BFP after IVF - anyone want to join me in the wait for first scan?

[HopefulllHolly]

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Hi everyone,
I’ve just had our first cycle of IVF and although we had very slim odds of it working (low AMH, low AFC, male factor, which led to only 2 mature eggs which thankfully led to one perfect day 5 blast). We are absolutely amazed and over the moon that it worked despite everything, but I am really struggling with the wait for first scan. I almost feel with infertility (we TTC for 6/7 years) that it does make you anxious and I’m finding the wait to my first scan (6th June) unbearable. I don’t want to seem ungrateful but I really wish I could enjoy it or relax a little but instead I am worrying about miscarriage and things I can’t control. For me this has been the worst bit of IVF so far, and I’d love to just be able to be happy so I don’t look back (if it does work) and wish that I hadn’t been so anxious and scared.

Is anyone else in the same boat who wants to keep me company? 🥹 Or can provide some tips on how to distract myself and cope better? I know there’s nothing I can do to change the outcome and what will be will be, but I don’t think I’ve ever worried so much in my life.

Thank you 🙏

@HopefulllHolly thank you! Been very anxious today. Hopefully everything still ok! I still have very strong symptoms but just have that tiny bit of doubt!
I've already pencilled in a date for the next scan 😂 I want to get a scan at 16 weeks to break up the wait until 20 weeks. Also to confirm gender just in case the sneak peak isn't right lol ! I'm away for a week from 16 weeks so have pencilled in the day after we come back!

@DippyDuck19 The anxiety is horrible isn’t it before the scan. BUT it will be fine and everything will be perfect I’m sure. Baby boy will be thriving in there after he’s gobbled all your hormones and made his mummy feel so poorly! This time tomorrow you’ll be day dreaming about what he looks like, his personality, what clothes you might buy, all the nice stuff. 🥹
Haha yeah 16 weeks is a good time for a scan - I think I’m going to have one at 15 weeks, another at 17.5 weeks and then my 20 week because I know I just don’t manage long without reassurance. Plus I want to see her grow because they change so quickly and I just find is amazing! 🤩 My 20 week scan is 4th September (2 days after my birthday) so I’m already looking forward to that! Hopefully will be a nice birthday treat ☺️

@HopefulllHolly I hope me having bad sickness and feeling rubbish isn't a sign of things to come 😂 I'm soo glad the scan tomorrow is nice and early!
My DP after the last scan was like "is this the last private scan now..." err nope! I think I'm just going to have 1 between 12 and 20 weeks. And then if all goes well I'm considering a 4d scan a bit later on. They usually weird me and DP out but one of our local scan places have 3 levels of 4d - standard definition, HD and then ultra HD (not sure if everywhere have that) but the ultra HD looks soo clear. Be amazing to see babies face properly!

@DippyDuck19 Nice and early - no time to panic tomorrow morning about it! ☺️ It’ll be amazing I’m sure. Have a lovely early night (if not having to watch football!) and soon you’ll see your little boy again. Yeah I feel like 20 weeks is too long a wait and I find it easier to manage my anxiety when I have something to fix my mind on that’s not too far away. Haha yeah I find 4D scans a bit weird but I’d maybe be tempted by a super high definition one, though part of me wants to just have that surprise of what she looks like when she’s born - who’s nose she has, shape of her face etc! I’m so excited to see what she’ll be like now! Can’t wait to hear all about it tomorrow, big hugs you’ll be great! 😊 My sonographer told me within a few seconds he could see the heartbeat so I’m sure yours will be the same. Much easier to see it at 12 weeks!

@HopefulllHolly Thanks lovely - will update tomorrow 💕

Best of luck for tomorrow @DippyDuck19 can't wait to hear how it goes...sure it will be wonderful 💕💜

And thanks @HopefulllHolly for all the well wishes! Trying to stay as positive as I can and hope that the nausea is going to ease off as the weeks go on! I can't remember what it feels like to NOT feel sick anymore 😜🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

@DogMummy87 If you can manage ice lollies then get your other half to go to Waitrose (I know bougie 😅) and get him to get you some of the mango sorbet ice lollies and blackcurrant ones. I cannot overstate the fact they are divine 🤤🤤🤤 They have really helped with my nausea when it’s bad (any ice lolly has tbf but these are special!)

@HopefulllHolly these sound delicious 😋 We definitely deserve bougie things at the moment!! 😆😍
I feel like the food I am eating at the moment is so limited as I can only face quite beige, salty things. I would eat crisps all day if I could but have been trying to eat fruit when I can. The last few days it has just felt like such an effort to eat anything, probably because I now know how I will feel after it. But at least I am not actually throwing up!! Silver linings! 🤞🏻🙏🏻

@DogMummy87 I have definitely had weeks of that - it’s rough! Just eat whatever you can stomach. I mentioned to my midwife that I was struggling to eat (more from
aversion than nausea now) and she said as long as youre having multivitamin you’ll be fine - so just eat whatever you can stomach and drink plenty of fluids if you can. I just have unquenchable thirst today - I’ve drank over 4 litres of water and I feel like I haven’t drank a glass I’m so thirsty. Really annoying when I need a pee every 10 minutes! 🤣 I’m just going with it though - at least we know the sickness and symptoms won’t last and they are for good reason. Really hope you start to feel better soon though! ☺️

Yeah, I think I will mention it to the midwife tomorrow too just so she knows. I have been really thirsty too but also finding it difficult to keep drinking. But forcing myself as I know how important it is to stay hydrated. I have this constantly "full" feeling almost like everything is sitting in my chest. It does not make drinking or eating feel like a good idea at all!
I keep telling myself it is only a moment in time and hopefully will pass as the weeks go on! Thank you! Hope you are still beaming from your beautiful news earlier today! 🥰💕

Good luck tomorrow @DippyDuck19 ! Hope all goes well 🤞🏻

aww, I love seeing all the US pics 🥰🥰🥰 and congrats to everyone who had a scan!! It’s so reassuring right? 🥰

I have mine tomorrow at 5 + 4 😬 to confirm that the embryo is in the right place. Nervous already!

Thank you @ThePeachGoose @DogMummy87.

Good luck for your scan @summerchild92

Good luck to those with scans today ❤️💙

I’m feeling g a little anxious this
morning, it’s day 3 since my nipt bloods were taken- if I get to end of day tomorrow I will be all good however it was on this day last time that I was told I was high risk for t21, everything was fine but another agonising 10 day wait for bloods to confirm that. I really hope I get no phone call today!!

Good luck today for your scans @DippyDuck19 & @summerchild92 I hope they both go perfectly ❤️
Such a magical time 💖

@Edf awww lovely, try not to stress too much. I know that's way easier said than done!
I'm so hoping this time around your results come back as a low chance & you get no phone call today - such a nerve racking process. You've got this 💪🏼❤️

Best of luck today @summerchild92 and @DippyDuck19 for scans! 🙏🏻💜

And hopefully all will be fine @Edf but I know it is so tricky not to worry when you have had bad experiences in the past. Hope you manage to get through today and look after yourself 😘💕

@Edf Oh bless you! It’s nerve wracking as it is let alone when you have past negative experiences of it! I’m sure it’ll all come back fine. Will be thinking of you xx

Sorry Im a litte late but congratulations @HopefulllHolly on a fantastic scan yesterday!! Your little girl is beautiful 😍 How are you doing today?

Good luck @DippyDuck19 @summerchild92 for scans today!!

@Edf bless you im really hoping your test results go well I understand how anxious it must be waiting but hope you are ok and have something to take your mind off it for a bit.

My sickness and heartburn are unreal atm! I don't know whether to speak to my midwife or doctor about it? I'm chugging Gaviscon lol but it's not really taking the edge off. I'm not really sure what else they can do tbh? I def had sickness with my DS but this seems to be on another level, I couldn't keep much down yesterday.

Thanks @oliviagrace2307 😊 I’m good thanks! Excited! Feels a lot more real. Going to try and not focus too much on my anxiety for the next 8 weeks now. Unlikely but we shall try!

Oh bless you that’s rough - I think the doctors can give you anti sickness tablets but unless it’s quite severe you might just get told to ride it out. Hope it passes quickly for you! Are you ok besides the sickness?

My viability scan is booked for 25 July 🎉 I'll be 6+5 then. It's so far away!

@oliviagrace2307 if you couldn’t keep much down, definitely speak to your GP - they should give you something. I have been very reluctant to take anything, but literally every doctor (including the hospital consultant) was trying to prescribe it to me. I was told pregnancy sickness medication is largely deemed very safe now (I am taking cyclizine myself, which has taken the edge off) and it’s important you and baby are still hydrated / eating enough.

Thank you for the reassurance you lovely bunch of ladies 💕