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Can they take my baby away

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saraheve · 06/01/2017 00:23

HI i really need some advice, my 9 year old son was taken into care due to depression i was unable to keep on top of housework, I was binge drinking on weekends and I was in a unhappy relationship with childs farther, since my son has been taken into care I have attended therapy, hired a cleaner, attended a parent recovery group, relapse prevention group and took parenting courses. I am 8 months pregnant due to give birth very soon, I was given a prebirth assessment that said social services will go to court if they see that babys needs are not being met, unborn baby is on child protection and on the plan it says the same, yet social services say they want to take me to court? I was told their is no present concerns and I have addressed all previous concerns yet they want to still take it to court based on pre historic. I have so much evidence of significant changes yet they want to keep me in hospital once baby is born and have a discharge planning meeting where they may take baby away. Have they got any grounds since I have made significant changes and their is no present concerns. I am very devastated please can somone advise me? Thanks.

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saraheve · 13/02/2017 08:42

Prey for the best prepare for the worst

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saraheve · 13/02/2017 08:53

Yes I know Flowersinyourhair but this was because I was depressed and smoking cannabis and binge drinking. I was still giving my son a lot of love and good times. But I wasn't looking after my self so this reflected on him. This is will always regret.but I have seeked a lot of help and have come a very long way in my recovery. I know they just want to see i can keep it up and I will. I know I made mistakes before but the last thing I want to do is repeat them. I want to keep my baby safe to I don't want to bring both my children any harm. Hopefully this nightmare will be over some day.

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Flowersinyourhair · 13/02/2017 09:00

Taking drugs and binge drinking aren't excuses for poor parenting Sarah, they are the causes of poor parenting. I'd love to say that you clearly understand that but honestly I'm not sure you do.

Have SS give you clear reasons why they are still considering taking your baby? Have they given you targets to work towards?

UnbornMortificado · 13/02/2017 09:08

Sara are you still seeing the MH team?

How is your relationship with the SW who comes out to see you?

rainbowstardrops · 13/02/2017 09:18

You sound like you're doing amazingly well and doing everything in your power to turn things around.
You know you fucked up and you're trying to avoid doing that again.
I wish you all the best and hope you go from strength to strength Flowers

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saraheve · 13/02/2017 10:37

Hi Flowersinyourhair the reasons being is ss are worried even though I've made changes I may not keep it up. They want to see sustained change for a longer period.

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Flowersinyourhair · 13/02/2017 11:48

Can you understand where they're coming from with that Sarah?

Slaymill · 13/02/2017 16:13

Wishing you well, people can turn things around depression affects everyone and can cause you to make mistakes which you are learning from.

Some social workers are okay. I've met a few others who love poking their noses in.

Keep up the good work your two children are all the motivation you need xx

Fidelia · 14/02/2017 08:42

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Slaymill · 14/02/2017 13:49

Good advice Fidelia ..

Londonsburningahhhh · 15/02/2017 13:28

Good luck tomorrow sara are you going to attend or wait for your solicitor to tell you the out come. Well done on sticking with the changes and keeping strong for your little one.

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saraheve · 15/02/2017 18:24

Hi im going to attend tomorrow at the Royle court of justice. Thanks im nervous but I have good reports so hopefully they will just access my parenting from home. X

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Youwillnotseeme · 15/02/2017 19:24

Good luck for tomorrow

MrsPeelyWaly · 15/02/2017 19:56

Hoping that everything goes well tomorrow, that you'll be one step closer to having both your of your children home with you permanently.

UnbornMortificado · 15/02/2017 20:14

Good luck for tomorrow Sara I really hope you get a chance to prove yourself.

SuperRainbows · 15/02/2017 20:50

Good luck Sara. Remember how many people on here are supporting you and wishing you well.

You have made massive changes and your priorities are your children.

FeelTheNoise · 15/02/2017 22:45

Good luck for tomorrow! I've been watching your thread, and have kept my fingers crossed for you and your children throughout.
It takes so much courage, strength and honesty to make such enormous changes from a defeated and frightened place, and I have so much respect for your achievements. Keep up the good work x

Afreshstartplease · 16/02/2017 06:45

Good luck Sarah Flowers

listsandbudgets · 16/02/2017 08:10

Thinking of you and your family today Sarah. You should be very proud of the changes you have made. I hope that the judge is able to see how much difference youve made and will decide accordingly.

I bet you are giving your beautiful baby lots of extra cuddles this morning

rosesandcashmere · 16/02/2017 15:20

How did it go today Sarah? xx

Slaymill · 16/02/2017 16:16

Thinking of you today and crossing everything xx Flowers

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saraheve · 16/02/2017 18:07

Thank you. For all the encouraging messages, it went really well in court today, ss changed their mind about baby being removed 😊 I still have to undertake a parenting assessment and a psychological assessment, but I'm planning to keep the changes I have made and do well in thease assessments so I can continue to keep my baby in my care and eventually have my son back in my care. Their also going to come only on weekends and main social worker once a week. They also was told to create a support plan for me but because I kind of created my own support plan their not sure what additional support to give me. I still have a long way to go but I hope I'm one step closer to them closing the case for baby and getting my son back. My ultimate gaol. The encouraging support on hear has definitely helped keeping me motivated and encouraged. Thanks xx

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lougle · 16/02/2017 18:19

That's wonderful news, Sarah. I'm so pleased for you. It's all going so well. Don't forget the most important thing is to tell them straight away if you are struggling at all though? If you tell them first, they will know they can trust you that you know to put your baby (and eventually your DS) first. If you try to hide it and struggle on, they will worry that you don't understand how important it is. But well done you!! Flowers

UnbornMortificado · 16/02/2017 18:48

Sara I'm so pleased for you had my fingers crossed all day.

Please don't worry about the psychological assessment, anyone can suffer with anxiety/depression but it's how you deal with it that counts.

I'm over the moon for you I really am.

JigglyTuff · 16/02/2017 19:33

Oh well done! I'm so very pleased for you. SmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmile