IVF sibling round support

[itsmschanandlerbong]

Just wondered if there would be any interest in setting up a support thread for those of us thinking about a sibling round. This could very much be a 'me' issue but I feel a bit awkward sometimes posting in other threads, it's a bit like being stuck between being very lucky and fortunate having had a successful round, but also struggling with the challenges of having to go through it all over again. I've found it difficult to know my place in this community now.

So yeah, is anyone else trying or thinking about trying for their sibling round yet? Ill post a comment with our story.

@Overlyanxious We're lucky that we could do it, but it would mean making compromises on things like holidays.

@beachbum85 They're so determined to grow up aren't they? My DD keeps saying "I'm not 3 mummy. I'm 3 and a half" 😂 My wife is definitely more ready to be done. I'm a bit more uncertain. Doing a lot of soul searching at the moment about how I would feel just embracing life with 2, and all the benefits of that, versus the pull of having a third. Trying to give my heart and head some time to argue it out. Definietly think that all hope then loss is difficult, and I've held onto that possibility of a third for years because of that last embryo, so trying to adjust and see if I would want to fight to have a third or not

Sorry for the typos last night!
'toggler' wasn't a typo though, it's just what my 3yo calls our toddler 🥰

@2mumlife totally! My 3yo even says 'I'm not 3, I'm more than 3 and a half and almost 4!' 😅
I can totally understand the need for time to process it all and see where you land... I've accepted we'll have 2 but it will always be a 'what if' we started trying earlier, we transferred our failed frosty at a different time, etc etc. One thing I've seen is that, regardless of infertility, all my friends who had to stop at any number of children because of circumstances (medical, financial, etc) rather than choice, keep feeling that pull for another so maybe it's instinctive? 🤷🏻‍♀️

@beachbum85 I definitely think a big part is instinctive. One of my friends has 3 kids, and I had a chat with her awhile back about what 3 was really like, and we've had a chat since the failed transfer. And she did say even though she is 'done' on many levels, if her period is a day late or anything and she thinks she even could possible be pregnant that it sets off all the instinct again. I love that your 3yr old calls them a toggler 😂