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Does my brother still have to pay children maintainer for his 17 year old working son?

243 replies

Nikki037297 · 07/02/2022 07:07

My brother has a son who is 17 and is working part time and at college part time. His ex is demanding money as my brother is just going back to work after being on the sick after an accident at work and breaking a bone in his neck and not being able to work for around 20 months now. He’s googled it and can’t find much out and it seams a bit complicated and never mentions the child working and what would happen in those circumstances. Does anyone know ?

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ItsSnowJokes · 07/02/2022 07:09

Of course he does as he is still in education (albeit part time).

Bagelsandbrie · 07/02/2022 07:10

@ItsSnowJokes

Of course he does as he is still in education (albeit part time).
This.
MartinMartinMarti · 07/02/2022 07:12

PT work at 17 won’t provide all that he needs - food, housing, utilities, fun and everyone else. So Presumably your nephew’s mother is subsidising him, even if just by providing housing.

Why does your brother think he doesn’t need to?

bananaleafy · 07/02/2022 07:12

Yes. Yes he does

toomuchlaundry · 07/02/2022 07:13

Why would he not want to pay towards his son, especially as he hasn’t been able to for the last 20 months?

ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings · 07/02/2022 07:15

Agree with above. He's hardly financially independent on a pt wage job at 17. His mother is obviously still doing the bulk of the support financially so why should your brother get to wash his hands of his responsibilities? Would he think it was OK if the mum decided she wasn't supporting him at all any more? Of course he wouldn't, it's obvious that his son can't support himself without parents at this age. Even if it was legally allowed it clearly is morally wrong.

Piggy42 · 07/02/2022 07:15

Yes, as others have said he is still in part time education.

HandWash · 07/02/2022 07:16

'Demanding' it is she? Hmm

Why doesn't your brother want to pay for his son? Less time Googling ways to get out of providing and more time working, would be my advice.

Theunamedcat · 07/02/2022 07:18

Under 18 he pays over 18 grey area

Persephonegoddess · 07/02/2022 07:22

So he has not paid for almost two years.... does he not believe it's his son? Otherwise why else would he think he is not responsible ? He sounds like an awful dad.

Greenfields124 · 07/02/2022 07:23

How about he appreciates his ex for taking on the financial toll for the last 20months instead of trying to see if he can get out of paying.

The child's in education he should be paying.

IncompleteSenten · 07/02/2022 07:23

Is your brother seriously wondering if he can end his financial responsibilities to his 17 year old child because that child has a part time job?
Seriously?

Is something wrong with your brother?

Parents normally still support their children at the age of 17. And 18.

And increasingly these days well into their 20s.

If that was my brother I'd be telling him what an absolute twat he was to be trying to shirk his responsibilities at the earliest opportunity.

A good parent does not ask how soon they can stop providing for their child. They want to provide for their child.

IncompleteSenten · 07/02/2022 07:26

And he's not actually contributed to his child's welfare for 2 years.

A loving parent would not be googling to find out if they really have to pay.

They would be thinking hmm, I didn't fulfil my obligations to my child from the age of 15 until now. I am now able to do that. I will provide more now because I provided nothing for 2 years.

I'm surprised you're on here asking if we know if he really has to pay instead of being on here judging the absolute fuck out of him.

Starlightstarbright1 · 07/02/2022 07:28

My DS 14 has a part time job too..Shall i not provide for him? Stupid question really.

Seema002 · 07/02/2022 07:29

Wow. What a delight your brother is , looking for ways to get our of supporting his child. No doubt going to look for ways to extend his sick time now. Hmm

notapizzaeater · 07/02/2022 07:30

How do you think she's paid for the last 20 months, of course you pay.

ItsSnowJokes · 07/02/2022 07:31

Let's hope the mum goes for 2 years backdated maintenance as well! He can't just opt out of his son and funding him.

IncompleteSenten · 07/02/2022 07:32

Indeed.

The question really should be now that my child has a part time job can I leave his support to his mother on the grounds that his part time job covers the pittance I would otherwise pay. 🙄

Men not supporting the children they help make is a huge problem in this country

We should follow the USA on this and make the bastards pay. Losing your driver's licence or going to prison may make deadbeat dads wonder if it is really that important to avoid feeding their child. 🤬

cptartapp · 07/02/2022 07:33

Do he go for 50/50 at the split, and if not why not?
Otherwise he's already very highly likely shortchanged his ex by many thousands over the years of the true cost of raising a child.
I bet said child has his surname too? Did he 'demand' that?

Fluffycloudland77 · 07/02/2022 07:36

When you have kids you expect them to cost money for a minimum of 18 years.

ittakes2 · 07/02/2022 07:38

It can't be rocket science to know a part time job at 17 is not going to pay enough for household bills and expenses. Its likely he is just earning pocket money for some clothes and entertainment.

Bagelsandbrie · 07/02/2022 07:38

Just to elaborate on my earlier answer… my dd is 19 and at university. My ex still pays the £200 a month maintenance he’s always done as since she is a student parents are expected to contribute (their income / loans etc are based on parental income).

Clymene · 07/02/2022 07:41

Your brother is a deadbeat dad. That poor lad

TeenPlusCat · 07/02/2022 07:42

I think it is unlikely the lad is at college 'part time'. It is more likely he is doing a full time course just not spread out over 5 days.

ApricotPeony · 07/02/2022 07:50

Wow. She's "demanding" he pays for his own son after 20 months not paying is she? How dare she Hmm

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