BFP after IVF - anyone want to join me in the wait for first scan?

[HopefulllHolly]

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Hi everyone,
I’ve just had our first cycle of IVF and although we had very slim odds of it working (low AMH, low AFC, male factor, which led to only 2 mature eggs which thankfully led to one perfect day 5 blast). We are absolutely amazed and over the moon that it worked despite everything, but I am really struggling with the wait for first scan. I almost feel with infertility (we TTC for 6/7 years) that it does make you anxious and I’m finding the wait to my first scan (6th June) unbearable. I don’t want to seem ungrateful but I really wish I could enjoy it or relax a little but instead I am worrying about miscarriage and things I can’t control. For me this has been the worst bit of IVF so far, and I’d love to just be able to be happy so I don’t look back (if it does work) and wish that I hadn’t been so anxious and scared.

Is anyone else in the same boat who wants to keep me company? 🥹 Or can provide some tips on how to distract myself and cope better? I know there’s nothing I can do to change the outcome and what will be will be, but I don’t think I’ve ever worried so much in my life.

Thank you 🙏

@HopefulllHolly I feel like I need the next 6 weeks off! Everyone in work keeps asking me if I'm ok in the afternoons and comment that I don't look well or look absolutely wiped! I'm like oh I've not been sleeping great! 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Oh no bless you @DippyDuck19 do you work from home much? Have you been waking up in the middle of the night too? I feel like that is making my tiredness worse.

I am constantly hungry and I’ve been super super healthy the last year (I am a clean eater anyway but used to allow treats) but now all I want is rubbish food. All I can think about is a burger and an Oreo milkshake 🤣🤣 no wonder I’ve ballooned! I can’t remember the last time I had a burger and a milkshake so it’s bizarre that I’m craving it so badly. I feel like a right pig 🐽

@HopefulllHolly I'm patient-facing in nhs but do work from home once a week. So not great when I'm tired in the afternoon and trying to interact with patients!
I tend to go to bed between 9-10pm. Wake up around midnight for a wee. And then I'm awake again around 6am for another wee and to put in the progesterone suppository in so can lie down for 30 mins before getting up. But usually at this point I'm wide awake and don't go back to sleep even though I don't need to get up until 7.

I was constantly hungry the first few days after implantation but that's worn off thankfully! I'd be the size of a house right now lol

@DippyDuck19 Oh gosh poor you! But also thank you for all your hard work! I lose the ability to speak past 3pm, I don’t know how you do it!
Ah your sleep is similar to mine, I just tend to wake up at 3am and need a wee and then I can’t get back to sleep because I’m too hungry. Greedy little baby growing!
I wish mine went after implantation but mines gotten worse to the point if I don’t eat every couple of hours I feel really sick. 🤢

I did my transfer on 13 May so… whatever that is! Blood tests confirmed what my pee sticks said on Saturday (otd!) so now the wait for the scan. 12 June. Eek!

Omg I am so hungry at the moment. I double carbed at lunch and still needed crisps and fruit afterwards!

patient facing must be quite tiring for you. I admire anyone who can do that in normal times never mind pregnant!

what time is your scan tomorrow? How are you feeling???

Sorry for all the quote responses. I’m on my phone and if I don’t respond individually I literally forget what I mean to say. My memory is shocking! 🤪

@TorrentialHighSeas it's hard work at the best of times and definitely not enjoying it pregnant! It literally gets to 2pm and I'm done! lol I need my bed! I've had to tell my line manager as I needed a risk assessment and she's supportive so hopefully I can get through these early days and hoping it gets easier.

Glad your blood tests were all good! I get what you mean about posts and forgetting what you’re saying!

Im having another low day today. All my symptoms seem to have disappeared completely. I’ve been really out of breath because of the cyclogest and even that’s better today, so I’ve gone in to a total panic. Obviously I know it’s probably ok but I feel super anxious. One more week until the walk and hopefully I’ll feel a little better. Nothing I can do anyway if anything is wrong. 😔

Tagging @AnnieStar12 incase she wants to join us now she has her BFP ☺️

@HopefulllHolly youre not alone in that today! Feeling really low, boobs don’t hurt as much, my lower back is killing me randomly and I’ve got weird cramps. My partner asked what was wrong and my answer was I hate everyone and if I could never speak to anyone again I would 🙃

hoping I wake up in a better mood tomorrow 😂

@LouP87 🤣🤣 what an answer! I bet he stopped talking after that! Fingers crossed for a brighter mood tomorrow ☺️

Hi everyone 👋
I am super super early, I’m only 3+5 today so very early days. I am also a bit of a miracle case - this was my second round of IVF after TTC for 15 months. Was told I have very low AMH so thought I was about to have early menopause. Then my IVF cycle kept going wrong with cysts and delayed starts and then getting covid during stims. To top it off we only got 1 egg at egg retrieval so I thought I was a total write off!
But miraculously here I am a few weeks later with a BFP.

My official test day is on Saturday but I think I’m gonna tell my clinic on Friday as I’m so impatient and I’ll need another progesterone prescription anyways. And then I’m gonna ask them to book me in for a 6 week scan as I can’t wait to 7 weeks. My plan is to scan every 2 weeks until 12 weeks.

I have had 2 miscarriages in the past year so not looking forward to the next few weeks, I won’t relax until I pass 12 weeks and get all the extra NIPT tests.

In terms of symptoms, I don’t really have any apart from being sleepy, but I’ve been feeling that way all through the ivf anyways. Luckily I work at home most days so I can sleep over lunch. This is actually my 6th pregnancy (3 births 2 miscarriages) and I have never had many symptoms in the first trimester. Maybe sore boobs but that’s it. So @HopefulllHolly try not to worry about lack of symptoms. Everyone is soo different when pregnant & we are drugged up with progesterone so that messes with it all too. And trust me, if this pregnancy goes all the way you’ll have no end of symptoms waiting for you in a few months!!

I hear you @LouP87 its such an emotional rollercoaster isn’t it. Your reply to your partner made me laugh out loud!

@HopefulllHolly can cyclogest make you out of breath? My asthma has been worse this week so that is interesting to know!

@LouP87 i feel like my lower back is in a vice. Aargh. The grumpiness is hopefully a good sign of pregnancy!

@TorrentialHighSeas Yeah it can. Mine started the day after I started taking it and got worse since I got my BFP. Very annoying! Pregnancy can also make you breathless too.

@HopefulllHolly Ah, that's so interesting about the Cyclogest. I was doing a pre-natal workout earlier in the week and was shocked at how out of breathe I was when normally I'd be doing classes far more intense. You learn something new everyday!

Very few symptoms over here - sore boobs and tiredness really, but trying not to think about it all too much. I feel like at some point it's going to hit me and I'll start to feel really anxious that it's still so long until my first scan on 19th June 😬

Hopefully I'll get away on my holiday next week and that will distract me!!

Congratulations @AnnieStar12 and welcome! Sounds like you've had quite the journey so you must be so relieved!

Congratulations @AnnieStar12 !

Woke up in a better mood today. One week until scan day, my weird cramps have gone and my lower back is better after the rest. Boobs still not as sore as previous (who knew I’d want painful ones?) which is making my head wobble a bit, but I know these things fluctuate so trying not to over think!

Welcome @AnnieStar12 so so pleased for you! At least we can all keep each other company over the hardest and anxious weeks!

@LouP87 I woke up feeling happier too. My symptoms still aren’t as strong as they were but I woke up absolutely starving again so that ones back. My boobs still hurt a tiny bit but nowhere near as bad. I know symptoms come and go so also trying not to pay much attention to them but it’s definitely hard when that’s all you’ve got to go off. I did a test this morning just to reassure myself and it’s still a very very dark positive so I’ve calmed down a bit. 6 weeks pregnant today! Baby is the size of a baked bean and has little arms and feet apparently ☺️ cute!

Hey lovely ladies, I just wanted to say good luck to you all- after 1 successful Ivf in 2021, we have had a failed fet and failed fresh, followed by a mmc at 7 weeks (spontaneous conception) in jan this year, but did my final fet end of April and after a terrifying 17day wait and some anxiety inducing spotting for a few days, we had our 7 week viability scan this morning and was in tears with relief when we saw the heartbeat ❤️❤️

I also thought symptoms were disappearing, think I bruised my boobs prodding them so much!

Now for the hopefully less stressful 2 week wait for the 9 week scan and release back to nhs- hope to hear all your wonderful news soon

@Edf Awwww congratulations and so lovely to hear you had your first scan after your difficult journey. One week today until mine and I am very nervous but excited too! Hope the next two weeks goes quickly for you ☺️

@Edf congratulations! Hearing the heartbeat is just so wonderful.

Hi lovelies 🥰

sorry I’ve been MIA for a few days - I’ve had the most horrendous morning sickness & nausea!!! Got massive food aversions now, all I have to do is look at a sweet potato and I start to heave 😢 oh the joys! I’m telling myself I wanted to be pregnant so bad so I’m “happy” to be going through the motions!

I had my scan today!! I’m actually 6 weeks & 6 days pregnant today! 🙌🏼 the baby is in the perfect place in my womb & is growing beautifully. It’s so strange looking at it and seeing its little heart beating away 😍🥰🥺 couldn’t see an awful lot as it’s still teeny but it was amazing to have everything confirmed!

tonight I’m feeling happy & excited but that might all change closer the the 12 week scan.

trying to catch up on some previous posts - I’m also hungry allll the time!!! Water makes my nausea worse (weirdly) so I’m having squash now and it’s definitely helping (thankfully!)
morning sickness only really kicked in for me last week - I thought I was going to be a lucky one and get away with not having any 🙈

how is everyone doing? It’s not long now until all of your scans!! x

@Fluffyted Amazing news! That’s so wonderful. You’ve hit the first hurdle and sailed over it so that’s great.

the sickness is fun! But at least you know it’s your little one making their presence felt!

@Fluffyted great news about your scan!

@Edf congratulations and that's good news about your scan.

I've had some bleeding this morning. Started off as brown and then turned to red. I immediately thought the worst and have been a blubbering mess! Took myself to A&E who sent me to the EPU. Thankfully everything ok. Baby measuring spot on 6w+6 and saw the heartbeat again!
They can't see where the bleeding is coming from but possibly due to irritation of the cervix from the progesterone pessaries. They advised me to try rectally but really not keen on this!