So, what's it like going from 3-4?

[Zippidydoodah]

I've mentioned on another thread here that we are inexplicably thinking about number 4, from being absolutely adamant that we were done at 3!

Having the third was hard work and led to me having to give up my job. Now youngest is 2, I'm starting to feel more like me, but also broody with it!

Am I mad?! Please tell me what it's like going from 3-4?

Christmas- sounds wonderful!

Hi zippidy, I saw your post on the olivers' baby in chat and felt the very same pang! Then I reminded myself that Jules can go home, put her feet up with the baby and pay for cleaners and staff for the older DC if she chooses to. The reality of me bringing another LO home from the hospital would be quite different

I've had an unexpected shock - my mum, for the first time EVER offered to take the 3 DC for a weekend so that dh and I can go away for a weekend to celebrate our wedding anniversary. No one has ever had all 3, or offered. Dh and I haven't had a child free night in years! I think I'll enjoy the taste of freedom and can't imagine wanting to start all over again? I know for a fact there wouldn't be any offers of help with a 4th and it's probably now that Ds is over 2 that she has offered. I'm rambling, but my head is so confused.

So, um...........

Clearer picture.

Congratulations hun x

That was fast

Congratulations!

Ooh, congratulations!

Been a bit distracted by my 4 so not on here much - very best of luck to you. x

Thank you!!

Just told dp and he isn't pleased

Ah no, why not?? Don't worry, mine was a bit like that on the 3rd and actually the 2nd
It's just the shock I think. The 'uh oh, what have we done'? I'm sure he will come round. Although I have to say, what do they expect if they have unprotected sex?

I know, aoibhe, my thoughts exactly!!

I'm so conflicted as I know his misgivings are completely founded; finances, car, the fact that we have a big holiday booked next year and would have to take a three month old baby long haul......eek!

I think things happen for a reason though, and I'm almost sure that when we are old and grey we will be delighted that we had a biggish family....

Reassurance needed!

Congrats zippididy!

#4 is due in 68 days here.....

I currently have no fear....however I think I am just dying to get my body back!,

Congratulations!!
I have 4 under 8, going from 3 to 4 was the easiest jump for me. The DC adore the baby, it's really improved the middle two's relationship strangely. They all share rooms which they love. The only thing I did really was buy a new car but I needed one of those anyway.
I'm one of 4 and loved it.
I'm not a particularly organised person but somehow everything seems to get done. We all muddle through together.
We just got back from a holiday where we all shared 1 hotel room, it was fantastic so much better than I could have imagined.
The hardest bit was the pregnancy!

Mine eldest will be 8 when baby #4 arrives so that's reassuring to read hownotto!

Thank you for the positive responses!

Having just battled to get the kids out of the door, shoes on etc, already feeling like crap, I am actually wondering how or if I'll cope with being pregnant!!

I'll admit this pregnancy has been tough

My spd has been bad. At 30 weeks I struggle to sleep. I'm finishing work at 32 weeks as I'm exhausted , some days the DC have really pushed my patience

However the end is in sight! Every day that passes is one nearer to the end!

Fresh- do you work part time? I must admit I'm not working at the moment but did have spd in previous pregnancies.

Oh dear god! My dp has been in a foul mood all day, I can tell he doesn't think we should have it. I keep flipping from "we can't possibly" to "we have already, so we need to just shut up and get on with it". Obviously it's way more complicated than that.

I usually work full time but reduced to part time due to spd

Zippidy - big hugs. Do you think it is just shock as it's actually real now and not just talk. He must have knew it would have happened sooner or later if you were trying for another. Give him chance for it to sink in.

Thank you, tsoto. That's the problem- he was very keen to try for another baby!! I told him he should have expected it- we are lucky to be very fertile, and he obviously knows that! Argh.

I think I need to make a doc appointment because I am actually on sertraline at the moment (one of his -valid and justified- concerns is the effect on my mental health when I'm only recently feeling like myself again).

Why do we do it?! Life was getting easy so we had our third. Life is getting easy again so instead of enjoying it, I get pregnant again!!

Oh and my third is currently still asleep and I have the two older ones downstairs with me- we miss her! I think having her was the best thing we did for all of us. So the same could be true of another! I am driving myself mad reading blog after blog written by mum's of four!

Argh- mums- not mum's! Dyac

Well the great thing is is that you( and your dp) have another 8 months or so to get used to it, plus the fact that your DC will be a whole 8 months older and more independent.

Tell us, when are you due? Are you going to find out the sex? Any symptoms?

I'm still completely undecided!

i feel as sick as a dog (already!?) and am absolutely desperate to tell someone, anyone, in real life.

I'd be lying if I said I hadn't been considering names....

Lol I've been thinking of names as well for a 5th but I definitely ain't going to be that lucky x