experience in this field. Not opinions about what I should or should not do.

The fact is your child has a relationship with her dad and you are asking for legal advice on how to destroy it.

You want legal advice, you pay for it!

@NorthernMum86 well what you should do ties in with legal matters OP. People are saying no judge is going to force your ex to move things are not in your favour.

You had a reply from someone who works for cafcass and you didn't like it.

You haven't said how many times you have actually met this bloke in person.

As to wanting legal advice, sometimes the best advice is to not go to court, stay put and save your money.

You are clearly here posting for justification of your decision; we won't excuse you for dragging your child away from a co-parent

Been watching this thread with interest and it remains fascinating how blinkered so many people become during a separation or divorce. That's not just the OP who is, by the way, seeking legal advice to do something outrageous (only soap operas let mums take their children to the other side of the country to be with a new bloke! 😂) It's also all the other responses from people who demonstrate their own selfish, blinkered view on matters from their own messy divorces.

The only person worth listening to is the person who works for CAFCASS. I haven't read every single post so apologies if any solicitors have also piped up, they're worth listening to as well.

If the OP doesn't like the advice, well that's just tough. Do you know, as the stronger financial party in my divorce I'd sometimes quite like to just quit my job and move overseas where my earning power would be a lot less, ideally taking my children with me. Reality is I'm bound by the consequences of what was an incredibly crap marriage for another 12 years. I have to carry on doing a job I hate in a country I loathe to give money to a very workshy woman who I really can't stand and I do so for one thing that actually matters, the welfare of my children. It's both the moral and legal requirement and you just have to suck it up until the children are grown up.

Then you can get revenge on your ex if you still want to 😁

How well can you even know your boyfriend after 14 months, long distance when you both have children? When did this idea occur to you if you are already at the court stage!

I desperately hope you aren't allowed to do this.

If they let you, can you afford to do all the travelling involved? Because there is no way in earth your ex should have to.

You are missing the point that family law cases very much turn on their specific facts.

Indeed, which is a fancy way of saying a judge who barely knows you and barely reads your case will make decisions based on a whim courtesy of the wide discretion that they have!

I wonder what cafcass are saying about this.... I mean who actually is taking who to court here? It should be the dad taking OP to court.

How selfish you are wanting to take your child away from her father for a relationship of just a year. If you are so determined to move, leave her with her father and you have her every other weekend and half the holidays.
A friend of mine wanted to take her 2 sons from London to live in Newcastle. Their dad objected and was awarded residence after a court battle. My friend now only sees them once per month for a weekend and half school holidays.

Oh absolutely.
And it's an awfully flawed system.

How about you give your child to your ex and you see them during the summer holidays ?
Did that give you a big emotional impact ?
Same for your ex .

Why are you posting on here then?

Crack on OP. Find out the hard way how much of a really bad idea this is. It's just a shame your daughter will have to be collateral damage.

If I was the ex I would fight for custody, because these actions are NOT in the child's interest.

Just selfish.

Do you know a better one?

That's why judges, barristers and solicitors all advise parents to keep their cases out of Court.

The OP should have sought paid legal advice from a barrister rather than going to Court and also posting this thread. She may have still got the same answer as 99% of us - "the man on the Clapham omnibus" - are giving her but then she would have got certainty. Now she will get a ruling she will have to obey.

Only because you know you’re doing something properly shitty and don’t want the backlash from the good parents on here who think with their brain rather than their fanny.

You’ve had plenty of answers from people who are qualified, your chances are slim.
If you want to ruin your kid’s life for a shag then crack on, but you won’t find support for it here.

This must be a trolling thread; that or you’re seriously detached from reality and need to have a good, long think about what an awful thing you’re trying to do.

I'm laughing at the op.
Everyone on this forum is telling her the exact t
Same thing and she joust queries everyone's qualifications to post
Why on earth did you post if you only want to hear the answer you want.

Sorry for previous post - wrong place 😂

DH stopped his ex moving 100 miles as it would have prevented the 60/40 they had. Honestly the new partner and his kids mean nothing to your daughter compared to an involved paternal family that love her.

Do not do it.
Your dd has a right to continue the nice arrangement with her dad.
Your new partner can plan to move to you event depending on his kids ages.

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