Early pregnancy IVF

[AlisonDanuta]

Hi just wanted to ask if anyone is in similar position and tested positive recently.
I'm 5 weeks tomorrow via our 3rd IVF icsi cycle and can't believe it's happening..
I'm pinching myself every day since BFP!
We did try 7 years and i never thought i ever be able to say "I'm pregnant "

My symptoms now are feeling a bit sick and just trying to take things easy.
This wait for first scan seems like it's ages away!

Congratulations @nizo1245! How big was baby? I also had a c section and recovery was really painful but baby is now 2 weeks and I have turned a corner and only taking painkillers once per day.
I would agree feeding has been the most difficult part along with lack of sleep.
My baby has a tongue tie which has been assessed as mild so they said it does not need snipped at this stage, feeding is sore and takes ages but have been given a plan to help in terms of positioning and attachment so will see how it goes over the next few days. We are also giving formula feeds as he is so hungry and my nipples can't cope! Have tried expressing but not getting much out. Hoping feeding starts to get easier as he grows and his mouth becomes bigger.
Thinking of you all! Bet we are all up at 4am every night, maybe we could start a whatsapp chat? x

That’s a nice idea on the WhatsApp group.

Sounds like we’re having a similar experience, except our tongue tie is quite severe meaning that she is having its snipped on Wednesday. We are trying to feed still from the breast, but it’s mostly expressed and formula feeding as my nipples are super sore as well. I’m using nipple shields which have really helped.

xxxxx

@AlisonDanuta I found the balloon induction really painful. Worth it though as it definitely kickstarted things.
I think I'd have died if they told me I could have the epidural when I did. The pain was beyond anything I ever could have imagined.

We had our day 3 weigh in today and had lost just under 12%. We were syringe feeding too at the start because he wouldn't latch. They gave me a nipple shield which has completely turned things around and now I can breast feed with ease. We're on a feeding plan which requires topping that up with feeds from pumping to try and increase his weight asap.

Have you managed to get back above birth weight now?

@Jupiteer baby was just under 10 lbs.

They tried forceps but he wouldn't budge. The forceps left bruising on his head and face though and he's been in pain which I think is why he wouldn't latch properly right away because his nose was really swollen.

I'm struggling a bit with c section recovery at the moment. I think because it wasn't planned I hadn't prepared for it at all.

The process was a bit traumatic and I lost a lot of blood. They couldn't find the bleeding and I was having really bad chest pains and physically shaking uncontrollably due to feeling cold.
Now that I'm home, every time I start to feel cold I get flashbacks to theatre which isn't ideal.

How are you getting on with feeding now?

Also would be totally up for a WhatsApp group.

Oh @nizo1245 I really feel for you with your traumatic birth experience. My caesarian was also difficult (although not as bad as yours), I lost a lot of blood but they did manage to control it. However when it was happening my blood pressure dropped and I felt absolutely terrible similar to as you describe. I also fainted the next day in the hospital when I tried to get out of bed. I am supposed to be taking iron tablets but they make me so constipated I am only managing one per day along with lactulose twice a day.
I hope with some time you feel better about your birth but would definitely recommend speaking to health visitor, my friend had a really hard birth and went to postnatal debrief sessions which helped.
My son also seems sore from the birth, he was pulled out super fast and seems to have a painful neck / shoulder. The health visitor recommended a baby osteopath which is expensive but I think we will book - I'll let you know if it helps.
Breastfeeding is still difficult for me, he is gaining weight now but slowly. I can't get anything out by expressing so he has breast with some formula top ups. I met up with another mother today whose baby is one week older than mine. Her baby slept the whole time and mine was screaming, refusing to breastfeed and was awake and crying for the whole 2hrs of her visit. The newborn phase is very hard!!! Still feel so grateful to have a baby and it still doesn't seem real 💙 but also not finding it easy despite all the gratitude and love.
If you guys want to send me your number via private message I am happy to set up the group x

Oh girls sounds like you've had really hard! I'm so sorry you had to go through this!
I absolutely agree that newborn stage is really hard! Despite the happiness of having a child - there's a hard labour of love behind it, especially at night 🙈🙈🙈

Happy to send you my number @Jupiteer

@Jupiteer @nizo1245

sounds like we are having a very similar experience. I’m trying to breastfeed as much as possible, but she doesn’t ever seem satisfied by the breast so doing a formula top up.

I’m using a hospital grade pump to keep supply up but it’s getting very boring doing that multiple times a day and having to take it to bed et cetera and plug it in

I just want to be able to feed properly, but there is part of me that started to think maybe I should give up and she’s just a formula baby which is of course fine

I know many people whose babies just latched and fed, and they had no dramas, but we just don’t seem to be having that experience.

obviously loving every minute of this, but the anxiety feeling it’s really causing me some challenges to Plus just general recovery from the forceps

Happy to be part of a WhatsApp group if there’s one set up now?

Hi all
Hope things are getting a bit easier for you?
@Vil the endless cycles of pumping / Bf / bottle feeding is an absolute nightmare. I am not pumping as it was so time consuming for very little output, if I do continue to Bf I may pick it back up later. At the minute just taking each day at a time as some days are less painful and some are awful!
I'm really looking forward to baby starting to smile in the next few weeks 💓
@AlisonDanuta thanks for sending your number, nobody else has sent theirs yet but will set up the group once they do... If not I'll text you one on one in the next few days x

@Jupiteer I've sent you a PM with my number for the WhatsApp group.

Starting to feel like I'm having some success with breastfeeding. I've been using a nipple shield but he's really messy with it and feeds for a long time so it doesn't feel very efficient. Trying to remove that and he latches occasionally without it now.

Hope you're all doing well!

It's definitely not an easy journey and probably much harder than I expected, but I also feel so grateful to finally be here after so many years as well. 🥰

I don’t know how to PM but would love to be on the group

Im the same had some success with feeding but it’s slow! Also using shields not sure I’ll come
off anytime soon she’s so savage on my nipples I think to be honest, I might just accept that she is a formula baby and that’s fine!

@Jupiteer could you dm me so I can send my number two as I’m not sure how to do it