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Can they take my baby away

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saraheve · 06/01/2017 00:23

HI i really need some advice, my 9 year old son was taken into care due to depression i was unable to keep on top of housework, I was binge drinking on weekends and I was in a unhappy relationship with childs farther, since my son has been taken into care I have attended therapy, hired a cleaner, attended a parent recovery group, relapse prevention group and took parenting courses. I am 8 months pregnant due to give birth very soon, I was given a prebirth assessment that said social services will go to court if they see that babys needs are not being met, unborn baby is on child protection and on the plan it says the same, yet social services say they want to take me to court? I was told their is no present concerns and I have addressed all previous concerns yet they want to still take it to court based on pre historic. I have so much evidence of significant changes yet they want to keep me in hospital once baby is born and have a discharge planning meeting where they may take baby away. Have they got any grounds since I have made significant changes and their is no present concerns. I am very devastated please can somone advise me? Thanks.

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Slaymill · 16/02/2017 19:58

Greats news, I knew you could do it you are on the road now. I hope they will support and encourage rather than nit pick. Keep strong and show them you can cope xx

SealSong · 16/02/2017 20:32

Great news, I'm pleased for you. Keep taking those forward steps. And remember, those steps are for you and your children, not just to show children's services.

Afreshstartplease · 16/02/2017 20:48

Well done Sarah!

LauraMipsum · 16/02/2017 21:26

Fantastic news, well done. Flowers

Hercules12 · 16/02/2017 21:28

Fantastic. You are an inspiration!

Youwillnotseeme · 16/02/2017 22:05

Well done! Enjoy all the snuggles without the endless visits. I hope they start on a plan for your son soon. Keep up your hard work, you've changed and turned yourself around, you are strong.
Remember it's ok if this aren't always roses and sunshine, and if you start to struggle at any point, asking your GP/letting your SW know is the best thing. It shows you recognise things and want to get back on track. Them seeing that shows you are responsible and it's when you don't seek help that they will step in.

MrsPeelyWaly · 17/02/2017 01:55

Well done, Sarah. Smile

elliejjtiny · 17/02/2017 02:18

Well done, really pleased for you Smile

Broken11Girl · 17/02/2017 05:20

So pleased for you Flowers

rainbowstardrops · 17/02/2017 08:18

Great news. Keep up the good work! Flowers

rosesandcashmere · 17/02/2017 09:10

That's great news for you! Please do keep working with them and enjoy your baby Smile

saraheve · 17/02/2017 21:22

Thank you everyone im feeling much more positive now. Ss are backing off a bit and glad they changed their mind about removing baby. I still have a long way to go and assessments to pass, but feel that little bit closer to my goal. I'm feeling optimistic xx

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UnbornMortificado · 17/02/2017 23:09

sara please, please keep an eye on your mental state. I know I've said it before but it is so important to get help as soon as possible. You've witnessed first hand how things can spiral out of control and I'm speaking as a fellow sufferer.

Again I'm over the moon for you, you've turned your life round in such a short space of time Flowers

saraheve · 17/02/2017 23:46

Thanks UnbornMortificado, at the moment my mental state is good. I've been seen by a psychiatrist at hospital whenow I gave birth and im feeling good especially that ss are backing off a bit. If I start getting depressed again I'll go back on antibiotics depressants I was on fluoxitine before. And I still have groups to attend and my dad has been so supportive so I'm feeling supportive. Something I didn't feel before when I was depressed. Just keeping my eye on the goal that is keeping me optimistic. X

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UnbornMortificado · 21/02/2017 15:10

How's everything going Sara? Hope you and both DC are well.

saraheve · 21/02/2017 19:35

Hi yes things are going well. Babys a joy to be around. How are you doing

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UnbornMortificado · 21/02/2017 22:23

Fine ta apart from the dreaded sickness Envy

I just had my baby niece today and I forgot what hard work they could be.

Just made me wonder how you and your DD were getting on, it must be hard for you with the scrutiny from children's services and the contact with your ex.

You've done so well with everything, it's brilliant how you've turned things round.

DearMrDilkington · 22/02/2017 15:04

Your doing brilliantly, so pleased for you.Smile

saraheve · 22/02/2017 15:17

Well I do like keeping myself busy. Ss now want to observe me with my older son and my baby in contact to see how I managed both of them togeather. I hope this means their thinking of returning my son in future. Smileim starting to look forward to the future. Ss were worried about me getting postnatal depression but I'm feeling better than I have in a very long time. It's such a joy caring for my baby even when im half asleep xx

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mathanxiety · 22/02/2017 19:18

Do you see your DS alongside your exH or at the same time in the same place?

saraheve · 22/02/2017 19:49

Yes I have contact with my son togeather with ex. I think they want to see how we get along in front of the children. Hoping to get separate contact in future as I miss me and my sons one on one special time togeather x

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mathanxiety · 22/02/2017 20:32

Separate contact might be much nicer for all concerned.

Do you think your current good feelings and ability to cope have anything to do with the absence of your ex, given the arguments, etc., that you mentioned previously?

UnbornMortificado · 22/02/2017 22:10

I hope they are working towards your son been returned. Do you think your son is going to cope ok with having a younger sibling and your attention split?

I'm not questioning your parenting, I'm worried myself how my youngest DD is going to cope, she's a little sod at the best of times at the minute. She was distinctly unimpressed with me having my niece.

She's had a bit of unsettlement lately like your son has and I'm just a bit worried what more change is going to do.

I'm planning on seeing the HV myself for a bit advice over it.

mathanxiety · 22/02/2017 22:55

Why would you and ex getting along be an issue SS want to observe?

UnbornMortificado · 22/02/2017 23:08

math I got made to attend meetings with my ex, despite the massive abuse history. I was pretty much told to grow up.

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