Early pregnancy IVF

[AlisonDanuta]

Hi just wanted to ask if anyone is in similar position and tested positive recently.
I'm 5 weeks tomorrow via our 3rd IVF icsi cycle and can't believe it's happening..
I'm pinching myself every day since BFP!
We did try 7 years and i never thought i ever be able to say "I'm pregnant "

My symptoms now are feeling a bit sick and just trying to take things easy.
This wait for first scan seems like it's ages away!

@browneyedgirl626 you are in good hands with your dad being a GP! I'm using google lol

Although my mother in law works at maternity unit!!! So I'll be a celebrity when I go there 🙄 she is good friends with my midwife too!

We have booked a holiday so hoping for my scan to be positive as going 10 days after the scan!
I just think i will look fat and not pregnant around my belly 😅

@AlisonDanuta a holiday is a good idea. At least if it was bad news you can get away and use the time to clear your head. I'm sure it'll be fine though and you can use the holiday to celebrate and start thinking about the future!

Finally got my 12 week scan date, it's on 12th June when I should be 12+3.

Quite scared as my only other pregnancy ended a couple of days before my 12 week scan and I ended up having the scan as more of a safety precaution to check everything had passed.
Given we've had a good scan at 7 and 10 weeks I'm hoping the odds are in our favour this time but definitely don't want to get carried away until we're past that milestone!

We've been thinking about how we'll tell people. Nobody knows we've been going through IVF so it's going to come as a bit of a shock.
DH's parents plaster their entire lives on Facebook so the most annoying part is going to be the argument that comes when we tell them we're not putting anything online and we just want to keep it among close family/friends.

I think a lot of my symptoms are mostly wearing off now. I have slightly more energy and only get a little wave of nausea every so often.

How is everyone else feeling?

I feel like I look fat rather than pregnant too @AlisonDanuta 🙃

@nizo1245 that sounds tricky with the social media stuff, I wouldn't like that either. I'm too much of a worrier to put anything out there in case I have to take it back or answer awkward questions.

I feel so rough every night still, my morning sickness starts from about 5pm and I can barely eat anything from then onwards. It's probably a better way around than morning sickness maybe, but it's still loooong.

I have my NHS appointment this Friday, it looks like it will be a booking appointment and a dating scan in one. I got a text saying it was an obs antenatal appointment so I'm guessing I will be seeing a consultant or a doctor at least. I'm climbing the walls until then, the scanxiety never goes!

Hi everyone. Sorry for not posting for ages, I’ve had a lovely holiday and a chance to take my mind of things. Coming home has been quite an adjustment! I am still really struggling with nausea - it’s so overwhelming in the evenings I can hardly bear it. I almost wish I was being sick to get some temporary relief!

@browneyedgirl626 im sorry to hear you are still suffering, for your sake and for mine as I’m only 9 weeks so looks like I’ve got a while yet.

I feel bad moaning as obviously I’m grateful to be where I am. For a morning last week I felt a bit better, which immediately made me panic about losing symptoms. I was temporary relived when the sickness returned that afternoon 😂 What a rollercoaster!

Hi all
Glad to hear you are all doing well.
@nizo1245 and @AlisonDanuta exciting to hear you have scans coming up.
@LottSE20 weeks 8-9 were the worst nausea wise for me, I felt awful 24/7. Now I'm 11 weeks and it's a lot better, I just feel sick for around 1hr a day so it's definitely easing off.

I had a private NIPT due to my age (39) and it has come back inconclusive and need to give another sample 😵 the website says this is usually nothing to worry about but of course now I am panicking that the baby has a syndrome and that's why they want to retest. We expected the results to be back this week but they can't give me an appt to retake the blood for a few days then it will be another 2 weeks before the results come. it's really worrying me that I will be 14weeks before knowing 😢

@Jupiteer this is another worry as I'm also late 30s! However! I know 3 couples that were told they are having a baby with a syndrome and was born perfectly fine!!!!
This is scary as it can give you false information! Can you imagine..
I'll keep my fingers crossed and hopefully everything will be good!

@Jupiteer gosh poor you, it’s just one thing after another? Although I really don’t think inconclusive means it’s more likely an issue - seems more likely it’s to do with an error in the testing. I was thinking about getting the NIPT too.

im so realised to hear you started to feel better around 11 weeks. Fingers crossed.

@AlisonDanuta three couples is incredible! Was it the NIPT? Accuracy of that test is extremely high so I’m really surprised.

Yes it's made me very anxious. I had planned to tell my family this week thinking the results would be back. I waited as have been scared of miscarriage and my mum has a bad history with pregnancy losses and I know that finding out then subsequently telling her about a loss will bring it all back and upset her.
So now I don't know whether to tell them or wait another few weeks for the results. Although even if normal I know nothing is guaranteed even after 20 weeks!
It's sad as I feel this should be a special and exciting time, never thought I would ever be pregnant so should be happy but all I feel is fear 😒

@LottSE20 3 couples around me in the last decade!
Apparently "Sometimes NIPT gives a high chance result when the fetus does not actually have the condition. If you receive a high chance result for Down's syndrome, there is a 1 in 5 (20%) chance that the result is wrong and your fetus does not have the condition."

I doubt anything can give you 100% confirmation.

@Jupiteer it is so difficult and I agree instead of being happy we worry.my mother in law keeps annoying me as she wants to tell people and we want to eait until we are ready...
We have scan tomorrow.. stressing out...
Hopefully you can repeat your tests asap.
Sending hugs!

Thank you for your kind replies.
I am feeling more positive today. Just keep thinking of all the odds against us at the start of this journey and now the baby is 11 weeks old and so far so good - need to try and focus on that!
I reflected that my fear of telling people about the pregnancy is not going to get better overnight and no waiting for different results will likely change it, I think I will be nervous at each stage. So I have decided to tell my family this weekend after my 12w scan on Friday but before any NT/NIPT results back and just keep remembering the stats are in our favour and what will be will be. I need to stop worrying about the worst outcomes and try to enjoy this miracle time as a normal pregnancy!
Good luck for your scan tomorrow @AlisonDanuta !

Amazing attitude @Jupiteer and you’re totally right it will be what it will be and you should allow yourself the enjoyment too. Wishing you all the positive vibes !! The stats are absolutely in your favour.

My scan is also tomorrow I’ll be 11 weeks 2 days

xxx

Had my scan and I'm 13 weeks tomorrow but they've said I'm 13 + 4 days so no idea what is correct.
Apparently everything looks good 🥺 i cried and couldn't stop...
Blood taken for NIPT...
Very surreal to see baby moving on the screen!
We feel so relieved!

@Vil how did you get on?

@Jupiteer we will also tell our closest friends and family this weekend.. ❤️
However not doing anything on social media for the time being! 🙄

Bit of a weird one for me basically it was too early as I’m only 11+2, we had a scan and saw some new things which was cool but it wasn’t the full scan or any tests as the baby wasn’t quite big enough! So we need to go again next week.

so it was ok but not quite the reassuring full scan we were expecting!!

Glad yours went well @AlisonDanuta you’ve made it !!!!

@Vil at least you've had some confirmation that everything is going well!

Hopefully they will be able to do all measurements next time :)

They've struggle to find the baby properly at first! As my bladder wasn't full enough but she has said after a while that seems to be full now. So managed to see the baby move! ❣️
Pic isn't very clear but you can see it's a baby 🥰 so happy

Ahhh yay so pleased for you!!

Enjoy telling friends and family this weekend those who are.

We're thinking of our situation as a fee extra scan haha and only 6 days to wait until our proper one!!

xx

Glad your scans went well!
I've had mine today and everything looking ok. The baby was asleep with its back facing the screen so no good pictures and difficult to do measurements, didn't manage to see the face. Even when I stood up and jumped up and down it did not wake up or move! Bit disappointed! The sonographer did say the measurements she got seemed to be ok and could see the heartbeat which is reassuring. I'm glad I had a 10w private scan and saw good movements or would be worried at how still the baby was! Obviously not a morning person 🤣 Just waiting for the bloods now.

I had my scan too! I'm measuring at 13 weeks 1 day. It was amazing to see, I feel well cared for at the maternity hospital too. I'm glad all of your scans went well too, hopefully you can enjoy it from now onwards, Im feeling really relieved and that I can't believe we've made it here x

Awww @Jupiteer not a morning baby lol
Shame it was hiding! Must be shy!
Fingers crossed you can see it properly on your next scan with a lovely picture!

@browneyedgirl626 wonderful to hear!
I'm the same - still can't believe we're here.

Seeing all our close family and friends happiness and tears was just amazing! We did some visiting as nothing better than tell in person. It was very emotional and exhausting lol
Few more visits tomorrow as we got overwhelmed! So needed a rest lol

@AlisonDanuta sounds amazing!
We went to visit family and were all set to tell them but when we arrived we were told my brothers wife just had a miscarriage a few days ago 😔 everyone was really sad and it didn't feel right to share the news.
We don't live very near our family and don't want to tell over the phone so looks like it will be another few weeks until we can sort out another visit and tell them then.
At least will have results for the trisomy screen by then 🤷‍♀️

Awww @Jupiteer this is so selfless 😭
Sooo nice of you to care for others!

I just assume we know the most how does this feel when other people have happy news and we're fighting...

Very nice of you! To be fair I feel like no one can take our happiness away..so hopefully you will feel the same after the scan xxx

@Jupiteer sorry to hear that I have sopmething sort of similar with my best friend, she had an early miscarriage also after IVF so whilst she knows about us, I'm not really being too opver excited around her!

Hopefully you will get your moment soon and as Alison said you will be able to empathize!

My 2nd go at the scan is on Thursdsay, we're really excited! Sadly my mum has cancer (disganosed 2 weeks after our positive test) so whilst we are over the moon I'm struggling to be truly happy and focuys on anything other than supporting my family. She should have completed chemo before the baby comes. Sorry for the glum news! Hoping our pregnancy will help my mum fight !

Will update you ladies after Thursdsay, We will be 12 weeks tomorrow xxxxx

Hi all,

Had my 12 week scan today and everything looked great apart from a slight concern around the NT measurement which came out at 3.2mm. The midwife said it might mean the combined results come back as high risk.

Everything else looked fine, measuring 3 days ahead, heart and brain look good and baby was wriggling away but now we're a bit terrified that there might be a chromosomal issue.

She said not to worry and anything below 3.5 is technically normal but also said it would probably be high risk so we're a bit concerned.

Any words of wisdom from anyone?

Hi @nizo1245
Sorry to hear the worry about your scan.
I totally understand. I had my scan on Friday and the hospital called today to say I am high risk for all 3 syndromes 😔 I was expecting a higher risk due to age but didn't expect it to be this bad. My NT measurement was normal range but my Papp-a level is extremely low.
I already had a private NIPT which came back inconclusive and had the blood retaken on Saturday. Waiting now for the results which may take 2 weeks. Dependent on the results we will decide whether to have invasive screening. It's so worrying to get to this point and have extra risks thrown at you.
I am also worried about my papp-a as low levels are associated with all kinds of bad pregnancy outcomes such as miscarriage, pre clampsia, growth restriction and premature babies. And they said mine is looking really bad. I asked if it was due to ivf or my age and they said no it's just bad luck.
I hope you get your results soon. If you do happen to be high risk I think they will call you soon so no news is good news 💜💜💜

@Jupiteer really sorry to hear about the uncertainty. Especially the inconclusive result. It's a long enough wait for every result without needing to redo it.

It's all so stressful, especially after making it through IVF. You'd think you kind of get used to it but I'm not sure you do.

They did say no news is good news which means I'll probably be a nervous wreck every time the phone rings for the next week or so.

We had decided not to tell anyone, including family, for a while anyway. Would love to get past the 20 week scan but it might be a bit obvious by then. We'll hold off for as long as we can though so that if something is wrong we can deal with it in private without an audience.

It's frustrating because the excitement of a relatively positive scan is completely eclipsed by the potential issues.

Really hoping you get some good news from your NIPT results when they come.